In my life, I’ve come to realize that actions don’t necessarily speak louder than words. I’ve noticed that most times, words are often as loud as actions. People tend to pay more attention to what you say rather than what you do. I’m going to give you a few scenarios that have made me come to this amazing realization.

First scenario:

My neighbour and his wife were quarrelling about some issues and during the heat of the argument, the wife said she will poison the husband and children. Whether she meant those words or not, one cannot say. But the fact is that immediately those threatening words spurted out from her mouth, they were instantly imprinted on the minds of those present at the scene; especially the family members.

Afterwards, the children started supervising her cooking to make sure their food wasn’t poisoned. Their attitude towards her too changed even after she apologized. I kept wondering why they actually believed her words even when she said she didn’t mean them. I’m sure she has had several opportunities to kill them without even mentioning her intentions but she didn’t. 

If she really meant to kill them all, she would have done so effortlessly and even without their permission. Why didn’t her kids remember all the good deeds she had done for them in the past? Everyone just hung onto her last words which were said at an angry moment. They quickly forgot the deep love their mother had for them because of a few meaningless words.

Second scenario:

A man and his best friend were chatting over some bottles of beer and large chunks of roasted bushmeat. One of them who was obviously under the influence of alcohol, said to the other “Old boy, if you no give me my money by next week, I go kidnap your pikin oh.” Even if he was under the influence of alcohol when he said those words, his friend wouldn’t take them lightly. From that moment onward, he’ll be wary of his friend. 

Of course, he won’t stop for a minute to recall all the good things his friend has done or said to him previously. He could even start avoiding his friend in order to ensure his safety and he’ll make sure that his children are always at home where he could keep an eye on them. Their friendship can never be the same again.

Third Scenario:

When someone is under arrest for committing a crime, the only warning the policeman would give to the offender is “You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law.” They usually don’t warn against your actions but only your words.

All these scenarios and many more that I can’t mention now, have actually proved to me that words speak as loud as actions; maybe even louder than actions in some cases. I guess it all depends on the situation. Words can be as sharp as swords and once they cut someone, it could take a while before the wounds are completely healed.We should learn to pause and think before we speak. You never know when your words will be used against you.

Marlo Thomas once said “We’ve been taught to believe that actions speak louder than words. But I think words speak pretty loud all of our lives; we carry these words in our head.” Keith Harrell, in his book Attitude is Everything said “Once released to the universe, words cannot be taken back. that’s why it is critical that we learn the concept of WOW. We must Watch Our Words.” 

Yeah, people easily forget our good actions but hurtful words can never be erased; they always stick to the brain like glue.
Be mindful of what you say! The words we speak to others are just as powerful as those we speak to ourselves. The tongue is the pen to our hearts.You may not mean those hurtful words, but the listener could be badly hurt by those piercing words. 

As a well known proverb says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.”  If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Have a blessed week!!

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