Saturday, December 31, 2016


We've come to the end of another awesome year. Hurray!!! Personally, I'm grateful to God for the gift of life. Last year wasn't an easy one for all of us.

A lot of things happened; some beautiful, others terrible. In so many ways, our relationships were tested and even threatened by so many unforseen forces.

These forces were mostly damaging habits that we developed or picked up along the way. I call them "Relationship damaging habits" because they destroy our relationships unknowingly.

Most people don't know they have them until it destroys their relationship. It is possible that some relationships were torn apart this year by these damaging habits while others survived the tornadoes.

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Please Help! My Husband Is Not Supportive Enough During Pregnancy

My husband of 2 years has suddenly stopped caring about me. I remember when we first got married, he showered me with so much love and attention.

I'm two months pregnant with our first child and I need him the most but he seems so nonchalant, distant and disconnected. Sometimes, I feel he doesn't love me anymore or maybe, he never loved me anymore. 

Sincerely, I can't say he is not caring at all but he rarely asks how I'm feeling and when he does he just asks to ask(for peace sake, I guess).

I vomit almost every night (he is usually asleep, of course). When he wakes up, he gets mad that I didn't make breakfast, even though I had given him lunch for work the previous day. I couldn't do anything in the morning since my nausea was really bad.

This is just one of the many instances. He doesn't help me around the house, he  doesn't help wash the dishes, he doesn't care about how I'm feeling and refuses to do anything even something as little as making a sandwich, since he is always used to it being "my job".

How do I explain to him and make him understand what I'm really feeling. He thinks I'm exaggerating, while I can't eat or barely cook but still have to do it since he won't even bother. I feel like I'm going through this pregnancy alone!

What Do I Do?

Wednesday, December 21, 2016


2016 slowly came to an end and you've found yourself in another year which symbolizes new beginnings and new dreams.

I guess you're beginning to reflect on every thing that happened to you last year; your goals and accomplishments are being questioned.

You are probably debating within you about the goals you set last year and the ones you were able to achieve and how far you went in your career or business.

Were you successful last year? Did you achieve everything you wanted to achieve? Did your wealth grow beyond your expectations?

Most people think that success is mainly measured by the amount of wealth you have. I totally disagree.

Success is measured in different ways and wealth is not necessarily one of the factors of measurement. Are you a successful person? Successful people...

Friday, December 16, 2016


Christmas is a time when we celebrate with friends and family. During this season, food is abundant and gifts are exchanged amidst laughter and joy. Would it be like that this year?

Earlier this year, the country went into recession and it was difficult surviving. And then came MMM and other money-making schemes to put smiles on our faces. Gradually, we picked up our lives and things seemed great for a while.

Monday, December 12, 2016


Christmas is almost here! Yeaaahh!!! Can you feel it? Ahhh!! It's magical right? I'm counting down already; I have so many fun things on my to-do list for xmas . I'm going to share them with you. Are you looking for something fun and exciting to do during Xmas? Check out my to-do list below...

Friday, December 09, 2016

Naughty Friday: Are You Making Love Or Having S£x?

What is lovemaking? What is having s£x? Is there really any difference between the two terms? You are about to find out!

Some people say that making love is just another term for having s£x. Unfortunately, they've been wrong! I guess it's because the both terms have been used interchangeably.

What's The Difference?

Well, making love involves having s£x but having s£x isn't necessarily making love. Having s£x is more mechanical than making love. It often involves a desire for physical contact with someone else's body.

Caressing, touching, kissing, smooching, fondling, sucking, biting and of course intercourse are mere fulfilments of a desire for physical contact. It is just S£X. Plain and unemotional s£x.

There are no strings attached especially for the guys. For most people, they have s£x to get rid of the physical urges they have. That's why it is so easy for them to just go out, pick a total stranger and head straight home for the night to have S£X! Just S£X- no emotions are involved.

The next morning, the stranger is gone and the circle continues again!

On the other hand, Lovemaking takes place between two lovers; two souls who have taken time to know each other, to understand each other, to get attached emotionally and to support each other.

Lovemaking involves a deep connection of two bodies. It is filled with emotions, feelings and affection. It is intense and sensual...

According to Aristotle 'Lovemaking is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Wow! That is sooo deep!

In my opinion, Lovemaking is very different from having s£x because it involves a lot of trust and commitment.

I know guys are scared of the word "commitment" but the truth is "s£x is easy, very easy that even animals do it".

Lovemaking, on the other hand, involves a deep connection and opening up with another human being. It is more than just being naked; it is being bare and vulnerable!

