A friend of mine got married to an older man a few years ago. She seemed so happy at first; she posted a lot of pictures of her and her new hubby on social media. After about a year, she moved out of her husband’s house. She got a new job in another city and started her life afresh.
A few months ago, she announced she was getting married again and this time to a handsome young man *smiles* She looks really happy with him and I pray her marriage works out this time.When some of my friends heard about her upcoming wedding, they were perplexed!
They wanted to ask her what happened to her first marriage but I guess they found it a bit offensive and decided to ask around instead. Of course, I didn’t know what happened but when I was asked I simply told them “I guess she wasn’t happy in the marriage”.
And now, she has found someone who she is happy with. I think that’s what really matters!! I’ve had other friends who trotted down the same path of marrying an older man under the pretence of love. Some of them left their husbands the moment they became unhappy while others are still there either enjoying their marriages or dying in silence.
THE PROS OF MARRYING AN OLDER MAN:
1. An older man is usually more mature and experienced
An older man would normally be wiser and smarter than a younger man and he will apply his wisdom in every aspect of his life; financial, emotional, mental, social etc.
He would even be eager to teach you a lot of things you didn’t know or even dreamt of knowing. In other words, he would expose you to new knowledge about many things.
2. He is financially secure
Being with an older man means you’re going to be financially secure; as far he likes you, he would make sure you have everything you need and want. Money, of course, can never really be an issue when you’re with an older man. All your needs will be met even without you lifting a finger.
3. He is emotionally stable
Marrying an older man means you would be emotionally safe; at least you won’t be confronted with emotional outbursts or drama at any point. All he wants is to flaunt you “his beautiful treasure”.
As far as you’re around him and his friends still look at you with admiration in their eyes or saliva drooling down their jaws, he would cherish and adore you. You don’t even have to worry about him cheating on you because he feels lucky to have you and he would remain faithful and loyal to you.
4. He will treat you like a Queen
He would go to great heights to provide for you; even if you want the moon, he would fetch it for you. He would either attend to your needs personally or he would employ people who can be at your beck and call.
When you want your hair or nails done, cash and a driver would be available to you, when you’re in the mood for a shopping spree, his Debit card or checkbook will be at your feet. All you need to do is wave your magical wand and everything will be served on a platter of gold for you.
5. He will be the decision maker
Your life will be well organised and planned even while you’re asleep. You won’t have to stress yourself over major decision making.
THE CONS OF MARRYING AN OLDER MAN:
1. He would be domineering
You may not see it as a big issue but when it becomes a normal routine for him to always guide you; you would feel suffocated and helpless. Any mistake you make would be associated with your being childish or naive and this could be downright annoying because sometimes you just want to make your own mistakes and learn from them.
2. He may not have the time and energy for you
Of course, this is not the issue with every older man; I’ve seen older men who are more energetic than even young men. But the truth is he may not really have the time and energy for you because he is tied up in one business venture or the other or he isn’t just the fun type.
3. You would become his nurse
You, of course, would have to put your life on hold to care for him as his wife and you would constantly be worried about his health. There is also the probability of both of you eating separately because he has to change his diet to suit his health needs.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be your husband’s nurse; all I’m saying is “be aware and prepared” when you choose to marry an older man.
4. Your sex life will be dead or near dead
Sex could become a chore if you’re lucky or an inactive component if you’re unlucky. Let’s not even dive into the possibility of marrying a sterile or impotent older man.
5. You could become a step mum
6. He may never really get you
He may never really understand why you behave the way you do; everything he doesn’t approve of would be termed “childish”. You may find yourself stuck with someone who behaves like your grandfather.
Choose your life partner wisely because your happiness depends on it.