I was with a colleague the other day and her younger sister called. She needed somemoney from her dad but she couldn’t call him because he would have a lot of excuses to give her or he would delay before sending her any money.
Many African parents are involved too; they always have a favourite child whom they love
more than the others.
okay for the favourite child to be pampered and the others treated nonchalantly. But have you really thought of the consequences of favouritism in
A father has 5 children and he cherishes one so much that the others notice. He treats her like an egg that could crack in a
blink of an eye.
He attends every event she features in but he has
excuses to give to the others why he won’t make it for theirs.
What do you think would happen to these children when they finally grow up and really understand what has been going on? Would they pat theirfather on his back and say “well-done?” I don’t think so.
independent individuals but what if they don’t?
What if they grow up hating and resenting their father and his favoured child? It kind of reminds me of Joseph and his brothers, though.
looking at the negative effects or consequences of favouritism in a family.
everything handed to them on a platter of gold that they don’t see the need to
often times, they buy things they don’t really need and end up throwing it away in the trash can.
Gradually, they get sick of it and one day, they create an uproar which could lead to a big fight in the family.
mother notices how a father pampers one child, she could complain and try to stop it. Her interference could result in conflict too.
jealous of the child who is receiving so much attention from the parents.
They may think that they aren’t
good enough or worthy to be loved. They could even lose their self-confidence in the long run. They always yearn for some love and attention.
I’m not saying all families will experience these things
or that all children would turn out bitter as a result of favouritism but then
it’s not to be overlooked.
children the way they come; with all their individual differences.
Don’t over pamper one up to the extent that the others notice and begin to brew bitterness in
them equal amounts of money, buy them the same gadgets, attend their functions when you can and create time for each and every one of them. They all deserve your love and attention.
siblings react to that?
If you aren’t a favourite child, how does it feel not been one?