9 Silly Mistakes Women Make in Bed

9 Awful mistakes women make in bed

Last week, I wrote about 10 Mistakes Men Make in Bed and I know the guys weren’t so happy because they felt cheated. I’m sure they were asking “Is it only the men that make mistakes in bed?

How about the women? Are they exempted?” Of course not! That’s why I’ve decided to talk about the silly mistakes women make in bed.

Okay, ladies, it’s your turn. Pay attention! When it comes to a couple’s intimate life, there are many things that will cause it to flow and cease. Sometimes, it is exciting and other times boring.

It’s not entirely your fault! I know work, tight schedules, household chores and probably kids take so much of your time and energy. You’re often so tired that intimate moments together with your lover becomes a lot of work too.

So, when he bothers you enough for it, you just reluctantly open your legs and let him in without really being involved. There’s a lot more attached to making love than just opening your legs to satisfy your partner’s needs.

Intercourse is an art that involves tenderness, passion, desire, patience, and love. You need to be involved to experience how beautiful and amazing it is! 

Here are a few deadly mistakes women make in bed and how to avoid them while getting intimate with your partner:


9 mistakes women make in bed

1. Turning from Kinky Lady to Boss Lady:

We know you’re busy and you’re working hard to earn a living but please, don’t forget the dude. Don’t treat him as if he is insignificant or as if he’s a thorn in your flesh. While the rigors of everyday life can have an impact on your libido, it most likely doesn’t extinguish it.

You need to nurture your intimate relationship. Pay enough attention to your partner. Drop little romantic notes for him to discover during the day. Wear some attractive underwear beneath your work clothes and surprise him when he gets home. Do something that reminds him of the irresistible diva that you are.

2. Being Unresponsive:

A lot of women do this especially when they are too tired to get intimate with their partner. When he asks for it, they just lie down and let him do his thing without even getting involved. Intercourse with a corpse is not an exciting experience.

Don’t just lie there and tell him to do ‘his thing’. Get involved. Move. Make some noise. Be responsive. Men love blow jobs but some women refuse to do it or even bother to learn how to do it the right way.

If you want your man to stay with you, learn how to give amazing blow jobs that your man will love. If lovemaking isn’t pleasurable for you, find out what’s missing! Try different positions in bed, or get a better perfume that turns you on.

3. Not speaking up about your needs:

Similar to men, women also fall victim to the idea that your partner will know or sense what’s going on with you. If something is going on you don’t like, speak up. 

If you are not comfortable with the position, tell your partner. Don’t say “He’s the one who needs it. Let him hurry up with it.”

If you would like more foreplay or lube, say it. When you’re honest and communicate your needs, you get the chance to experience even more excitement when making love together.

4. Not Taking Care of Your Body:

What most men find as a lasting turn on more than anything is the way a woman carries herself. Her confidence and charisma are what attracts him to her. Don’t ever lose it.

If you always look down on your body, you can do something about it by working out if you want. But, one thing you can do is learn to embrace the skin you’re in and feel confident to flaunt it.

Wear attractive underwear that appeals to your man. Walk around naked. Make love with the lights on. Stop feeling insecure because of your body; if you don’t like it, do something about it.

Get some perfumes, shave regularly, exercise often, watch what you eat and keep yourself together. When you own your body, you can flaunt yourself for him because you know you are beautiful and attractive.

5. Being Insecure about Other Women:

Similar to not owning your own body, being constantly threatened by other women is not attractive. Remember your partner chose you, so focus your energies on keeping his eyes on you.

Stop searching through his inbox looking for messages his other girlfriends send him. Stop going through his call logs to see who called him more than once during the day.

Just stop already! You’re simply being paranoid. Save yourself the energy; it’s not worth it at all. Learn to seduce him, tease him, and tempt him so he won’t have to look elsewhere!

6. Hiding Your Inner Nature:

Many women fear if they are bold and experienced, they’ll come across as slutty or cheap to their partner. That may be just what he wants at times! Some women even fake their orgasms during intercourse.

If you do that, your relationship might not improve because your partner doesn’t know that you’re not satisfied. Teach him how you want to be touched and stop hiding your inner nature. Have the courage to let go once in a while.

Get on top when engaging in intercourse. Don’t be scared to make the first move and take charge. Be “a lady in the street but a freak in the bed.” A common thought is that men are led by two brains. Don’t forget about his northern brain. Stimulate him!

7. Not going down South:

Aha! Here comes one of the issues that most men complain about; their partner’s refusal to give them blow jobs. Ladies, this is a big issue for the guys; you need to look into it critically. 

Your relationship is going to be boring and unsatisfying without it. If you don’t like the idea of giving him oral and he wants you to, talk to him about it.

Tell him why you don’t want to do it and if there is anything you need him to change before you start doing it, tell him. Let him understand your point of view. Speak up. If you need a practical guide on giving oral, check out The Ultimate Blowjob Guide for Women.

8. Not Making the First Move:

Another complaint I often hear from men is the issue of their woman not initiating intimate encounters. They are the ones who always have to make the first move even when the woman needs it too.

Perhaps, this is due to the fact that some women are too shy to open up to their partner or they are afraid of coming across as slutty.

9 silly mistakes women make in bed

Your relationship, as well as your intimate life, needs to be mutual. When you’re interested in getting intimate, let it be known. Don’t leave it up to him to figure it out as if he’s the only one who has needs. Try to make the first move sometimes.

9. Being Too Hasty:

I know you think men are the only ones who are usually hasty during lovemaking but they aren’t. Some women are so hasty that they even urge their partners to skip foreplay and go straight to the main business. They don’t want to invest too much time and effort during the act; the earlier it ends the better for them.

When it comes to romance and intimacy, remember it’s an art; slow down, take your time with each other and enjoy the moments together. Don’t claim to be so busy that you don’t have time for passionate lovemaking; make time for it and stop making excuses. Don’t rush. Slow down, relax and savor the blissful moment!


Having intercourse with your partner doesn’t always have to a chore! What if your relationship with your husband could be something that gives you the strength to tackle your to-do list, not one more thing to add to your to-do list?

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5 thoughts on “9 Silly Mistakes Women Make in Bed

  1. Pretty nice post! I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to say that I have truly enjoyed reading your blog posts.

    In any case I will be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again very soon!

  2. Hi, I read some of the things you said about guys and that is not true. I am a guy and I make love to a woman I do not leave any of her erogenous parts out. There all the time in the bedroom for her and I set the move even if she does not give me the love and say move back I still set the house on fire.

    It is up to the to know the differ in intimacy or make love or pleases the woman until her break down and bring the love to him. There is a zone that has three monkeys in a bag and if you were there then you know if not then you don’t know what the low down on the slow down I am talking about.

    I can fill the air with the smell of a man that makes a woman want to bite you as if you are a candy bar all the oil and baby powder and flower and candle to put her in my world to let her I am making for love all night long.

    The man must do research on her before he gets down to her getting into bed. If you want her and you know you do take some time out to see how and what you plan on doing to her.

    1. Hi TC,

      If you’re great in bed, then that’s awesome because there are some men out there who have no clue of what they are doing in bed and they end up making drastic mistakes that can ruin their relationship.

  3. Hello…..my name is Asmau and this is very educative though I have a question to ask” what if the lady always makes the first move?

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