Tuesday, July 10, 2018

8 Sure Ways to Keep a Long Distance Relationship Alive

Hi guys, if you've been following my blog for a while now, I want to use this medium to appreciate you for taking out time to read my posts. I know you're all busy with a lot of stuff but somehow you find the time to visit my blog. I really appreciate your efforts. 

Today, I would like to take a look at a recurring issue in some relationships; long distance. In one of my old posts titled "My First Love", I wrote about my bitter sweet experience with my first boyfriend ever. 

While we were still together in school, our love was great and we seemed inseparable but the moment my boyfriend graduated, things turned sour and we had to go our separate ways. 

Back then, I didn't think of any reason or cause for our break up; I just concluded that maybe we just drifted apart but now that I think of it, I blame our break up on long distance. 

Why? After my boo graduated, our communication level decreased drastically and gradually we stopped keeping in touch with each other. Of course, the relationship would have been easier to maintain if we were in the same place at the same time but the distance just drove us apart. 

It was like a wall between us and we couldn't see each other as frequent as we wanted to. It became frustrating and challenging just to remain in touch.

Are you currently in love with someone who lives or works in another city? 

Are you battling with communication issues?

Are you tired of the relationship and want to call it quits? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this post is for you.


For those of you who may not know what it means, a long distance relationship is a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis. Partners in this type of relationship face geographic separation and lack of face-to-face contact. They seem isolated from each other. 

Being in a long distance relationship leaves you cranky, lonely and celibate. Yeah, because of your attachment to your love, it won't be reasonable to go around sleeping with other people. 

Long distance doesn't give you an excuse to cheat on your partner; instead it teaches you patience, trust, discipline and self control. Now, that you've started the long distance journey, it may seem endless and stressful. 


I used to be in a long distance relationship myself and it wasn't all fun. There were days when I felt like calling it quits and finding someone closer. But then I realised, it's not just about someone closer but someone you have good history with. It has to be someone who knows how to make you smile after a stressful day right? It should be someone who understands you a lot. 

Yes! True love has become difficult to find these days; almost all the guys who chase after you have only sex in their minds. They don't give a damn about who you are or what makes you happy.  All they care about is what they can get from you and move on to another hitch. They are just plain selfish in their approach. 

You can also try out new hobbies in order to keep out the loneliness and boredom when you're not around your love. Getting busy with other activities helps you to be independent instead of being emotionally clingy on another person. 


You could spend some days being so busy that you forget to keep in touch with your boo and gradually the love fades and you drift apart. But, if you’ve decided to make it work with your sweetie; a lot of hard work, communication, patience, trust and self control are needed from both of you.

Since we don't know what our partners are up to most of the time, we need to just to let them go and trust them completely at the same time. It's quite tricky at first but when you learn to treat your partner with absolute trust, it pays in the long run. 

What do you do if you notice you and your partner are drifting apart?

1. Plan visits in advance: 

Instead of waiting for fate to bring you together again, it is more reasonable to plan frequent visits with your partner. This keeps the anticipation growing. It makes you look forward to the special moments you would spend with your sweetie. My bf and I used to visit each other every three months and it worked like magic for us. 

2. Find things to do together: 

Even though you're apart, you can both find things to do together at the same time. Sounds crazy right? You could watch a movie or a TV show at the same time and discuss the details on phone during or after the activity. Others activities you could do together include playing games at the same time, reading a novel within the same duration etc. Find what works for you and keep doing it.

3. Talk to your partner frequently: 

I cannot overemphasize the need for communication in any relationship. Whether you're together or apart, talking to your love frequently, creates a special bond between the both of you. The more you talk, the more you learn new things about your partner and the more you bond with each other.

4. Send him/her presents occasionally: 

During special occasions like birthdays, Valentine’s Day or even Christmas, you could make an effort to send a present across to your sweetheart. I'm sure it would be appreciated no matter how small. Little gifts mean a lot too.

5. Write letters to him/her: 

Letters have slowly become a thing of the past in some societies because of all the gadgets we now possess. But, I know of a few people who still use letters as a means of communication. Letters leave an everlasting impression on the heart. It reminds you of how caring and thoughtful your partner is.

6. Try regular video chats: 

For the gadget owners who are either too busy or too lazy to write letters or even text messages, video chat is your holy grail. When you have a video chat with your sweetie, you see his/her face across the screen and it makes you feel that he or she is presently with you. It keeps the love alive and gives you hope to continue dreaming.

7. Try sexting each other: 

Sexting increases the intimacy that has been lost via distance in a relationship. When you send your lover intimate text messages, it leaves him or her yearning for you. It also increases your anticipation to see each other again. 

8. Be realistic: 

Don't put too much pressure on yourself or your sweetie because you want the relationship to work. Sometimes, a little breathing space is all we need. Giving each other a little space from time to time, could actually bring you closer. 

After trying so hard to maintain a long distance relationship and it doesn't seem to work, maybe it's time to let go and focus on yourself. It could simply mean that you placed too much expectations on your partner and neglected your own deficiencies. Just be yourself at all times. The heart always knows what it wants.

I strongly recommend this thoughtful Long Distance Love Kit that will help bring you and your sweetie closer despite the miles apart. This kit helped to keep the spark alive in my relationship and I still use it when my boo travels out of town.

These are but a few ways you and your sweetie can keep the love alive while in a long distance relationship. I've personally made use of almost everything on the list and it helped my relationship a lot.

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