Friday, 8 September 2017

10 Simple Ways To Boost Your Confidence




I was at the swimming pool last weekend and a beautiful sight caught my eye.

A father stood beside the pool with his little girl pool and he asked her to jump into the pool; he promised to catch her when she jumps.

Immediately, she heard that, she fearlessly jumped into the pool. Her father caught her of course.



I was awed at her confidence and trust in her father. Some adults don't have even half of the confidence that little girl has.

When we encounter problems, the first course of action is "fear" because we feel we've lost control. We panic at the smallest obstacles that come our way.

Fear is a dangerous virus that enters the mind slowly and paralyses the whole body. Just like a flu, it invades the body and destroys it without obvious symptoms.

Fear is the major cause of confidence deficiency. Sometimes, we are afraid of falling in love because we don't want to be hurt again.

Other times, we are scared to trust someone because we don't want to be vulnerable.

You are so afraid to hurt someone that you end up trying to please everyone you meet and you end up being controlled by others.

You even give up on yourself and your dreams because you're trying to live someone else's dream.

Most unhappy people are individuals who have let fear become the boss of their life; it controls them.

It really breaks my heart when I see people especially ladies living in fear, because without confidence, you can never know the joy of living.

Unfortunately, when we try to be something we are not just to please another person, we remain in the shadows.

Our true selves never really come out because we hide in that dark cool corner called "comfort zone".

The truth is as long as you are in your comfort zone, you won't be able to reach amazing heights; you won't even accomplish great things.

Have you allowed fear to prevent you from doing what you love?

Do you want to reach great heights?

Do you want to accomplish great things?

Do you want people to know the real you?

Do you want to be able to speak up your mind?

If you answered " yes" to most of the questions, you need to do something urgently.

Are you suffering from confidence deficiency? These few tips will help you overcome it in no time. It is never too late to begin your journey to happiness and self- confidence.




1. Learn To Be Different:


For you to become bold and confident, you need to be different from the rest of the crowd. A lot of people don't know who they are; they are lost in the crowd.

They are swayed in every direction because they don't know what they want. They are often very negative, doubtful, fearful and indecisive.

The first step to being confident is accepting the fact that you are not like everyone else. You are unique. You are different. Believe it.

Be different; establish your own value system, have your own opinion, stick with it but don't force it on others.

Think outside the box! Carve your own path; stop following others. Stop pretending to be what you are not; know yourself and love yourself.

Ask yourself "Who Am I? What do I want? What Am I doing here?"


2. Love Yourself:


You are not a size. You are not a weight. You are not a colour. You are YOU. Love your beautiful self! If someone says they hate something about you, tell them you love it that way.

Be confident in your own skin. If you don't know your aura and share it with others, no one will notice it. Be radiant!

Every morning, when you wake up, look into the mirror and remind yourself of how beautiful and special you are! Love yourself deeply!

3. Believe You Can Do Anything:


Many people are not confident because they don't believe in themselves. They have talents but they don't believe they can put it to work and succeed.

It is easier for them to just believe what others are saying about them. Even when they nurture positive thoughts about themselves, they allow other people's negativity to blow them out of focus.

My dear friend, you are awesome. You are beautiful. You are talented. You can do anything you choose to do. "Just believe. You can do it ".

4. Don't Be Afraid To Chase Your Dreams:


Everyone dreams from time to time but not everyone has the courage or confidence to chase their dreams.

Why? It is a lot easier to just hide in the shadows, bury your dreams, live an average life and please as many people as we can.

Right? But then, you would just be an unhappy, indecisive and fearful person. You would just pass through life like a phantom without risking much and gaining much.

Do you really want to live that kind of life? I don't think so!!! We all want a much better life but we are too afraid, lazy and double-minded to do anything extraordinary.

Get up pal!!! It's time to chase those really big dreams. Yes, that one you swept under the carpet a long time ago. Bring it out, wipe the dust away and set things in motion. You can do it!!!

5. Be Inspired & Self-motivated:


If you want to be confident and successful, don't wait for anyone to tell you what to do. Not even your parents or your friends.

Know what you want and go after it with fervor. Learn to be inspired by everything and don't be slowed down by anything.

As you go through life, find things that mean something to you. Find a reason to smile in every obstacle you face.

Make yourself happy. Don't wait for anyone to spray your their happiness; get a formula and create your own!

6. Be Independent:


Some people want to be confident and successful but they are still sitting on the fence. They would love to be financially and emotionally secure, but they are still tied down by others.

You cannot be confident when you still look up to someone else to provide everything for you.

There is nothing more satisfying than stepping out on your own, finding something reasonable to do and succeeding at it.

Be independent; cut all the ropes connecting you to your helpers; become a helper too. Stop being scared of failure; be bold enough to take risks!!!




7. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others:


You are YOU! There is no other person like you I'm this world. You have special abilities!!! You can do what ever you put your heart into.

Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop comparing your work, relationship and marriage to that of your neighbour or colleague.

You have a very different mission to accomplish. If they have a helicopter and you have a bike, ride that bike with excitement and be the best bike rider ever.

Stop comparing yourself to others; you can never be them and they can never be YOU!

8. Be Determined to succeed:


When you find something you are passionate about; pour your heart into it. Don't do it halfheartedly. Be determined to succeed at what ever you are doing now.

Without determination and consistency, you may never succeed at anything. If you really want something to work,  put your all into it.

Be determined to make it work. When you fall, get up, learn from your mistakes and keep going. Don't even think of giving!

No one said success was easy to achieve. If it was, we would all be successful and filthy rich. Stay focused!

9. Remain Positive at all times:


We all face challenges in our day to day activities; some of these challenges could be financial, emotional, spiritual, psychologic or otherwise.

We also make many mistakes everyday but making mistakes is not the end of the world. We can recover from mistakes by simply changing our perspective.

When you want to do something, don't dwell on all the things that could wrong. Be positive that everything will work out for good. Think about all the exciting things that can happen.

Your attitude is all you need to make a difference in your life. Maintain a positive and zealous attitude towards life and you will enjoy life more.

10. Look At The Bigger Picture:


Some people are never happy; they worry too much about the small image they are seeing that they never see the bigger picture.

They spend their time moaning and complaining about everything that they miss out on the things that make life worthwhile.

Instead of wasting your time complaining about your predicament or about someone's attitude, look at the bigger picture and count your blessings even the ones that are yet to come. Always look at the bigger picture; it explains everything.


Don't allow fear to rule you any longer. Make a decision right now that you will learn to live boldly, confidently and aggressively. Stop living a narrow  life that has room for only you and your fears.

Let me tell you a secret; fear doesn't just go away! You will have to take action and chase that fear out of your life.

Are you ready for a more satisfying and fulfilling life? I believe you are!! Make that decision today and embark on the journey to happiness and abundant confidence.

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