Every guy in the dating scene has a trick up his sleeve that he uses to get unsuspecting women into bed. In this post, I’m going to REVEAL the 3 types of guys in the dating scene and their seduction tricks.
I’ve realized that most ladies find it pretty difficult to judge what a guy’s thinking from the way he’s acting. Just about every woman I know – client or friend has talked at some point about how men frequently seem to mask their true intent with bizarre and misleading actions.
Some of the most common complaints I’ve heard are:
– They try to portray themselves as “players”, whose major claim to fame is an ability to seduce any woman they want.
– They assure a woman that they’re interested in a committed and loving relationship – and then disappear the next morning.
– They act aloof and disinterested around a woman they like – when in FACT, they’re just intimidated by her beauty, charm, or intelligence.
There are so many different ways that men inadvertently confuse women! And it’s not just the confusion that’s the issue here. In fact, some men can act in ways that actually turn women off.
The saddest part is most of these guys aren’t even doing it on purpose. Usually, these behaviors are being used as an ego shield – something to hide their REAL personality and insecurities behind.
But does the average woman have any clue that this is what he’s up to? Of course not! She just gets confused and ultimately discouraged by his apparent lack of interest, lack of subtlety, or cavalier approach to sexual love.
So how do you get a guy to drop the act and just be his REAL SELF? How do you get him to ditch the facade and get authentic about who he really is – and what he really wants from you?
How are you supposed to figure him out, if he can’t even be straight up about the most basic things?? Fortunately, the power is in your hands. By including just a few tried-and-true methods in your bag of social tricks, you can set him at ease and get him to relax enough to reveal his truth.
By ‘his truth’, I mean his sense of authenticity … his real personality, who he really is, and what he REALLY wants.) Incidentally, being your authentic self is an incredibly attractive characteristic to possess.
But it’s not easy – most of us have been brought up to act and behave in a certain way. We’ve been taught to mask parts of ourselves that others might find unattractive.
When you’re able to be your true, honest self, and embrace clarity in your personality and life, everything literally just seems to fall into place. Life becomes much easier – and you’ll finally start attracting the kind of men who are prepared to love the real YOU.
Let’s take a look at the 3 types of guys in the dating scene that women face constantly:
3 TYPES OF GUYS IN THE DATING SCENE (AND THEIR SEDUCTION TRICKS)
1. The Player
This is the guy who prides himself on his ability to insinuate himself into the pants of just about any woman he chooses. He thinks that because he knows how to manipulate a woman into liking him, through using certain behaviors and patterns of speech, then he’s “successful” with women – and with life in general.
After all, he’s living every guy’s most primal dream: he can sleep with a different gorgeous woman every night of the week if he feels like it. (At least, this is what he tells his friends.) You might hear this guy being referred to by his mates as a “pick-up artist”.
He might even have a “wing-man”, somebody who he goes out picking up girls with. This “wing-man” will frequently introduce his player friend in a rehearsed manner that promotes the player’s “high value” as a man.
For example, “Hey, this is my friend Brad. He dated Miss April, the Most Beautiful Girl in his senior year. Nice !” Or, “Check out this picture of Andre’s last girlfriend – how hot is that?”
He may even go as far as boasting about his powerful skills in the bedroom and how every woman he has handled keeps coming back for more!
If the player is skilled, these little “routines” will be done in a way that deliberately piques your curiosity. The average woman isn’t expecting a man to have the skills to manipulate her so subtly – so she falls for the bait, every time.
The point of these ‘player strategies’ is to make you think that he’s not affected by your own particular brand of beauty or charm … that you’re nothing special, and that, in fact, you’ll be LUCKY to get him.
Because you’re used to being pursued by desperate, supplicating men, this lack of interest will intrigue you, and you’ll begin to wonder why he’s not chasing after you.
Before you know it, you’ll actually be chasing HIM – all because he didn’t demonstrate any interest in you at first, and he made it clear that plenty of other women are interested in him.
That’s exactly how a player manipulates women into chasing after him and when he sleeps with them, he dumps them like a piece of used rag. OUCH!
But if you’re smart, you can cut through all this crap by not playing along with his silly games. After all, you’re not interested in dating a player (that is, a man who’s interested in you for the CHALLENGE you present to him, not the woman that you are.)
You’re interested in dating a real MAN – someone who’s prepared to prove to you that he’s interesting and worthy of your interest, but who is also self-confident enough to require that you be interesting to him.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
If you meet a player, and you think he could be worth the effort – as in, he’s not just some chimp who knows how to seduce females, but a genuinely intelligent, creative man who’s just headed in the wrong direction romantically – here’s what you can do:
GIVE HIM ONE CHANCE AND ONE CHANCE ONLY.
The moment a guy starts behaving in ways that you feel might be a trick to “get” you to feel or act a certain way…
For example, he might use the “Photo Routine“, which is where he shows you a stack of ‘holiday pics’ mixed with photos of himself posing with other beautiful women to get you to feel jealous, and see him as a desirable guy.