Love making is all about your lover's mind, body and soul; the entire being is involved! It is an expression of love; it is a desire to communicate the love you have for each other. It is mutual and beneficial!

If you can easily go out, take a complete stranger to bed for the night, you're just having s£x!

But if you've taken your time to get know someone and probably have feelings for this person or you've become emotionally involved with this person, then you're definitely making LOVE!

Now, you know the difference! Have you been making love or just having s£x?

Wednesday, December 07, 2016


A young man was courting a sister for a while and they were seriously preparing for marriage.

At the beginning of their courtship, he asked her on several occasions if she had any secrets he should know about but she always said "NO".

He was strongly against premarital s£x so he never touched her. She tried so many times to seduce him into having s£x with her but she never succeeded.

Even after their traditional marriage, he refused sleeping with her. She kept insisting that they were traditionally married but he remained adamant.

A week before their white wedding they went for some tests as instructed by the church. Sadly, the girl was HIV positive!

She never told him about it while they were courting! He really loves her but he is very confused!

They've invited a lot of people and they are almost done with the wedding preparations.

Guys, what would you do if you were in his shoes? 
What would you do if you find out your BRIDE-TO-BE is HIV positive a few days to your wedding?

Friday, December 02, 2016

Naughty Friday: The 10 Commandments Of Giving A Blow Job

It's Friday again! Yeahhh! If you've been following this blog for a while, I'm sure you know how dirty and nasty it gets in here on Fridays.

Today is actually for the ladies but it will benefit the guys more in a very good way **winks*

Ladies, you might need a writing pad for this one! Whether you're a PRO at giving bl0w jobs or you're still a total novice, this Friday is dedicated to you.

If you want your man to remain loyal and faithful to you, then you have to learn how to give him a mindblowing bl0wjob at least once a day. Don't shout oh! It's a daily ritual that has to be enjoyed by the both parties involved.


1. Thou Shall Not Use Teeth:

Ladies, I know the d*ck looks fleshy like chocolate but please don't bite it! Open your mouth wide like when you want to lick a lollipop and take the d*ck slowly in your mouth.

You may love to playfully nibble on it from time to time but don't bite too hard. A little nibble can make a bl0wjob extremely lovely but the be sure your man feels comfortable with the idea.

2. Thou Shall Use Plenty Of Saliva:

Lubrication is the key to giving a wonderful bl0wjob! No man likes it dry and rough; they all like it wet and sloppy.

The wetter the better- use plenty of saliva while sucking that chocolate stick. Using plenty of spit will help your mouth slide all the way down his candy and back up. Your man will be on cloud 7!

3. Be Generous With Thy Tongue:

I've already given you a quick description on how  to use your tongue instead of your teeth. Just suck it like a Lollipop. Run your wet tongue along every inch of his length as you suck the hell out of him!

4. Thou Must Make Love To The Candy:

Oh Yes! Make love to that Candy stick, girl. Show it sooo much love and pour all your sugar on it. Don't just suck that it, make sweet tender love to it.

5. Twirl That Head with thy Tongue:

As you send your man gradually to cloud 9, don't be stiff! Move your head in different directions as you continue to suck him. Twirl your tongue around him gently. Be flexible.

6. The Tip Is Your Friend, Focus On It:

While you're sliding your tongue up and down his shaft, don't forget the tip! Start slowly by teasing the tip with your wet tongue.

After licking the shaft for a few minutes, give some attention to the tip; suck it hard briefly then continue sliding your tongue or lips up and down. He's going to go crazy with pleasure!

7. Thou Shouldst Moan Deeply While Sucking The Lollipop:

Hmmm. If you know what your s£xy moans do to your man, I'm sure you will do it every single minute of the day. While you're sucking him feverishly like you can't get enough of him, moan deeply in your throat. It's going to bring him over the edge faster!

8. Make Eye Contact while sucking:

There is nothing s£xier than you looking passionately at your partner while you give him immense pleasure. When you're sliding your mouth up and down his joystick, maintain eye contact with him! Look deeply into his eyes as you twirl your tongue along his hard shaft.

9. Don't Forget The Balls:

The twins deserve your attention too. Don't abandon them while you're busy; try to carry them all along. Play with the balls by squeezing lightly, sucking, licking and teasing them! Let them join in the fun too!

10. Thou Must Swallow The Delicious Cum:

Hmmm. I know some girls will squeeze their face when they read this one. Just note that a blowjob is not complete if you let the cum pour out; you have to swallow it. Don't waste any of the hot cum, girl. Swallow every last drop! I heard it's proteinous by the way. **smiles**


Some girls feel that they always have to be at the receiving end in a relationship no matter what.

