THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TRUE LOVE AND INFATUATION…

                

                            



“True love is taking the risk that it won’t be a
happily ever after. True love is joining hands with the man who loves you for
who you are and saying I am not afraid to believe in you”.-Cara Lockwood.
        

One of the greatest mistakes two
people make is to confuse infatuation with true love. 

Infatuation is the strong
chemistry that brings a male and female together. 

True love is not a s*xual
feeling that suddenly demands to be satisfied or a romantic desire to be with
one person. 

There is a common
saying that love is blind but i don’t think so. 

Infatuation is blind; love is
all-seeing and accepting. Love is seeing all the flaws and blemishes and
accepting them. 

Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerism, and working around
them. 

Love is recognizing all the fears and insecurities, and knowing your role
is to comfort and support. Love is putting another person’s happiness before
your own.

Love is working through all the challenges and obstacles. Infatuation
is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect. Love is strong and it
strengthens because it is real.     

According to a marriage therapist, Dr. Pat Love, infatuation is
merely the earliest stage of love. It shouldn’t be confused with true love. 

True love begins after the post-rapture stage of infatuation, when the novelty
of the new relationship wears off and familiarity sets in. 

It happens when you
move from “butterflies in the stomach” stage to real commitment and attachment. 

Some couples become confused about this stage, assuming falsely
that they chose the wrong mate.    


In fact, this is the point of a
relationship when the reality of true love can set in. This is a common process
in most relationships. 

Two people come together through the normal
chemistry of the body and from that point on, the couple begins to know each
other and work out their differences without hurting each other. 

They know they
have true love and can survive together no matter what they face. True love
comes from wisdom, experience and outgoing concern for the other person. 

It comes when a husband and wife settle into a shared relationship where
each one gives themselves to their partner and their marriage.   
                     
        

It amazes me when a new acquaintance suddenly declares his undying
love for me without first knowing me properly. 

Seriously, I’ve had
several experiences with guys who I just meet and the next thing they do is to
chat me and say ‘Baby, I love you’. 

It really baffles me and I just wonder if
they really know the meaning of the word “love”.  
 

At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person.
It is far more than a fleeting emotion as portrayed on television, magazines
and romance novels. 

Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed
lasts forever and that is what defines true love. 

It is a decision to be
committed through ups and downs, the good, the bad and the ugly.  
                     
                     
          

Love isn’t always going to be perfect. It isn’t a fairy
tale that ends with happily ever after. 

In love, you have to overcome
obstacles, face challenges and fight to be together no matter what it takes.
You have to hold on and never let go no matter what. 

If you’ve ever loved
someone before or you’re still in love with a certain someone, you’re the
bravest person on earth. Only the brave risk their lives by falling in love! 

Now, you know the difference; be sure of which before saying “I love
you” to a girl.

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