Wednesday, May 31, 2017

How I Suffered And Survived Domestic Violence



My name is Alacia Hightower and I am a survivor of Child Abuse that led to Domestic Violence and S£xual Abuse as an adult.

At a very young age, I experienced child abuse at the hands of my father who was a Vietnam War Veteran. Not only did I experience the abuse, I also was a witness to the Domestic Violence that my mother experienced.

Saturday, May 27, 2017

How To Overcome S£x Addiction In 6 Simple Steps




Last week, I wrote on 12 Signs You Are Dating A S£x Addict. If you've not had the chance to read that post, please do so before reading this one.

In my previous post, I listed various signs that a s£x addict may portray. If you find out you or your partner is a s£x addict, what should you do about it?

Friday, May 19, 2017

12 Tell-tale Signs You Are Dating A S£x Addict




Today is Awareness day, no naughty post today guys. Let's get to know our $exual selves more.


Are you a $ex addict? Has the thought ever crossed your mind or has your partner ever mentioned it to you and you waved it off? 


Or maybe you are dating a s£x addict and you are not aware of it. Okay, maybe you are a little bit aware but you are not sure.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone In 8 Simple Steps

   

     


A few days ago I wrote a post on ''6 Undeniable Signs You Are In The Friend Zone" and I listed a few signs that could show you whether you are really in the friend zone or not. 

If you've confirmed that you are, I'm sorry if you feel hurt by that discovery but not to worry, I think I can help you get out of the mess. 

Monday, May 15, 2017

6 Undeniable Signs You Are In The Friend Zone

   
     

My long time friend has a best friend who happens to be a girl he is madly in love with but he can't tell her that he loves her because he is afraid of ruining the friendship they share.

So, he is just playing along and being the best friend she could ever have while dying in silence. Well, I know he is not the only one with this problem.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Should You Maintain Contact With Your Ex?




















            
      
On Valentine's Day, I received a call from my ex. He just wanted to check up on me and ask how I was enjoying my Val. 

A part of me knew he just wanted to find out if I was celebrating it alone or with someone special. 

Or maybe I just wanted him to think that. Maybe it would be consoling if I thought that he still cared about me. 

Friday, May 12, 2017

Q&A Friday: If You Could Be Stranded On An Island With One Person, Who Would It Be?





Just imagine you are traveling by ship to a faraway distance and all of a sudden the ship capsizes in the middle of nowhere. 

By sheer luck and divine intervention, you and one other person survive. 

When you look around you, the only helpful things you see are an emergency boat, a first aid box, bottles of water and some food. 

Saturday, May 06, 2017

8 Sure Ways To Keep A Long Distance Relationship Alive


  
Hi guys, if you've been following my blog for a while now, I want to use this medium to appreciate you for taking out time to read my posts. 

I know you're all busy with a lot of stuff but somehow you find the time to visit my blog. I really appreciate your efforts. 

Today, I would like to take a look at a recurring issue in relationships; long distance. 


In one of my old posts titled "My first Love", I wrote about my bitter sweet experience with my first boyfriend ever. 


While we were still together in school, our love was great and we seemed inseparable but the moment my boo graduated, things turned sour and we had to go our separate ways. 


Back then, I didn't think of any reason or cause for our break up; I just concluded that maybe we just drifted apart but now that I think of it, I blame our break up on long distance. 


Why? After my boo graduated, our communication level decreased drastically and gradually we stopped keeping in touch with each other. 


Of course, the relationship would have been easier to maintain if we were in the same place at the same time but the distance just drove us apart. 


It was like a wall between us and we couldn't see each other as frequent as we wanted to. It became frustrating and challenging just to remain in touch.


Are you currently in love with someone who lives or works in another city? 


Are you battling with communication issues?


Are you tired of the relationship and want to call it quits? 


If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this post is for you.


WHAT DOES LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP MEAN?


It is a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis. 
Partners in this type of relationship face geographic separation and lack of face-to-face contact. They seem isolated from each other. 

Being in a long distance relationship leaves you cranky, lonely and celibate. Yeah, because of your attachment to your love, it won't be reasonable to go around sleeping with other people. 


Long distance doesn't give you an excuse to cheat on your partner; instead it teaches you patience, trust, discipline and self control. 
Now, that you've started the long distance journey, it may seem endless and stressful. 

HOW DO YOU SURVIVE IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?


I used to be in a long distance relationship myself and it wasn't all fun. There were days when I felt like calling it quits and finding someone closer. 


