7 Things a Man Really Wants in a Relationship

7 things a man really wants in a relationship

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What do men want from women? Every woman wants to know what a man really wants in a relationship and this is normal.

As women we’re often obsessed with the idea that there is a magic formula to keeping a guy interested or making him fall in love but there isn’t.

The truth is, every man has different things he wants from a woman or from a romantic relationship.

Women also have specific things they need from a man or from a committed relationship and if they don’t get it, they’ll move on.

It’s your responsibility to figure out if a man is really worth your effort or not and you can know this by observing your man.

When you find a serious man who has potential and is likely to commit to a serious relationship, you can then proceed to give him those things a man really wants in a relationship.

It’s really important to make sure that he’s serious because there are a lot of guys out there who are just time wasters and heart breakers.

But if you find a good man who genuinely loves you and wants to commit to you, there are certain relationship needs he may expect you to provide without complaining.

So, what does a man really want in a serious relationship?

This question often comes up in the mind of every woman who is looking for a decent man to build a healthy relationship with.

It has been asked by women in the past, it is currently asked by women today and will be asked by women in the future too.

7 things a man really wants in a relationship

Truthfully, the answer to this question doesn’t come easily because every relationship is different.

I’m just going to give you 7 cornerstones that form a solid foundation for any relationship especially between a man and a woman.

These stones hold the key for any woman to understand what men want in a real relationship.

This list doesn’t necessarily apply to every man in the world because some men clearly don’t know what they want.

And they expect a million and one things from a woman that they cannot provide themselves.

With that aside, read the following post with a pinch of salt and know that every man is a bit unique.

You’ll have to study a particular man for a while and know his core relationship needs before you can truly understand him.

If you can’t seem to figure out what a man wants from you, it’s a good idea to ask him “What do you expect to gain from this relationship or what do you really want from me?”

For the sake of curiosity, you can go ahead and read some of the things a man really wants in a romantic relationship.

7 Things a Man Really Wants in a Relationship

7 things a man wants in a relationship

#1 Intimacy

The number one thing a man really wants in a relationship is intimacy.

There is little doubt that most men are obsessed with this. It is a biological need, and men should not be blamed for wanting it.

However, intimacy alone cannot build a long-lasting relationship.

It can bring a couple together but it cannot hold them together beyond a certain point.

You should understand that a man finds happiness and fulfillment in being intimate with a woman he loves or finds attractive.

A woman who is willing to reach out and unite in the act of making love is more likely to bond with a man than a woman who uses it as a manipulative tool.

You need to know that intimacy is not just making love.

Intimacy is closeness, cuddling, sitting together talking, watching a movie with your man etc. 

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#2 Companionship

Another thing a man really wants in a relationship is a good companion he can get along with.

Serious men like companionship; they dislike being alone all the time. It makes them happy to spend time with a woman they really like.

They want women with whom they can have deep and meaningful conversations. If you often use great conversation starters while talking, a man will find you interesting to be with.

Committed men want women with whom they can share their likes and dislikes, their fears, failures and successes, their weaknesses and strengths.

They want women who can empathize with their failures and revel in their triumphs.

But this doesn’t mean you have to pamper him or pretend to like everything he is doing. It’s okay to be yourself but try to be his friend too.

#3 A Stable and Reliable Partner

When a man is serious with a woman he looks for stability in the relationship.

He wants to know that you’ll always be there for him no matter what.

He needs you to have his back when things are great and when they’re not so good.

Most serious men don’t value women who are selfish or uncommitted.

If you want to have a successful relationship with a man, don’t be selfish or greedy.

Don’t always put your needs first and insist on having your way all the time.

Give him that stability he’s looking for by staying with him through thick and thin.

Let him know he can rely on you sometimes. Be his shoulder to cry on and cheer him up when the going gets tough.

Don’t jump into another relationship simply because he can’t afford to buy certain things for you.

If you love him and he has a future, grow with him. He’ll appreciate you for it and reciprocate your affection.

Use this Relationship Needs Worksheet to find out what a man really wants from you.

7 things a man really wants in a relationship

#4 Emotional support

Men tend to appear courageous and strong in almost every thing they do but they can’t put up this facade all the time.

Even though they never want to be seen as weaklings or emotional beings, men show their true nature when they trust you and when they do that they expect real acceptance.

So, another important thing a man really wants in a committed relationship is genuine support from his woman.

It is ideal as a woman to give your man emotional support whenever he needs it and when you can give it.

Try to encourage him by constantly telling him how much confidence you have in him. This will bring out the best in your man.