Or he might try to ‘play’ you when he recognizes that you are probably ‘higher value’ than him, and he will attempt to equalize your social status by subtly putting you down verbally (for example, telling you that you’ve got something in your ear when you don’t).
Remember that the aim of his “player” behavior is to prove to you that HE is the ‘catch’ here – more than you. He wants to manipulate you into thinking that he’s actually doing you a favor by allowing you the opportunity to become interested in him.
Why is he trying to manipulate you like this? To make it easier for him to hook up with you, of course. He thinks that if YOU think he’s a real ‘catch’, you’re not going to shoot him down. End of story. He doesn’t know that he doesn’t need to act like this to get your attention.
If you keep cool and don’t play his games by becoming flustered, emotionally wrought, or jealous, then you keep the upper hand, you intrigue him, and you WIN.
Just like that! By making him believe he is not special and that you don’t fall for his tricks, he’ll find a million ways to make you his girl. In fact, he’ll fall over himself just to impress YOU.
2. The Inappropriate Humorist
This is the guy whose primary mission is to make you like him by making you laugh. This is an admirable goal, and he’s got one thing right – laughter is definitely the key to a woman’s heart.
If he can make you laugh, he’s usually worth hanging out with. Kudos to him for figuring this out! However, this particular humorist is making one huge mistake: he doesn’t understand that, to get the girl, you need to couple HUMOR with RESPECT.
When you’re dealing with a guy who laughs at himself, invites you to laugh along at him, and uses inappropriate humor to get you giggling, he’s got a self-esteem issue.
He doesn’t understand that you can have a woman in stitches … But, if she’s laughing at you, all the humor in the world isn’t going to unlock her romantic potential.
She’ll never see you as a serious relationship partner; hell, she won’t even consider you unless she’s very desperate. To her, you’re just a joker who she goes to when she is sad or lonely to make her laugh.
Guys who make this mistake are usually just really, really nervous. They want to impress you. They want to make you laugh, and they want you to like them. Their nerves make them choose the ‘easiest’ route to this goal – CLOWNING AROUND.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
What you need to do in order to allow his true self to shine through is to build up his self-esteem where you are concerned. You need to make it clear that he’s a likable guy without the use of inappropriate humor.
The best way to do this is to not call direct attention to his lack of humorous finesse (which would just make him more nervous). You just need to use a simple and highly effective technique known as “positive reinforcement training.”
Ironically, this is a strategy that’s actually been developed by animal trainers. I’m not implying that men are like animals – but this ‘training’ method WORKS.
The concept is centered on rewarding the behavior that you like (with the validation he’s searching for – a giggle or a smile) and ignoring the behavior that you don’t like.
So, when he cracks a dumb joke, or tries to make you laugh at something that is not funny, don’t force a laugh. Don’t frown. Don’t ask him why he thinks that’s funny.
SIMPLY DO NOT REACT. Be Indifferent!
This is actually the most effective thing you can do. To this kind of guy, no attention is much worse than negative attention. So by ignoring his not-so-funny or inappropriate jokes, you’re sending a clear message that that kind of behavior is unwanted… and won’t help him get to know you better.
When you contrast the coldness of your withdrawal of attention with the pleasure he gets from your laughter reaction when he DOES do something worthy of a positive reaction (like making a genuinely funny joke, not making himself the butt of jokes)… he’ll catch on very quickly.
The positive reinforcement training is what will help him to realize that it’s his normal, relaxed, at-ease self that is attractive … not his tense, jittery, clowning self.
Sometimes, it’s hard to tell whether a guy genuinely isn’t interested – or whether he’s simply shy! If you feel like there’s a spark there, but you just can’t seem to break past those boundaries, you need to find out whether it’s true indifference or just shyness that’s raising the barriers.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
The best way to do this is to get the bit between your teeth, and strike up a conversation with him. Making this effort yourself, instead of waiting and hoping for him to do it, makes ALL the difference when it comes to figuring out what’s behind his coolness.
If he’s just shy, you’ll need to give him a few moments to warm up. Have a couple of questions prepared beforehand in case he’s a ‘listener’ rather than a ‘talker’ – and make sure they’re open-ended questions (ones that can’t be answered with a straight yes/no.)
You can choose questions like “Why did you move to this city” or “Why did you choose your current career?” Once you’ve asked him 3 questions or so, you’re engaged in an official conversation – which is a prime opportunity for him to relax and see that his shyness isn’t scaring you off, after all.
And if he’s not loosening up and his demeanor’s not changing, then that means one thing: simply that he’s not interested. If he’s a nice person, he’ll still go along with the conversation – but don’t be fooled into thinking that ‘politeness’ equals ‘attraction’.
All the conversation in the world won’t make a bit of difference if that spark’s missing – and trust me, you can tell when it’s there and when it’s not.
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