Last week, I wrote about 10 Mistakes Men Make During Sex and I know that the guys weren’t so happy because they felt cheated. I’m sure they were asking “Is it only the men that make mistakes in bed? How about the women? Are they exempted?” Of course not! That’s why I’ve decided to talk about the mistakes women make during sex.
It’s not entirely your fault! I know work, tight schedules, household chores and probably kids take so much of your time and energy. You’re often so tired that intimate moments together with your lover becomes a lot of work too.
So, when he bothers you enough for it, you just reluctantly open your legs and let him in without really being involved. There’s a lot more attached to sex than just opening your legs to satisfy your partner’s needs.
Sex is an art that involves tenderness, passion, desire, patience and love. You need to be involved to experience how beautiful and amazing it is! Here are a few mistakes women make during sex and how to avoid them while getting intimate with your partner:
9 MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE DURING SEX
1. Turning from Sexy Lady to Boss Lady:
We know you’re busy and you’re working hard to earn a living but please, don’t forget the dude. Don’t treat him as if he is insignificant or as if he’s a thorn in your flesh. While the rigors of everyday life can impact your sexual desires, it most likely doesn’t extinguish it.
You need to nurture your sex life. Pay enough attention to your partner. Drop little naughty notes for him to discover during the day. Wear some sexy lingerie under your work clothes and surprise him when he gets home. Do something that reminds him of the sexual goddess that you are.
2. Being Unresponsive:
A lot of women do this especially when they are too tired to be intimate with their partner. When he asks for it, they just lie down and let him do his thing without even getting involved. Sex with a corpse is not an exciting experience.
Don’t just lie there and tell him to do ‘his thing’. Get involved. Move. Make some noise. Be responsive. If sex isn’t pleasurable for you, find out what’s missing! Try different sex positions, or get a better perfume that turns you on.
3. Not speaking up about your needs:
Similar to men, women also fall victim to the idea that your partner will know or sense what’s going on with you. If something is going on you don’t like, speak up. If you are not comfortable with the position, tell your partner. Don’t say “He’s the one who needs it. Let him hurry up with it.”
If you would like more foreplay or lube, say it. When you’re honest and communicate your needs, you get the chance to experience even more excitement during sex together.
4. Not Taking Care of Your Body:
What most men find as a lasting turn on more than anything is the way a woman carries herself. Her confidence and charisma is what attracts him to her. Don’t ever lose it.
If you always look down on your body, you can do something about it by working out if you want. But, one thing you can do is learn to embrace the skin you’re in and feel confident to flaunt it.
Wear sexy lingerie. Walk around naked. Have sex with the lights on. Stop feeling insecure because of your body; if you don’t like it, do something about it.
Get some perfumes, shave regularly, exercise often, watch what you eat and keep yourself together. When you own your body, you can flaunt yourself for him because you know you are beautiful and sexy.
5. Being Insecure about Other Women:
Similar to not owning your own body, being constantly threatened by other women is not attractive. Remember your partner chose you, so focus your energies on keeping his eyes on you.
Stop searching through his inbox looking for messages his other girlfriends send him. Stop going through his call logs to see who called him more than once during the day. Just stop already! You’re simply being paranoid. Save yourself the energy; it’s not worth it at all. Learn to seduce him, tease him, and tempt him so he won’t have to look elsewhere!
6. Hiding Your Erotic Nature:
Many women fear if they are erotic, they’ll come across as slutty or cheap to their partner. That may be just what he wants at times! Have the courage to let go once in a while. Be erotic. Stimulate him visually and verbally. Make him notice you.
Get on top during sex. Don’t be scared to make the first move and take charge.Be “a lady in the street but a freak in the bed.” A common thought is that men are led by two brains. Don’t forget about his northern brain. Stimulate him!
7. Not going down South:
Aha! Here comes one of the issues that most men complain about; their partner’s refusal to give them blow jobs. Ladies, this is a big issue for the guys; you need to look into critically. Your sex life is going to be boring and unsatisfying without it. If you don’t like the idea of giving him oral and he wants you to, talk to him about it.
Tell him why you don’t want to do it and if there is anything you need to change him before you start doing it, tell him. Let him understand your point of view. Speak up. If you need a practical guide on giving oral, check out my post on The 10 Commandments of Giving a Blow Job.
8. Not Making the First Move:
Another complaint I often hear from men is the issue of their woman not initiating sexual encounters. They are the ones who always have to make the first move even when the woman needs it too. Perhaps, this is due to the fact that some women are too shy to open up to their partner or they are afraid of coming across as slutty.
Your relationship as well as sex needs to be mutual. When you’re interested in sex, let it be known. Don’t leave it up to him to figure it out as if he’s the only one who has needs. Try to make the first move sometimes.
9. Being Too Hasty:
I know you think men are the only ones who are usually hasty during sex but they aren’t. Some women are so hasty that they even urge their partners to skip foreplay and go straight to the main business. They don’t want to invest too much time and effort during the act; the earlier it ends the better for
When it comes to sex, remember it’s an art; slow down, take your time with each other and enjoy the moments together. Don’t claim to be so busy that you don’t have time for passionate sex; make time for it and stop making excuses. Don’t rush. Slow down, relax and savor the blissful moment!
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