6 Undeniable Signs You Are in the Friend Zone


My long time friend has a best friend who happens to be a girl he is madly in love with but he can’t tell her that he loves her because he is afraid of ruining the friendship they share.

So, he is just playing along and being the best friend she could ever have while dying in silence. Well, I know he is not the only one with this problem.

I know so many people who are in this dilemma of unrequited love. They know they are in the “friend zone” but can’t do anything to get out of it. Some people don’t even know if they belong to this group of people or not.
What does friend zone mean?

The “friend zone” refers to a situation where there is a mismatch in romantic feelings between two individuals.

It is a situation where one person is interested in romance while the other wants to “just be friends”.

At other times, the friends are already sexually involved (i.e. friends-with-benefits), but there is a commitment mismatch, where only one person wants a “relationship” with a committed girlfriend or boyfriend.

In essence, the friend zone occurs in relationships where both individuals’ emotional needs are not getting met.

Someone is not getting what they want and need. Because all good relationships are built on a mutually-satisfying social exchange, friend zone situations ultimately don’t feel very good.
If you’re wondering if you’re in the “friend zone”, chances are that you’re already in it. But just so you’re convinced, check out the following signs:

1. The absence of Physical Attraction:

When you’re in a relationship with someone, the desire to hold and touch each other is a pleasant sign of compatibility and intimacy. If there is absolutely no tension and no physical attraction, then you are definitely in a friend zone. 

If you or your friend don’t desire each other sexually or make moves to get intimate anytime soon, it is possible you are in the friend zone.

2. She talks About Other Men with You:

One of the common signs of friend zones is talking about other men with you. Does she discuss other men she dates with you? Does she continually mention her boyfriend to you? This is a sure sign you are in the friend zone. 

You are in the friend zone because she feels comfortable and at ease talking about other guys with you. When a girl treats you as a friend, she doesn’t find it embarrassing and humiliating to relate stories about other men with you. 

This is an indication that you are really treated as a friend and not a potential lover. She knows you don’t mind because you’re not her man and you might never be.

3. She tells you Almost Everything:

Does she tell you her sex escapades and embarrassing moments? Well, these are things she won’t tell a boyfriend; she trusts you like a friend or even a brother.

4.The absence of Flirting:

One common sign of the friend zone is an absence of flirting. If she doesn’t feel sexy whenever she’s around you or she doesn’t tease you in a sensual way, it means she has put you in that forbidden zone. 

Despite your efforts to flirt with the girl physically and verbally, she does not really respond to anything; she barely even notices your own flirtations. 

This simply means that there is no evident sign of attraction probably because she only sees you as a friend and nothing beyond that.

This is an indication that you are really treated as a friend and not a potential lover. She knows you don’t mind because you’re not her man and you might never be.

5. She sees You as a Friend or a Brother

When you start
hearing lines like “You are a great friend’’ or “You are like an older brother
to me’’, it obviously means you’re in that dreaded place called ” the
friend zone”. If she has already categorised you as a friend or a brother, just know it would
be quite difficult getting out of the mess.

 Lack of Effort in Her Appearance

If she does not care
about her appearance and grooming especially when you are around, then you
already know what that means. She is obviously not interested in improving her
appearance to look good and attractive for you. 

We all know girls like to look good for their potential admirers or lovers. If
she doesn’t make any effort to seduce you or impress you with her physical
appearance, I’m sorry but you are definitely in the friend zone.

These signs are inevitable; at least 4 of them must be present for you to
confirm that you are actually in the friend zone. Now, that you know what the friend zone is and the signs that your crush has
definitely put you in it, what’s the next move? 


What are you going to do about it? In my next post, I’ll be giving you a few
ideas on how to get out of the friend zone and have the relationship you want
with the secret love of your life.


How to Get Out of the Friend Zone

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