New relationships are fun, exciting and most times sexy. Conversations often come naturally as two people start dating and falling in love with each other. They have 101 things to talk about and there is never a dull moment.
Sometimes, the lovebirds can’t seem to find the time to finish talking; they obviously never run out of topics. If you are at that stage in your relationship, I’m happy for you. You’re really lucky!
For long-term couples, starting a conversation may seem like a full-time job especially when both partners aren’t exactly close.
Simple conversations may sound awkward or even uninteresting when you lack things to talk about. You may think there aren’t enough topics for you and your partner to talk about.
You may even begin to have a phobia for conversations because you feel you would run out of things to say and your relationship will become boring. Not to worry, I have your back!
Are you in a long-term relationship and suddenly short of things to talk about with your love? This post is definitely for you!
I’ve picked out some interesting topics for you and your spouse to talk about without getting bored. You can pick from any of the topics below and please feel free to add other relevant topics.
#1 Daily Individual Lives
Don’t ditch the “How was your day” question. It never gets old. When you get back together in the evening, ask about each other’s daily events and activities. You will be surprised at how much info you missed through out your partner’s day. Most couples ignore these basic conversations and end up drifting far away from each other in no time.
#2 Talk About Yourself
Sometimes, we feel our partner knows everything about us but it’s not always the case. Talk about your personality, your values, your likes, your dislikes, your favorite foods, favorite songs/movies, your hobbies, interests and allergies if any.
If you’ve talked about these topics before, revisit them. You never know when there will be an update of what you already know.
#3 Crushes and Admirers
Do you think someone in your workplace is attractive? Or is someone from the third floor trying to catch your attention by trying to flirt with you? Talk to your partner about it.
It may feel uncomfortable at first, but these conversations can actually bring both of you more closer than ever before and even eliminate insecurities.
#4 Hobbies and Interests
Do you like baking, painting, playing games or collecting pebbles? Talk about it with your partner. Our hobbies and interests change all the time, and keeping a lover in the loop will help both of you understand each other’s likes and dislikes better.
#5 Talk About Your Relationship
Are you happy about your current relationship? Are you unhappy? If you could change anything about it, what would it be? Do you want to get married? What kind of wedding would you like?
Where would you spend your honeymoon? If you are already married, do you like being married? What do you love/hate about being married? Just ask questions that you really want answers to.
#6 Past Relationships
Hmmm… Exes! Past relationships are suspense thrillers in the dating scenario. We want to talk about it, but yet, we’re too afraid to talk about it before we feel like the time is right. Don’t talk about past relationships until you’re a few months into a relationship, unless of course, it crops up out of the blue into a conversation.
Hiding facts about past relationships or revealing them too soon can create insecurities and confusions that could damage a relationship before it’s had the time to create a strong foundation.
#7 Gossip About Your Friends
Talk about your friends and their relationships, their work, career or business. Sometimes, the most mundane of conversations can make your partner’s eyes light up. Help both of you understand each other’s friends, interests and everything else with happy gossip.
#8 Talk About Your Family
Where is your family from? Where do they live? How many are they? What are your brothers and sisters like? Families may seem perfect on the outside, but every one of them has a few cracks that can be a minor annoyance. Discuss about family matters and how either of you can deal with it.
#9 Talk About The Future (Goals and Dreams)
What do you think about the future? Are you scared about it? Where do you see yourself 5-10 years from now?
One of the most satisfying conversations of a long-term relationship is the one involving future plans and goals in life. Talk about your dreams and aspirations with your partner and make sure you know your partner’s wants and dreams in life too.
Sometimes, we assume we know everything about our partner, but it takes a few conversations to truly understand each other instead of making wrong assumptions.
Talk about your goals; What are your short-term/long-term goals? How are you going to achieve them? What are you doing to achieve them?
#10 New Places To See Together
Share ideas about new places you can visit together. Talking about new places to spend the weekend together can be a lot of fun in a relationship.
Do you have a few favorite hangouts where you like to spend a few hours over the weekend? Or did you just hear about a new restaurant or a movie that you definitely have to check out? Talk about it.
#11 Talk About Finances
What do you think about money, savings, investment and retirement plans? Finances and money issues play a big part in any long-term relationship. True satisfaction in a relationship can be achieved only if both partners discuss ways to save money, invest money and spend money.
#12 Vacations and Getaways
What are your favorite vacation spots? If you could relocate, where would you go? Vacations are a happy time for every partner. Both of you may work hard all year-long and may want to look forward to something exciting and pleasurable to renew the excitement of love and life.
Talk about vacations, even if you intend to travel several months later. Talking about breaks and romantic getaways can fill both of you with a surge of happiness even if there are a lot of hurdles and pain today. Do you dream of travelling to Bali or Greece? Tell your partner about it!
#13 Talk About Sex
Do you like sex? Do you like the sex you are having? If no, why? What is your favorite sex position? If you could improve your relationship sexually, what would you do? Do you like sex toys? What are your secret sexual fantasies?
There are 101 questions we would love to ask our partner about sex and intimacy but so many people are too afraid to even ask. Go ahead and ask these questions!
#14 Talk About Kids
Do you like kids? Do you want to have kids? How many would you like to have? If you already have kids talk about their personality, attitude, hobbies, dislikes and their school.
What if you can’t have kids in the future, would you be open for adoption? Kids are a serious topic that need to be discussed in every relationship.
#15 A Bitter/Sweet Experience
We all have that one bitter experience that we don’t ever want to talk about. We keep it hidden in the deepest part of our minds. Or that one very sweet experience that made us realize how beautiful the world truly is.
Talk about your own bitter/sweet experiences with your partner. It will open doors to more intimacy and communication. Trust me!
BONUS TIP: Talk About Nothing At All
Yep! Silence is a beautiful thing in any relationship. Just being able to sit next to each other without feeling awkward or having to worry about what to talk about is a sign of a healthy relationship. Just know when to differentiate a comfortable silence and a silence that means there is trouble in Paradise.
Note: You don’t need to talk about all the topics in one day; pick a topic a day or two a week. Just work according to your moods and schedule. You will discover new topics to talk about every time you talk to each other. You won’t run out of things to talk about once you start talking effectively with each other!
Do you ever find yourself fishing for topics to discuss with your partner?