6 Undeniable Signs You are in the Friend Zone

signs you are in the friend zone

My longtime friend has a best friend who happens to be a girl he is madly in love with but he can’t tell her that he loves her because he is afraid of ruining the friendship they share.

So, he is just playing along and being the best friend she could ever have while dying in silence. I know he is not the only one with this problem.

I know so many people who are in this dilemma of unrequited love. They know they are in the “friend zone” but can’t do anything to get out of it. Some people don’t even know if they belong to this group of people or not.


The “friend zone” refers to a situation where there is a mismatch in romantic feelings between two individuals. It is a situation where one person is interested in romance while the other wants to “just be friends”.

At other times, the friends are already sexually involved (i.e. friends-with-benefits), but there is a commitment mismatch, where only one person wants a “relationship” with a committed girlfriend or boyfriend.

In essence, the friend zone occurs in relationships where both individuals’ emotional needs are not getting met. Someone is not getting what they want and need. Because all good relationships are built on a mutually-satisfying social exchange, friend zone situations ultimately don’t feel very good.


Signs you're in the friend zone

If you’re wondering if you’re in the “friend zone”, chances are that you’re already in it. But just so you’re convinced, check out the following signs:

1. The absence of physical attraction

When you’re in a relationship with someone, the desire to hold and touch each other is a pleasant sign of compatibility and intimacy. If there is absolutely no tension and no physical attraction, then you are definitely in a friend zone.

If you or your friend don’t desire each other sexually or make moves to get intimate anytime soon, it is possible you are in the friend zone.

2. She talks about other men with you

One of the common signs you are in the friend zone is when she talks about other men with you. Does she discuss other men she dates with you? Does she continually mention her boyfriend to you? This is a sure sign you are in the friend zone.

You are in the friend zone because she feels comfortable and at ease talking about other guys with you. When a girl treats you as a friend, she doesn’t find it embarrassing and humiliating to relate stories about other men with you.

This is an indication that you are really treated as a friend and not a potential lover. She knows you don’t mind because you’re not her man and you might never be.

3. She tells you almost everything

If your friend, whom you are attracted to, shares private details and personal thoughts on almost everything, this is an indication that she is not really making deep connections with you. She might only see you as someone whom she can trust with her secrets.

Someone who won’t kiss and tell because he doesn’t care about becoming her lover. Does she tell you her sexual escapades and embarrassing moments? Well, these are things she won’t tell a boyfriend; she trusts you like a friend or even a brother.

4. The absence of flirting

One common sign of the friend zone is an absence of flirting. If she doesn’t feel sexy whenever she’s around you or she doesn’t tease you in a sensual way, it means she has put you in that forbidden zone.

Despite your efforts to flirt with the girl physically and verbally, she does not really respond to anything; she barely even notices your own flirtations. This simply means that there is no evident sign of attraction probably because she only sees you as a friend and nothing beyond that.

This is an indication that you are really treated as a friend and not a potential lover. She knows you don’t mind because you’re not her man and you might never be.

signs you are in the friend zone

5. She sees you as a friend or a brother

When you start hearing lines like “You are a great friend’’ or “You are like an older brother to me’’, it obviously means you’re in that dreaded place called ” the friend zone”. If she has already categorized you as a friend or a brother, just know it would be quite difficult getting out of the mess.

6. Lack of effort in her appearance

If she does not care about her appearance and grooming especially when you are around, then you already know what that means. She is obviously not interested in improving her appearance to look good and attractive to you.

We all know girls like to look good for their potential admirers or lovers. If she doesn’t make any effort to seduce or impress you with her physical appearance, I’m sorry but you are definitely in the friend zone.


I’ve shared with you 6 undeniable signs you are in the friend zone; at least 4 of them must be present for you to confirm that you are actually in the friend zone. Now, that you know what the friend zone is and the signs that your crush has definitely put you in it, what’s the next move?

What are you going to do about it? If you want to get out of the friend zone, read my next post where I share a few ideas on how to get out of the friend zone and have the relationship you want with the secret love of your life.


2 thoughts on “6 Undeniable Signs You are in the Friend Zone

  1. If all the signs are there but the guy avoids to make eye contact at least most of the time so what does it show? Is he still into the girl or all the other signs are just a misunderstanding? Super confused at this stage. Need your expert advice!

    1. If a guy doesn’t make eye contact with you most of the time, there are two things going on… One, he is very shy; two, he’s not that into you.

      A guy who really likes you and wants to date you will make sure you get a lot of eye contact. If he’s shy but he likes you, he’ll steal glances at you and when you catch him staring, he’ll quickly look away.

      This means he likes you but is too shy to admit it to your face. I hope that clears your confusion?

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