Wednesday, 24 February 2016

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TRUE LOVE AND INFATUATION...

                
                            


“True love is taking the risk that it won’t be a happily ever after. True love is joining hands with the man who loves you for who you are and saying I am not afraid to believe in you”.-Cara Lockwood.        

One of the greatest mistakes two people make is to confuse infatuation with true love. 

Infatuation is the strong chemistry that brings a male and female together. 

True love is not a s*xual feeling that suddenly demands to be satisfied or a romantic desire to be with one person. 

There is a common saying that love is blind but i don't think so. 

Infatuation is blind; love is all-seeing and accepting. Love is seeing all the flaws and blemishes and accepting them. 

Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerism, and working around them. 

Love is recognizing all the fears and insecurities, and knowing your role is to comfort and support. Love is putting another person’s happiness before your own.

Love is working through all the challenges and obstacles. Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect. Love is strong and it strengthens because it is real.     

According to a marriage therapist, Dr. Pat Love, infatuation is merely the earliest stage of love. It shouldn’t be confused with true love. 

True love begins after the post-rapture stage of infatuation, when the novelty of the new relationship wears off and familiarity sets in. 

It happens when you move from "butterflies in the stomach" stage to real commitment and attachment. 

Some couples become confused about this stage, assuming falsely that they chose the wrong mate.    



In fact, this is the point of a relationship when the reality of true love can set in. This is a common process in most relationships. 

Two people come together through the normal chemistry of the body and from that point on, the couple begins to know each other and work out their differences without hurting each other. 

They know they have true love and can survive together no matter what they face. True love comes from wisdom, experience and outgoing concern for the other person. 

It comes when a husband and wife settle into a shared relationship where each one gives themselves to their partner and their marriage.                                  

It amazes me when a new acquaintance suddenly declares his undying love for me without first knowing me properly. 

Seriously, I've had several experiences with guys who I just meet and the next thing they do is to chat me and say 'Baby, I love you'. 

It really baffles me and I just wonder if they really know the meaning of the word "love".    

At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. It is far more than a fleeting emotion as portrayed on television, magazines and romance novels. 

Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed lasts forever and that is what defines true love. 

It is a decision to be committed through ups and downs, the good, the bad and the ugly.                                                         

Love isn't always going to be perfect. It isn't a fairy tale that ends with happily ever after. 

In love, you have to overcome obstacles, face challenges and fight to be together no matter what it takes. You have to hold on and never let go no matter what. 

If you've ever loved someone before or you're still in love with a certain someone, you're the bravest person on earth. Only the brave risk their lives by falling in love! 

Now, you know the difference; be sure of which before saying "I love you" to a girl.



Sunday, 21 February 2016

WHY AM I BLOGGING?

    

                                              

 Hello Friends, 


I hope you're all having a swell time. Um... Today, I just want to define my vision for my blog; what I want to achieve and what I expect from my readers. I'm asking myself why I started this blog in the first place and what I hope to gain from it. People have different goals and expectations when opening a blog. 

Some of these goals could be; gaining popularity, earning an income, developing an interest into a hobby or just fun. Before I created this blog, I had a vision of what I wanted to achieve with it. I wanted to teach people all about love, relationships and intimacy through my posts. I didn't want an ordinary blog that didn't communicate to people.

Tuesday, 16 February 2016

VALENTINE'S DAY AFTERMATH

   


Valentine is over but the aftermath is just beginning. I wonder how everyone spent his/her day. Did you go out or just stayed in like i did with my laptop? If you did go out and have some fun, I'm happy for you.

What gifts did you receive? Perfume, flowers, chocolate, jewelry or what??? Chances are, if you received a gift for Valentine’s Day, you received flowers. After all, statistics for 2011 showed that 40 percent of all purchases were for fresh flowers. 

Lemme guess... You received some blossoms and they brought smiles to your face for many days after their arrival. But for a few recipients, the only emotion they received from their boo was disappointment.

As for me, I got only a few text messages and some calls. It was so unexpected!! You should have seen me bragging to my friends about the various gifts I was going to receive. 

I even dreamt of Catfish pepper soup and cold Smirnoff ice on Valentine's eve!! The worst was my daydream about a proposal in a beautiful garden with lots of flowers... 

