10 Tips to Choosing the Right Man to Marry

Who should I choose? Who should I marry? These are the possible questions that could run through the mind of a lady faced with the choice of selecting the most suitable life partner. 

At age 16, young girls have the perfect picture of the man they would likely end up with. Their diaries usually contain a list of traits or features the dream guy should possess.

“He should be tall, dark and handsome. He must be romantic, caring and rich. He should have a nice job, a big house, and a beautiful car. He should be a Doctor or an Engineer.” 

This is just an example of a young girl’s expectations at age 16.

Now, that young girl has grown into a pretty lady with suitors clambering for her hand in marriage. She is suddenly confused and overwhelmed. She thought she had everything planned out until now. 

She is faced with making one of the most important decisions in her life; choosing her soul mate. How would she know the right partner among these admirers?

Her choices are: Mr Chukwudi who is a rich business tycoon with an abominable pot belly; Ifeanyi, an engineer who works for an oil company and has thick Igbo accent; Stanley who is a secondary school teacher and Chris, her boyfriend who is still struggling to find a stable career.

Of course, her parents want her to marry Chukwudi, the businessman who they say will help them end their financial problems but her happiness lies in the arms of her beloved Chris. 

The last time he came near the house to ask her parents to be patient with him; they all turned their faces to the wall. After his long speech, he was asked to carry his poverty-stricken life out of their house and never return.

She is just 23 years old and her parents are already eager to ship her off to a man’s house simply because they want an end to their financial insecurity. 

She has always been willing to do anything to help her family but this time around, they have gone too far; they are asking for too much. The pressure keeps increasing daily and she’s going crazy. 

They even gave her an ultimatum; she had to give them an answer by next month. Her nights are full with worries and nightmares. 

If she marries Mr Chukwudi, she won’t lack a thing and her parents would be off her back but will she ever be happy with him? Ifeanyi isn’t such a bad idea but she has absolutely no feelings for him and he isn’t even her type. 

Stanley is really nice but he doesn’t just fit into her picture of Mr Right. Her friends keep saying she’s too picky but she knows she is just indecisive and confused at the moment. How did she even get here? The whole world has suddenly turned against her.

Are you facing similar challenges in choosing a life partner? Are your parents trying to pressure you into marrying someone you don’t love?  Are you scared you may make the wrong choice? Let me give you a few tips:


1. Marry
someone who knows you like the back of his hands
:

Dating
someone is a normal process for everyone but really connecting with someone is
a rare gift. Marry a man who understands you like a book; a man who knows when
you’re happy and when you’re not. 

Marry a man who knows when you need a warm
massage after a long day and not angry words. 

Marry that man who knows what
you’re going to say even before you say it. If you find a man who knows you
like the back of his hand, don’t let him pass you by.



2. Marry a man who likes you for who you are:


Only real
men know the value of a good woman. Marry that man who sees you all sweaty with
your hair strewn all over the place and still says “Baby, you look beautiful”
because he sees beyond your physical beauty. 

He knows that you’re even more
beautiful beneath and he appreciates you just the way you are. 

Marry a man who
doesn’t get mad at you for being you. He knows how crazy you can be but he
still sticks with you. Settle down with a man who knows how to handle your
madness whenever it shows itself.

3. Marry a
man who truly loves you
:

Marry a man
who can jump through fire for you; wait for that man who can lay down his life
for you just because he loves you. 

Marry that man who can’t live without you
even for a second; wait for that man who loves watching you sleep and listening
to your heart beat. Settle down with a man who loves you from the depths of his
heart and is not afraid to say it to you every day. 

Remain with that man who
sees your sleepy face in the morning and still kisses it because he is happy to
have you by his side.


4. Marry
someone you truly love
:

Sometimes we
find a man loves us so much but we simply can’t reciprocate the love. When you
find that person who makes your heart beat a thousand times faster, marry him. 

Marry that man who gives you a hundred butterflies in your stomach and a
million goose bumps on your skin each time you see him. 

Settle down with
someone who makes your world go round; that person whose presence brings
immeasurable joy to your heart.

5. Marry
your best friend:


A friend is
someone who is always there for you through thick or thin. If you find a good
friend who adores you, marry him. 

When love fades, friendship is the only thing
that keeps a couple going till they fall in love with each other again.
 

Marry a man you can freely talk about a lot of things; someone you can
share your joys and sorrows, successes and failures with.


6. Get married to a
man who knows all your flaws:


Love is
seeing all the flaws in someone and saying ” You’re weird but I still love
you”. If you find a man who tolerates all your bullshit and still tells
you he loves you, walk down the aisle with him. 

We all have our bad days and it
is only our loved ones who know how to manage our inadequacies.  If your
man hears you belching loudly and he just laughs over it, stick with him.



7. Marry a man who makes you happy:
 

Happiness is
something that can never be bought with money. There are many wealthy couples
who have everything they could ever ask for but they are still unhappy.

Marry someone who creates time to make you smile and laugh like a hyena. Whenever he is around, you can’t help but laugh out loud; hearing his voice
alone makes you smile. Marry that man who goes out of his way to make sure
you’re comfortable and happy.

8. Marry a
man who brings out the best in you:


We meet a lot
of people during the course of our lives but only a few have a lasting impact
on us. When you find that man who encourages you to be the very best in your
chosen career or field, marry him. 

Marry that man who isn’t intimidated by your
success and growth. Stay with that man who enjoys helping your career grow
because he knows how happy you get when you succeed at something.


9. Settle down with a
man who is God fearing and Hardworking:


The fear of
the Lord is said to be the beginning of wisdom. When you meet a man who serves
the Almighty God with his whole heart, marry him because he is a wise man.
Marry a man who doesn’t forget to help others in need because of his kind
heart. 

When God becomes the centre of your marriage, nothing can destroy it.
Marry a God fearing and hardworking man who knows that his duty is to provide
for his family at all times. 

10. Marry
your soulmate:


When you
meet that man who gives you a reason to smile every day, marry him. A soul mate
is  like who connects with your soul and not just your body. 

He
understands you perfectly and he knows when something is wrong with you because
he automatically senses it. Your happiness and well-being are his only concerns
and he would do everything in his power to keep you happy. Marry that man who
makes your life complete.

Marriage
isn’t a child’s play. Marriage only begins after the wedding ceremony when all
the guests return to their various homes and you’re left with one man for the
rest of your life. 

When all your kids grow up and leave the nest, the only
person you will have left will be your spouse and not even your parents. No
matter the pressures remain strong; don’t let anyone force you into marrying
someone you don’t love.

Follow your
heart and marry your heart throb. Marriage is for a lifetime and your
parents won’t be there for you when you become unhappy in your marriage. 

Never let a third party decide for you; you’re the only one who knows what you
want.

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