I recently surveyed my readers and discovered that a lot of them wanted to know how to deal with a jealous partner.
Have you ever dealt with jealousy in your relationship?
Trust is one of the major foundations of a strong relationship.
And it’s really important that you try your best to maintain it because it’s hard to regain when lost.
One common thing with jealous partners is a lack of trust and insecurity in a relationship.
A jealous partner is often afraid that he will be cheated on or dumped when he’s so committed to a relationship.
The last thing he wants is to be heartbroken so he tries to make you understand with different tactics.
He is often reminded of the possibility of losing you to another man which makes him look for constant reassurance in the relationship.
He suspects you for no reason and accuses you of being too distant or busy even when you’re making serious efforts to be connected to him.
It’s not entirely his fault though; he’s only looking for assurance and stability in a relationship.
But, there are times when it’s just too much and you can’t take any more of it.
So, what can you do if jealousy is a major problem in your relationship? Here are 5 subtle ways to deal with a jealous partner:
5 SUBTLE WAYS TO DEAL WITH A JEALOUS PARTNER
1. Reassure him of your loyalty:
If you notice your partner is getting jealous and overprotective all the time, don’t get angry.
It’s just a show of love and protection.
We all want stability in our relationship and we can only get this if we are truly sure of our partner’s loyalty.
If your partner seems suspicious or jealous in your relationship, remind him of your undying love and affection for him.
You can get this message across by sending regular messages like “I miss you” and “I’m thinking of you” when you’re not together.
If you do this and he refuses to stop throwing jealous tantrums, sit him down and tell him how hurt you feel that he doesn’t trust you.
You can also tell him that you need him to stop acting paranoid and just focus on the relationship.
Let him know that you won’t tolerate his childish behaviour around you. You need a mature and responsible man to love you.
2. Don’t flirt with other people:
This is really important because most people unknowingly do this thinking it’s harmless but it’s not.
When you flirt with other people in front of your partner, he’ll start having doubts about your real feelings for him.
If you don’t want your partner to get mixed feelings about you, don’t flirt with other people in any way.
Don’t hide your phone from him when you’re chatting with friends online.
Be transparent in all your activities to alleviate his suspicions.
3. Be more romantic:
Who doesn’t like fairytales and hot passion? I’m sure most of us do.
If you notice your partner is getting jealous often, check your skills in the bedroom department.
Maybe you’re slacking a bit and you’re not giving your partner the attention he needs in the bedroom.
When couples have issues of jealousy, it often revolves around an unsatisfactory love life. Learn to be more romantic.
Give him back rubs when he’s tired, hug him for no reason and kiss him before he goes out.
These little things will let him know that he’s important to you.
4. Don’t keep secrets from him:
If you want your partner to trust you wholeheartedly, don’t keep secrets from him.
Tell him things he needs to know in order to move your relationship forward.
It’s okay to have secrets from your past that you don’t want to share because you know it will do your relationship more harm than good.
But, in your current relationship, don’t leave your partner in the dark.
Carry him along in anything you’re doing or presently working on.
He will feel more relaxed and secure when he knows you’re not hiding any terrible secrets from him.
When you’re transparent in your relationship, he won’t have any reason to suspect you or mistrust your actions.
5. Let him into your private space:
In addition to not keeping secrets from your partner, learn to allow him into your private space even if it’s for a little while.
I’m not saying you should give away your private life or disclose every confidential info but let him have access to your personal gadgets.
If you must lock your phones with passwords, let your partner know them so he can easily access them if he wants.
Honestly, if you have nothing to hide, you won’t need to lock your gadgets at all.
As long as you’re open, he won’t have any reason to go through your things looking for evidence of infidelity.
If you live apart, you can give him an extra key to your apartment so he can have access to it when he comes around.
This will also tell him that he’s the only man in your life.
If you break up with him or you start to feel uncomfortable with the arrangement, you can always change the locks on the door and your passwords.
Only do this if you completely trust your partner or you’ve been together for a long time and you’re ready to commit to a serious relationship.
If you do this, you’ll greatly remove the urge to snoop around in your phones or laptop looking for suspicious activity.
Now, there is a great deal of things we can handle but sometimes when it gets out of control, the best is to let it go and move on.
If your partner still doesn’t trust you after all you do or he threatens to hit you, leave him as soon as you can.
A better man will surely come along and sweep you off your feet.
Have you ever had to deal with a jealous partner before? If you have, let me know how you handled it.