A part of me knew he just wanted to find out if I was celebrating it alone or with someone special.
Or maybe I just wanted him to think that. Maybe it would be consoling if I thought that he still cared about me.
I secretly wished he would tell me he missed me terribly and wanted me back. But it didn’t happen!!
The next thing she said was “na who ex don help for this life? I was baffled by her question and I asked if she wasn’t in touch with any of her exes and she replied with a loud “God forbid”.
When I asked her why she felt that way towards her exes, she narrated her ordeal to me.
Her last relationship was with one of her church members. He also happened to be her colleague at work. They did almost everything together; at home, work and even in church.
Several months later, they realised they were deeply in love with each other. When he proposed, she hastily accepted. She felt on top of the world.
She received the shock of her life when she heard her fiancé was getting married in a month’s time and she wasn’t his bride to be!
He was getting married to a some girl he had impregnated!! After the wedding, she quit her job and cut of all contact with her ex till this day.
I know a few friends who are friends with their exes. They keep in touch occasionally and there are no strings attached.
If you ask me if I still keep in touch with my exes, my answer would be yes and no. Do you ask why? I’ll tell you…
I keep in touch with exes who broke up with me maturely; without drama, maybe because we both drifted apart and there was no future for us.
But I don’t keep in touch with exes who abused me or cheated on me. I completely cut them off until I’m ready to speak to them again. It could take a few months or even years before I accept friendship from an ex.
I think everyone has different opinions concerning their exes. If you’ve decided to maintain contact with your ex, please take note of these tips:
Avoid bringing up issues from your old relationship. Instead talk about what you are currently doing and your future plans. Don’t reminisce about the beautiful moments you spent together. It could bring back crazy feelings you’re not ready to entertain.
Don’t assume that you’re just going to continue from where you left off. Don’t bring up activities you used to do together as a couple. Refrain from contacting your ex daily. No excessive calling or texting.
If things begin to get tensed or complicated, please back out of the relationship. You don’t want to have another heart break, trust me. Don’t allow anyone force you into what you don’t want.
Do you still keep in touch with your ex?