#5 Good Looks

Men love beautiful women. They are easily attracted to beautiful things they see. And by beauty, I don’t mean being perfect or flawless.

They just want a woman to look good all the time even when you’re at home. This is not only true while you’re dating but even after marriage.

You don’t need to be a model but just look good. When you take care of yourself you can be beautiful both in and out.

Something that really bothers men is when you come home from work, take a shower and dress in some ugly dress that you wouldn’t be seen wearing outside or would answer the door in.

They get even more pissed when your hair looks unkempt, you don’t do anything with it and you basically look terrible.

Have some self-respect and wear something that you could answer the door in.

Some women refuse to take care of themselves and this completely disgusts men.

Women who treat their bodies with a nonchalant attitude tend to lose the interest of their men.

A woman who knows how to take care of herself will always keep a man interested in her.

7 things a man really wants in a relationship


#6 Private space

The best relationships are those where women are willing to be independent and give their men quality time to unwind.

In every healthy relationship, couples know when to spend time together and when to stay apart. If you notice that your man needs some alone time to himself, give him some.

Every man needs space to sort out his thoughts, goals, and plans. You don’t have to be attached to him all the time.

Engage in activities you enjoy alone, make friends and have some hobbies so you don’t appear clingy to a man.

Give your man some breathing space when he needs it and keep yourself busy with your own personal affairs.

#7 Mutual Respect

Finally, both men and women need respect if a relationship is going to remain healthy.

Mutual respect is vital in every romantic relationship because without it, there is going to be emotional abuse and resentments.

Be willing to listen to your man and study his personality to know what he can tolerate.

Respect his interests even though they may be quite different from yours. If he’s out with friends, treat him with respect and don’t take him for granted because of his love.

Give him adequate space to follow his interests which may include sports, politics or other activities.

To make sure everyone is treated fairly in the relationship, create some relationship rules and set clear boundaries that every partner will respect.

7 things a man really wants in a relationship

Now, you know the 7 things a man really wants in a relationship but this post is not entirely comprehensive. 

We all want different things in every relationship we form with people.

The key to understanding a man and knowing what he wants, is to be yourself and learn his personality.

Every man is different so don’t expect all these points to apply to your current partner. Take your time and study him closely.

If you try to understand what your man wants, you’ll be in a better position to build a healthy relationship with him.

Use this Relationship Needs Worksheet to figure out what a man wants from you.


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13 thoughts on “7 Things a Man Really Wants in a Relationship

  1. Great post. I used to be checking constantly this blog and I am impressed!

    Extremely useful information specifically the last section πŸ™‚ I handle such information much. I used to be looking for this particular information for a very long time. Thank you and good luck.

    1. I’m glad you found what you were looking for on my blog. Thanks for being an avid reader of Moments with Jenny.

  2. lewis musonda says:

    Most women care about others but not trying to improve things, things to them is
    not very important

  3. This is so true because I just realised that it’s almost in line with what my partner will say in regard to what he expects from me that am lagging.

  4. I agree. It should also be reciprocated. Both should receive these things in a relationship.

  5. This is not true… I have all the 7 criteria what a men wants but after 4yrs in a relationship he lose interest. He gets bored with me.

    1. Hi Tiff,

      Relationships are often complicated. Sometimes even the best marriages fall apart. It all boils down to compatibility and determination from both partners.

    2. Predrag Tazic says:

      It’s not about true or not,but it’s about what men feeling. I am sorry for your lost, but if you did all of this and he left you that’s mean that you deserve better one definitely! It was same with me and my ex gf…

      1. I really love this article and a lot of women need to read this. Intimacy is not just making love. Intimacy is closeness, cuddling, sitting together talking, watching a movie with my spouse or girl friend with her laying in my arms and many other things.

        And looking good is a very big thing. Beauty is what I see. She doesn’t need to be a model. When you have a good heart, you show interest and take care of yourself you can be beautiful.

        My wife doesn’t care about her appearance and it completely disgusts me, and she doesn’t care that I don’t like it.

    3. I wish I could find someone like that.
      I did everything for my wife then she divorced me she said she like me when I was more mean to her

  6. Rebecca agaber says:

    I love to hear this again

  7. Pulkit Channan says:

    Completely true. Men do need some space to get their mind right. Support him, stand with him like his queen, give him space to get his thoughts cleared and he’ll treat you like a queen. Most of the men are simple creatures, we don’t like to complicate things. And yes, no matter what, a true women will stand by his man, no matter what. Thanks Jennifer, I could relate to every single point.

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