I imagined my boo picking me up in his new tear rubber Range Rover and taking me to one porsh restaurant. I ordered one hot plate of Nkwobi and chilled Guiness.... Omo see enjoyment!!! 

After eating and drinking till we were full, boo just stood up and shifted his chair aside then he went down on one knee and was about to ask" Baby, will you.... I didn't even wait for him to complete the sentence; I just started shouting "Yes". 

The next thing I felt was one hot slap from my roommate... I slept off while watching one boring movie like that. Chai!!! It is well!!

Anyway, I know some of you had fun, others received gifts and some got proposals... I just pray that all the single ladies will remain the same 9 months from now ... 

Brothers, if bae calls you in a month's time with news about a bundle of joy on the way, please don't run oohh. Accept it in good faith!! In every situation, let us remember to give thanks to God!! 

#IamAliveAndGrateful# #ValentineIsOver#


Sunday, 14 February 2016

THE EASIEST WAY TO SOLVE RELATIONSHIP ISSUES

                                 




Every relationship encounters problems from time to time and our ability to solve these problems is what breaks or makes the relationship. 

Problems we encounter could be finance-related, s*x-related or family-related.  

Some people run away the moment they are faced with challenges in a relationship; they just don't know how to handle the chaos. 

Running away doesn't solve anything because the moment you enter into another relationship, you will encounter the same difficulties. 

It all boils down to understanding your partner and knowing his or her love language.

Most times women throw tantrums simply because they want attention or they were offended by their partners. 

Sometimes, a woman could get upset because you didn't do something right or you didn't do the right thing at the right time. 

A woman would expect her man to understand her as though he reads her mind and even predict her moods; a man is supposed to know when he does something wrong or offensive. 

On the other hand, a man would get upset if he is refused food or s*x or if he is broke. He needs to feel like a man and not having s*x could be really frustrating for him. 

A man also finds fulfillment in providing for his lover or wife; it makes him feel useful and wanted. 

Have you ever wondered if there was something you could do to help your partner out of a bad mood swing or depression? 

Or have you offended him or her and you wished for a particular way to apologise? 

Welcome to this awesome post where I will be sharing something special with you today!! 

Every relationship issue could be solved with this very easy secret; using the love language. Haven't you heard about the five languages of love?

Dr Gary Chapman, the author of The Five Love Languages, writes a
bout the importance of being able to express love to your spouse in a way that your spouse can understand. 

He calls this type of communication using the five languages of love. 

Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr Chapman says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. 

So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."

The best way to fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love l
anguage.

Each of us has a primary love language. Usually, couples don't have the same love language. 

The five love languages are:


1). Words of Affirmation:

This involves using words to communicate to your partner. It is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted or how appreciative you are for something your spouse did. 

When you use nice words to compliment your spouse, he or she will develop a better self-image and confidence.

2). Quality Time:

This entails spending enough time with your spouse. It doesn't necessarily mean going to the movies or shopping but those little precious moments you spend together at home. 

Some couples believe that being together, doing things together and focusing on one another is the best way to show love. 

If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention. 

Some people prefer staying indoors and talking to someone than going out to a noisy and crowd place.

3). Acts of Service:

Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. 

These acts of service like cleaning, cooking, planting a garden, or even dropping the kids off at school need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love. 

A lot of guys feel chores are meant for only the ladies but when you go out of your way to help a lady once in a while, it will be greatly appreciated.

4). Physical Touch:

The essence of touching in a relationship must not be undermined. Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands or a peck on the cheek or forehead will fulfil this need. 

Physical touch helps to create deep bonds between two lovers and equally ease off stress. Most times, s*x is just what the other person needs to feel loved and wanted.

5). Gifts:

It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. 

Spouses who forget a birthday/ anniversary and never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys receiving gifts will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved. 

Some people see gifts as a way of showing that you love them.

Many people have no clue of what they are doing in a relationship an
d as a result, they end up with one problem or the other with their partner. 

I believe a lot of problems would be solved and even avoided if only we know how to use the languages of love on our partners. 

I encourage you to learn your spouse's language today and begin to use it to communicate with him or her. You will not regret it.




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