Top 6 Reasons Some Ladies Are Still Single

Some time ago, at a friend’s wedding, someone asked me “why are you still single”? 

For five minutes, I stood there dumbfounded with my mouth hanging open, staring at this single lady who was asking another single lady why she was unmarried. 

You know how Nigerians like responding to questions with questions? Well, I did exactly that! After recovering from my shock, I threw the question back at her “You, why are you still single”? 
She immediately burst into laughter. When she was done laughing, she said: “Oh please, stop avoiding the question, answer it first”. 

I guess I wasn’t the only one who was skeptical about answering the question huh?

While she was busy laughing, I had enough time to ask myself the lingering question “Jenny, why are you still single”? 

I had found my answer just right after she stopped laughing and I decided to tell her. I guess there is no harm in telling. 

So I said, “Look, I will tell you why I’m still unmarried but you have to promise to tell me yours”. 

She agreed and I continued, ” the real reason I’m still single is because I and my boo are still trying to get stable careers and you know a wedding costs a lot of money.  

I don’t want to get into a marriage financially unstable”. She gave me a knowing smile and said “At least, you’ve found someone special. As for me, I’ve not found the right one yet”.

On my way home after the wedding ceremony, I couldn’t stop thinking about the conversation I had with my new acquaintance. 

I knew we weren’t the only single ladies at the wedding and I have a lot of single friends and even neighbours. 

I tried finding possible reasons why my friends were still single. After a couple of hours, I came up with some six possible reasons. 

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Many ladies are still single and unmarried today because of the following reasons:

1) Fear of commitment: 
Guys are not the only ones with commitment issues. Some ladies are actually scared to commit to one man for the rest of their lives. They feel they would lose out of life if they get married. 

They want to have complete freedom from all the responsibility that comes with marriage. It’s not only the guys who are afraid of commitment, some ladies are too.

2) They haven’t found “the one”: 
Finding a husband could be as easy as ABC but finding “the one” isn’t always easy. It is one thing to be married to a good guy but it’s another thing to get married to a really special guy. 

Some ladies are still waiting for that special guy who would sweep them off their feet and shower them with unconditional love. Not everyone is so lucky to meet their soul mate on time.

3) Financial instability: 
Some ladies aren’t scared of commitment and they’ve obviously found “the one” but they haven’t been able to tie the knot with the love of their life. 

Even though they are ready, they could be facing financial challenges or their partner isn’t financially stable at the moment. 

4) Fear of the unknown: 
Some ladies are reluctant to marry someone because they are skeptical about the future. Even though they are committed to a guy, they fear what might happen after they get married. 

They keep hesitating to accept a proposal from their partner because they feel they might not make good wives or maybe the man’s family won’t accept them.

5) Lack of readiness: 
Some ladies aren’t exactly ready to get married. They are still busy pursuing their dream careers and marriage isn’t at the top of their priority list. They want to attain all their goals before settling down with a man.

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6) They are too independent:

I’m not saying a lady shouldn’t be independent; I personally love independence and the ability to stand on your own. But I don’t agree with the motto some ladies chant; “I don’t need a man to be happy”. 

Some independent ladies feel they are too good for a man so they keep looking for someone who would measure up to their high standards financially and socially. 

Men who love them try to get close to them but instead they end up feeling intimidated and unwanted.

7) They are too picky:

It is not a crime to have a picture of who you want to spend the rest of your life with but being too picky isn’t always a good thing. 

Sometimes, we find love in unexpected places with imperfect people. 

If you’re still waiting for Prince Charming who is 6 feet tall, handsome, God-fearing and romantic with a large bank account, I advise you should start fasting and praying. 

Some ladies have received countless marriage proposals but they’ve turned them all down. They are just too indecisive to make a choice. 

Any man who comes to marry them is either too short ,too poor, too fat or too skinny. They find endless excuses to give to their suitors and in the end, they chase them away.

Although there are many possible reasons some ladies are still single and unmarried, I’ve managed to list out the top six. 

If you’ve been wondering why many ladies are getting married and others aren’t, I guess this post has answered that question. 

What’s your opinion? Why do you think some girls are still single?

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