Do you know the signs you’re in a healthy relationship? How do you know you have a healthy relationship?
Many couples assume their relationship is healthy because they love each other.
But love is not the only thing that makes a healthy relationship.
If you want to know if your relationship is healthy, here are 10 must-have qualities of a healthy relationship:
10 SURE SIGNS YOU’RE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
#1 Unconditional Love:
True love is the first quality of a healthy relationship. It doesn’t mean that because you love each other you won’t quarrel or fight.
It simply means that you love each other even when you’re angry at each other; you don’t allow the quarrels or small fights to blind you.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you still do the things you usually do to help each other even after a big fight.
Fights and quarrels are inevitable in a healthy relationship.
What matters is your ability to look beyond the conflicts and settle amicably because you love each other deeply.
#2 Great Support:
Another important quality of a healthy relationship is giving and receiving great support.
This means that you support each other through thick or thin.
Even when your partner doesn’t believe in his big scary dreams, you believe in him and support him all the way.
When others say he won’t succeed, you stand by him with a strong belief that he has the potential to succeed.
You give him emotional, physical, and financial support so he can achieve his goals because you know that when he is happy, you’re also happy.
You and your partner should encourage each other to go after important goals and be ready to give each other enough freedom to do so.
When times get hard, you back each other up instead up tearing each other down.
That doesn’t mean you can expect support for everything you do, though.
If your partner is nagging you to quit smoking, eat better, or not stay up late at the office every night, he’s probably doing it out of concern for your well being.
And that’s a healthy relationship!
#3 Honesty and Transparency:
A lot of couples fight with lies every day. Should I tell him the truth when I know he will be mad at me?
Or should I let him find out by himself and end our relationship? Those are the only two options you’ve got; to tell or not to tell.
In a healthy relationship, you always have to go with the truth no matter how awful it is.
If your partner loves you enough, he will get angry or sad for a while but afterwards, he will totally understand.
Honesty is one of the virtues that can make or break your relationship; it all depends on you!
#4 Absolute Trust:
Trust is one of the biggest issues couples face on a daily basis.
It is very easy to love someone but trust doesn’t come so easily, you have to work for it.
Once trust is broken in a relationship; it is very hard to regain it.
So, try not to break it in the first place! Trust him when he says he’s going to the barbing salon.
Don’t follow him to find out where he is really going. Don’t stalk him on Facebook to see who is liking his photos.
Don’t scroll through his chats looking for suspicious texts.
You have to trust your partner completely for your relationship to work out.
You can’t say you love him when you don’t trust him enough. Trust him and let go.
In a strong, healthy relationship, neither of you should become suspicious or jealous without clear cause.
If you have a niggling feeling that you cant trust your significant other, your relationship will go downhill fast.
That sense of trust doesnt develop overnight, though.
It comes from each partner keeping their promises and sticking to the rules of the relationship (no sleeping around, no lying about major issues, etc.) consistently over a period of time.
In a healthy relationship, you don’t abuse each other verbally, emotionally or physically.
You don’t use hurtful words on each other and you don’t hit each other.
How do you say you love someone and still beat them up at the slightest provocation? That’s not healthy love.
You don’t love someone and hurt them on purpose continuously. Healthy love is kind, patient and caring not hurtful.
Negotiating is one thing, using threats, guilt, and lies to manipulate a partner into doing something is another.
No one should have to put up with being bullied this way.
If your partner threatens to leave you, withhold physical affection, or in some other way punish you during every little disagreement, your relationship may not be as healthy as you think.
#6 Breathing Space:
This one goes hand in hand with trust.
When you trust your spouse completely, you don’t suspect him of cheating on you or hiding things from you.
You don’t question what he is doing when you’re not around; you just give him the breathing space or freedom he deserves.
In a relationship, adequate space is a must. It is non-negotiable!
You can’t cling to your partner every minute of the day because you’re afraid of losing him. That’s totally unhealthy!
If you love him, you have to let him go every day and if he loves you enough, he’ll come back to you every single day.
#7 Great Communication:
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you can talk about anything.
You feel free to be yourself and talk about everything with your partner.
You’re not afraid to talk about finances, health or other delicate topics.
In a healthy relationship, there’s no need to hide anything from your partner. He is your best friend and he totally gets you!
You can’t wait to get home from work so you can tell him about your crazy day at work or about that interesting story you heard from a colleague.
If you communicate well with your spouse, you have one of the best qualities of a healthy relationship.
#8 Mutual Respect:
Many people take this for granted. They assume that since their partner loves them, they don’t need to beg them to stay.
So, they talk to their partner anyhow they like and treat their partner like trash. They don’t have any respect for their partner.
In a healthy relationship, there needs to be mutual respect for a couple to stay together for the long haul.
Respect is the one of the main characteristics of a healthy relationship, whether its friendship, dating, or marriage.
A partner who respects you is willing to listen to you in a non-judgmental way and considers your interests when making any mutual decisions.
Any partner who disrespects you by making belittling comments about you, criticizing you in front of others, or disregarding your feelings is one you don’t need.
Treat your partner with respect so you can have a mutually beneficial relationship.
#9 Quality Time:
No matter how busy you are, you’ll make out quality time for your partner if you really love him.
When I say quality time, I don’t mean talking to your partner while you’re scrolling through Facebook or Instagram.
Quality time means dedicating a specific amount of time to be with your spouse without distractions or the interference of gadgets or kids.
You can set aside Sundays for a nice little picnic―just the two of you. It will be marvelous!
#10 Regular Romance:
If you make love regularly with your spouse, you’re a few steps away from being in a healthy relationship.
Of course, regularly doesn’t mean doing it every single day. That’s nearly impossible!
If you make love at least twice a week, that’s healthy enough.
Aside from getting under the sheets, you also need to create time for romance.
Don’t wait until you want to get intimate before you play with your spouse.
Do some romantic things regularly to help keep your relationship together.
You can engage in a fun romance play that may lead to the big O’. Although it’s not compulsory; just focus on connecting with your spouse.
You must not have romantic encounters all the time in order to keep your relationship stable.
The most important thing is that you keep trying to keep the spark alive!
There you have it! I’ve given you 10 sure signs you’re in a healthy relationship.
All you have to do is take a look at your relationship and tick all the qualities that are currently present.
Your relationship doesn’t need to have all the qualities but it should have at least 5 out of the 10 qualities mentioned above.
If your relationship doesn’t measure up, you have to work on it.
Find out the areas where you and your partner are lagging behind and work on them together.
How many of these qualities does your relationship have?