But then I realised, it's not just about someone closer but someone you have good history with. 
It has to be someone who knows how to make you smile after a stressful day right? It should be someone who understands you a lot. 

Yes! True love has become difficult to find these days; almost all the guys who chase after you have only s£x in their minds. 


They don't give a damn about who you are or what makes you happy.  All they care about is what they can get from you and move on to another hitch. They are just plain selfish in their approach. 



So, if you’ve decided to make it work with your sweetie; a lot of hard work, communication, patience, trust and self control are needed from both of you.


Since we don't know what our partners are up to most of the time, we need to just to let them go and trust them completely at the same time. 
It's quite tricky at first but when you learn to treat your partner with absolute trust, it pays in the long run. 

You can also try out new hobbies in order to keep out the loneliness and boredom when you're not around your love. 
Getting busy with other activities helps you to be independent instead of being emotionally clingy on another person. 


HOW DO YOU KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE?


You could spend some days being so busy that you forget to keep in touch with your boo and gradually the love fades and you drift apart. 

What do you do if you notice you and your partner are drifting apart?

1. Plan visits in advance: 


Instead of waiting for fate to bring you together again, it is more reasonable to plan frequent visits with your partner.

This keeps the anticipation growing. 

It makes you look forward to the special moments you would spend with your sweetie. My bf and I used to visit each other every three months and it worked like magic for us. 


2. Find things to do together: 


Even though you're apart, you can both find things to do together at the same time. Sounds crazy right? You could watch a movie or a TV show at the same time and discuss the details on phone during or after the activity. 


Others activities you could do together include playing games at the same time, reading a novel within the same duration etc. Find what works for you and keep doing it.

3. Talk to your partner frequently: 


I cannot overemphasise the need for communication in any relationship. Whether you're together or apart, talking to your love frequently, creates a special bond between the both of you. 


The more you talk, the more you learn new things about your partner and the more you bond with each other.

4. Send him/her presents occasionally: 


During special occasions like birthdays, Valentine’s Day or even Christmas, you could make an effort to send a present across to your sweetheart. I'm sure it would be appreciated no matter how small. Little gifts mean a lot too.


5. Write letters to him/her: 


Letters have slowly become a thing of the past in some societies because of all the gadgets we now possess. But, I know of a few people who still use letters as a means of communication. Letters leave an everlasting impression on the heart. It reminds you of how caring and thoughtful your partner is.


6. Try regular video chats: 


For the gadget owners who are either too busy or too lazy to write letters or even text messages, video chat is your holy grail. 

When you have a video chat with your sweetie, you see his/her face across the screen and it makes you feel that he or she is presently with you. It keeps the love alive and gives you hope to continue dreaming.

7. Try s£xting each other: 


S£xting increases the intimacy that has been lost via distance in a relationship. When you send your lover intimate text messages, it leaves him or her yearning for you. It also increases your anticipation to see each other again. 


8. Be realistic: 


Don't put too much pressure on yourself or your sweetie because you want the relationship to work. Sometimes, a little breathing space is all we need. 
Giving each other a little space from time to time, could actually bring you closer. 


After trying so hard to maintain a long distance relationship and it doesn't seem to work, maybe it's time to let go and focus on yourself. 


It could simply mean that you placed too much expectations on your partner and neglected your own deficiencies. Just be yourself at all times. The heart always knows what it wants.

These are but a few ways you and your sweetie can keep the love alive while in a long distance relationship. 
I've personally made use of almost everything on the list and it helped my relationship a lot.

What other ways do you keep your long distance relationship alive?

Thursday, May 04, 2017

10 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy





It is so easy these days to hear people say “I’m in a relationship” even when it is an abusive or unhealthy one. 

I guess some people just like the status of being in a relationship; they prefer being unhappy in a bad relationship to being single and happy. 

Wednesday, May 03, 2017

How Long Should Dating/Courtship Last?




Last weekend, I was discussing with a group of friends over a bottle of red wine and the topic of the day was dating/courtship. 

Two people seated 
on another table were eavesdropping and before long they shifted closer to our table. Who doesn't like an interesting topic? 

Monday, May 01, 2017

9 Reasons Why Communication Is Important In A Relationship







A lot of people are in relationships today; some are planned and others aren't. Some people find themselves in relationships mainly because of boredom, loneliness or just fate.

Sometimes, you enter into a relationship that you didn't expect to grow so strong and along the line, you do terrible things behind the other person's back.