Whether the relationship is based on money, love or whatever, they always expect to receive something. They only prefer to take from their men but they never give back even once. 

I've met women who strongly object to showing care for their men in any way.

They adamantly refuse to spend money on their men even in the form of gifts but they expect the men to lavish them with love, attention and money.

Sounds selfish right? 

Well, I'm not against their views. They have every right to think and behave the way they want. But all I'm saying is that "Every man deserves his woman's love and attention.

They try to give everything to makes us happy but how many of us remember to give back once in a while?

Who said guys are the only ones who should care for their partners? What's wrong with a Lady showing her man how deeply she cares for him?

If you've been thinking of pouring your emotions out into a glass to make a "love shake" for your man to drink just to show him the depth of your love, then you must read this.



Some women feel men are the only ones who should express their feelings for them. They expect their man to tell them every day how much he loves them and how high he could climb just to make them happy. If you want your man to feel loved, you have to express your feelings too. 

Tell him how you feel about him; whisper those soft warm magical words "I LOVE YOU"  into his ears and watch the indescribable expression on his face. He is definitely going to feel loved, special and even confident if you use the magic words often.


Shy or reserved people always avoid public displays of affection. If your partner likes the idea of flirting openly, I think you need to indulge in it once in a while. You know the kind of flirting I'm suggesting doesn't mean having s*x on a stage. LOL. 

If you want to try out flirting in public, try holding his hand or wrapping your hand around his waist when you go out together. It's sure going to make him feel special!


Create time for your man; give him some of your attention. It's absurd to give him all of your attention but giving him a part of it isn't going to crash your business! As you go about your daily business, don't forget to check in on him daily. 

A little "Hi love" message will make his day and please stop making excuses for refusing to go out during the weekends. We all get tired and stressed up but somehow, we need to find time to release stress and have fun.

Put a smile on your man's face by either taking him to the cinema or somewhere fun. Surprise him!


Although women literally thrive on compliments men enjoy them too. If you haven't been showering your man with compliments, you need to seriously invest in that. Tell him how s*xy he is. Tell him how handsome he is. 

Remind him of why you fell in love with him; tell him how happy he makes you feel and how lucky you are to have such a wonderful man in your life.  You are going to see awesome results after you try this!


Even though you are not the type of lady who gets jealous of her man, just pretend to be jealous once in a while. Use comments like " You look so handsome today, I hope one girl won't snatch you away from me?" That's just an example. You can throw any jealous tantrums just to make him feel special and wanted.


Some ladies never call their spouses unless there is an emergency or they need a favour. That is so wrong! Call him without a reason; just call or text him to ask about work or his day. Even if you leave in the same house, call him when he is at the office or somewhere else. 

Don't just wait for him to come back to pour all your requests on him. Call him or text him during the day just to check up on him. Send him a random text in the middle of the day just to say "I LOVE YOU" or "I MISS YOU".  It would certainly make his day.


I didn't say "Have S*x" with him. I specifically chose "Make Love To Him" because it is a deep activity that involves emotions. It is more than just lying down and receiving; you have to give back too! 

You have to be physically and emotionally involved; it's not about how many rounds you can go or about how many positions you can change. It's about connecting with your partner and showing him how much love you have in your heart for him.


Whether it's your man's birthday or not, do something special for him. It doesn't have to be a big thing; anything small and thoughtful could mean a lot to him. Buy him something special without a reason! 

Surprise him one day by preparing his favourite meal, or taking him to dinner, or buying tickets to a movie or renting his favourite movie. Do something nice you don't do regularly. Be romantic! His response is going to be mind-blowing!


Most girls feel it is a man's duty to take care of a lady. So they never appreciate anything a man does for them because they feel they are entitled to it. If a man goes out of his way to make you happy either by buying you things or showing you care, show gratitude. 

Remember to thank him for his efforts before you start thinking of the next request he needs to attend to. Saying "Thank You" is an incredible way to make your man feel loved.


From time to time, show genuine interest in his work. I'm not asking you to poke nose in his business but be interested in what he is investing his time, money and energy in. 

Support him in any way you can; financially, emotionally, spiritually etc. If he has issues at work and wants to discuss it with you, listen to him and offer solutions to the problem.

A lot of people don't understand what real romance is all about you. Romance involves much more than just buying flowers, jewellery and perfume. 

There are many other incredible ways to make your man feel loved. I can't list them all here but you know your man. You know what he likes and what he dislikes. 

If you know his love language, use it. Try to do more of what he likes and avoid what he doesn't like. The truly romantic things are those little thoughtful things we do to show how much we care.

Real romance isn't about buying; it's about giving!

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