When girls start dating older men for the first time, they tend to be shy or too nice. Sometimes, they don’t even know what to expect or what to really do.
They just allow their sugar daddies to make all the rules in their relationship since they were the ones who did the chasing. It shouldn’t be so.
Sugar dating is a two-way traffic; the parties involved have to mutually benefit from it.
As a sugar baby, you are entitled to a lot of things but because of ignorance and maybe shyness you end up making silly mistakes and wasting your golden opportunity. Silly mistakes you should avoid while dating a sugar daddy are:
1. Not Negotiating Properly:
This is usually the first mistake most sugar babies make. They don’t negotiate the arrangement properly because they don’t want to be termed “over-demanding bitch” or “Gold digger” .
But the fact is that you have the right as an adult to present your terms and conditions in a sugar arrangement. Be bold enough to say what you can handle and what you can’t handle; make your terms very clear from the onset.
Take it as a business you’re investing your time and energy in; the profits you make at the end of the day need to be worth your hustle. Important matters like allowances, expectations and limits need to be fully discussed before diving into the relationship.
2. Falling in love with them:
This is another huge mistake that girls make with their sugar daddies. Falling in love with your sugar daddy is going to get you nowhere; you could likely end up heart broken and lonely.
A sugar-daddy relationship is like a friend with benefits thingy; there are no strings attached. Your emotions should never ever get in the way!!! I know you think he loves you now but trust me when your contract ends, he will turn his back on you like he never knew you. Don’t get it twisted; you’re there for the financial gain. Period!!!
3. Getting pregnant:
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Some girls actually fall for the “I want you to have my baby” prank that some sugar daddies throw at them. Don’t even think about it except you agreed to it before you entered the relationship.
If that wasn’t your agreement, tell him a big “NO” and move on with your life. He’s not worth risking your life for. Who knows what would happen if you eventually get pregnant and decide to give birth to that child. Would he be there to support you???
4. Giving them crazy ultimatums:
Some girls actually enter a sugar relationship with the mindset that they own him. They even go as far as telling him to choose between his wife and them. Seriously? Are you in Disney land? You better wake up girl!!!
He is never going to leave his wife and kids for you. But if there is a small possibility that he could leave them for you, let him do it willingly.f If he really loves you and wants to be with you, you won’t need to tie a rope around his neck.
5. Not saving or investing money:
Some sugar babies who think they have come to stay never think of saving a dime while they are in Paradise. That is so wrong.
I know you want to buy Peruvian hair and the latest iPhone, but while you’re shopping like Queen Elizabeth, just remember to save for the rainy day. Some things never last forever; they have expiry dates too.
6. Being a total drama Queen:
If you are a drama Queen and you wish to go into a sugar relationship, kindly leave your costume somewhere else; your sugar daddy doesn’t need it. I’m sure his wife gives him enough drama already.
He is with you because he wants sugar and not pepper!!! Stop complaining and throwing tantrums like a 6 year old.
All he needs from you is a good time without responsibility. Stop whining and sulking; save all of that for your boyfriend. Be professional; after all, this is business.
7. Not using your opportunity wisely:
Some sugar babies mingle with influential men and at the end of the day, they are still at the same low level. Set some goals before entering into a sugar arrangement and make sure you accomplish them before your contract ends.
Goals you can set are: getting a good job, setting up a lucrative business, moving into an apartment e.t.c Don’t waste the opportunity you have; use it wisely.
8. Being too clingy:
Being too clingy or insecure can be a huge turn-off to some people. Study your sugar daddy and know what he likes. If he wants to cuddle, let him cuddle. If he needs space, give him some. Don’t hang around him like a jobless person; while he is busy, get busy too. Find things you can do in your free time.
These are some mistakes sugar babies often make with their sugar daddies. If you are a sugar baby or about to be one; keep these tips in mind and try to avoid them as much as possible. If you play your cards well, you will come out a winner!!!
What other mistakes do you think girls make with their sugar daddies?