Oral sex is a great way to satisfy your partner sexually especially if you know what you’re doing. Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t know what they are doing and they end up making horrible mistakes when giving oral sex.
You may not realize it but when you don’t know what you’re doing in bed, your partner is going to be unsatisfied and may even shy away from having sex with you.
And when people are not sexually satisfied, they start looking for avenues to cheat on their partner. If you don’t want your partner to cheat on you, upgrade your bedroom skills. It’s really that simple!
Most people suck at giving oral sex because they don’t put in the right amount of effort needed to make it pleasurable; they just do it because their partner wants them to do it.
Couples who are great at giving oral sex are those who do it with their whole heart because they enjoy it, want to satisfy their partner and improve their sex lives.
Whether you’re a beginner or pro at giving oral sex you need to watch out for the following mistakes you might be making when going down on your partner:
6 HORRIBLE MISTAKES YOU NEED TO AVOID WHEN GIVING ORAL SEX
#1 Using too much saliva
This is one of the most common mistakes lovers make when giving oral sex. If you want to be great at giving oral, you need to watch the amount of saliva you’re drooling. When you apply too much saliva on your partner, it feels like being soaked in lubricant or oil; it’s totally yucky.
If you don’t like the way your partner tastes when you give oral, try popping some sweet-flavored candy or gum into your mouth before engaging in it.
I’ve discovered that when I pop a mint-flavored candy in my mouth before I go down on my partner, I actually love the taste and I no longer feel disgusted swallowing some of my saliva.
DON’T use too much saliva when you’re going down on your partner; learn to minimize the saliva so it can be enjoyable for both of you!
#2 Using teeth
Ouch! I don’t know why some people do this but they do it anyway. Using teeth when giving oral sex is a big NO! If you mistakenly use teeth when you’re going down on your partner, you’re going to leave some bruises behind.
If your partner doesn’t ask you to use teeth during oral sex, don’t use it. Many people find it extremely painful when you use teeth to bite their sex organs. On a serious note, try not to use teeth unless your partner finds it pleasurable.
#3 Not maintaining eye contact
I think many people refuse to maintain eye contact when giving oral sex because they are shy and feel vulnerable when they do it. Some partners may not see it as an issue but it’s a huge turnoff for some people though.
I love it when my boyfriend looks at me when he is eating my pussy; I find it incredibly sexy and it shows me he’s enjoying it too.
If you’ve been shy to maintain eye contact with your partner when giving oral sex, learn how to get rid of your insecurities and try to look at your partner for at least a few seconds when doing it.
Maintaining eye contact during oral sex helps to make you more confident and it shows you’re actually enjoying what you’re doing.
#4 Doing it without rhythm
When you go down on your partner, you need to use some rhythm to make the experience more pleasurable. A lot of people really don’t know what they are doing during oral sex; they just start without using any rhythm and when their partner isn’t satisfied, they feel inadequate.
How does it feel listening to a song without a good rhythm? It’s absolutely terrible! You may get every other thing right but if you don’t maintain a good rhythm during oral sex, you won’t be able to satisfy your partner.
There are a few movements people enjoy during oral sex― you can try the up-down movement, circular motion, twirling your head or side to side movement. You can also switch up between movements and observe the particular one your partner enjoys.
Don’t just use one movement throughout the process. Use one movement for a while and switch it up but don’t use more than three movements in each session.
#5 Being too hasty
Everyone is guilty of this one occasionally. It’s normal to get tired on some days when our partner wants some hot steamy sex. So, when you start giving your partner oral, you do it quickly hoping it will end fast so you can get some sleep.
Even though you’re trying to please your partner, it will be obvious you’re hurrying through it and your partner will surely notice. If you’re exhausted, don’t bother with oral sex; just get the party started, have a quickie and go to bed.
Create time during weekends to really engage in oral sex and satisfy your partner. Don’t force it when you don’t feel like it; you’re only going to produce horrible results by being hasty and your partner won’t be so happy about it.
#6 Doing it without passion
When you use passion to do anything, it usually turns out great and it applies to oral sex too. When you’re giving oral sex, be passionate about it and actually enjoy it. Lick, fondle, suck and twirl your head while doing it. Don’t do it without passion; put some fire into it.
I like to have fun with my partner while giving him oral. I just imagine I’m licking a candy with vanilla and chocolate flavor. It’s always exciting when I put my mind into it and he enjoys it more when I’m passionate during sex.
Everyone loves hot, steamy and passionate sex; try using more passion next time you’re giving oral sex. You’ll be blown away at the response from your partner!
If you’ve been making these horrible mistakes when giving oral sex, get rid of them and do better to improve your sex life. If you don’t feel like engaging in oral sex, don’t do it at all. But if you truly want to satisfy your partner sexually and improve your relationships, get better at giving oral sex.
If you are struggling to master the art of giving oral sex, I want to recommend two useful courses that will empower you with great oral sex skills that will keep your relationship closer than ever. Take a look at the courses I recommend for both men and women below: