I just read an interesting and eye-opening book about building healthy romantic relationships written by renowned author, Guy Blaise.
It made me realize that a lot of relationships and marriages end up broken because most people don’t know how to make it work.
If you’ve ever wondered how to get the relationship you truly deserve or how to have a more passionate relationship with your partner, you need to read Love Like The French.
The author is a French man who has a vast knowledge and a truckload of experiences in building romantic relationships.
Guy Blaise shares his amazing discoveries about the French and the way they love differently. Paris isn’t the city of love for no reason.
The French people know what it means to really love and to be loved. It’s time we all learnt a thing or two from them so that we can enjoy incredibly satisfying relationships.
If you’ve been struggling to build or maintain a successful relationship with someone special, you’ll enjoy reading his book.
It is the perfect guide for people who are yearning for better romance and a healthier relationship.
Since I’m really passionate about helping couples build healthy relationships, I’m going to share a few tips I learned from this insightful relationship book.
7 TIPS FOR BUILDING HEALTHY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
Use these tips to add more romance in your love life and improve your relationship:
#1 Always communicate your feelings
There is an increasing number of unhealthy relationships because couples ignore the need for good communication from the onset.
This is the number one mistake most people in new relationships make.
They are afraid that if they communicate their real feelings, they’ll lose their romantic partners and so it’s best to just go with the flow and take anything you get.
Don’t be shy to talk about your own needs, wants and desires in a romantic relationship because your happiness and satisfaction depend on it.
According to relationship expert, Guy Blaise, “Loving a person but not expressing it is like wrapping a gift without giving it.”
This means that couples who want to build healthy romantic relationships need to express their feelings openly.
It is unfair to hide your feelings and pretend like everything is okay when it’s not.
Don’t put your feelings on the back burner and deny your inner voice.
You deserve to enjoy a secure romantic relationship where healthy communication, mutual respect and emotional connection are prioritized.
Settling in a relationship often leads to dissatisfaction, resentment and conflict. And those are the perfect ingredients for a toxic relationship.
Being in a one-sided relationship is not fun either and if you’re the only one making sacrifices or giving 100% of your love, it will be quite devastating for you in the long run.
Be confident enough to talk about your feelings because honest communication is one of the foundational pillars of a strong relationship.
#2 Love passionately
Do you often express your love for your partner even when there is no special occasion? Love isn’t meant to be expressed only on Valentine’s day.
If you’re a busy couple, it may be challenging to find the right moment to show love to your partner because you’re juggling so many things at the same time.
The truth is, happy marriages don’t just happen; they’re intentionally built over a long period of time.
Little expressions of love and acts of kindness are the building blocks that lead to a loving relationship.
Don’t be afraid to freely express your love to your partner in any way they can understand.
You can show love with sweet text messages, thoughtful phone calls or by using your partner’s love language.
#3 Be super romantic
For most people, romance begins in the bedroom just before lovemaking but it’s not supposed to be that way.
Women especially find it a little bit difficult getting in the mood without prior flirting and some emotional connection earlier in the day.
Relationship coach Guy Blaise says, “Romance can be something as simple as a surprise text in the middle of the day with a quote out of your favorite book.”
In Love Like The French, he gives a lot of romantic ideas to help couples stay emotionally connected to each other.
If you discover that you’re gradually falling out of love with your partner, start dating each other again and do those little romantic things that light up a fire in your heart.
Instead of hoping that things will just magically fall into place, recommit to building your romantic love all over again.
It may not be as easy as it sounds especially if you both have busy schedules but it’s possible to find a way around it and make it work.
When you hear romance, you may feel that you have to go to great heights to show your partner how much you love them but the most romantic gestures are often simple and inexpensive.
You don’t need to buy luxurious gifts for your partner if you can’t afford them at the moment.
A passionate kiss before bed, a warm hug in the morning or breakfast in bed can be equally romantic if you do it the right way.
#4 Prioritize bonding time
One thing a lot of people don’t know is that passion eventually fades in intimate relationships no matter how intense the sexual chemistry is at the beginning.
Couples who remain happy and connected to each other are the ones who never stop doing fun things together to keep the passion burning.
Research shows that healthy couples who always engage in bonding activities tend to remain together for the long haul.
Without adequate bonding time, you’ll end up in a boring relationship where your partner becomes just like a roommate.
It’s important for couples in a committed relationship to create time to explore and discover new things about each other.
If your goal is to build long-term love, spend quality time with your partner every day, try new things as a couple and don’t stop exploring on a regular basis.
That’s what keeps the love alive in successful relationships.
You can easily bond with your partner by cuddling in bed, watching your favorite movie, cooking a meal or playing an adult game together.
#5 Keep your love life private
Lack of privacy and healthy boundaries often result into an unhappy relationship.
Everyone has different needs and it’s important to know how your partner feels about you sharing their private life with another person even if it’s someone they know.
Getting advice from people who have different opinions to share about what you should and shouldn’t do in your relationship is a recipe for disaster.
You don’t need to hang your dirty linen outside for everyone to see.
You’re not the only one with relationship problems so keep your relationship private and avoid complaining about your partner to friends or family.
Even though they mean well, your trusted friend or family member isn’t qualified to help you deal with your relationship problems especially if they’re complex.
Good relationships involve two people who are willing to work with each other to maintain a strong bond no matter what it takes.
A great way to handle your grievances is to talk about it constructively with your partner and find a common ground together.
If you can communicate freely and listen to each other patiently, it will be a lot easier to create a loving relationship without interference.
Open communication is an important part of a healthy relationship.
If you can’t sit down to discuss with your partner about anything bothering, you may struggle to maintain a long-term relationship that’s mutually satisfying.
If the problem seems to be getting out of hand, seek professional help as soon as possible.
#6 Be mysterious and spontaneous
Romantic relationships tend to get boring after a while so it’s important to add a little spontaneity to spice things up.
When you get into a comfortable routine as a couple, it may be difficult to keep the spark alive. That’s where mystery and spontaneity come in.
Let your relationship be like a hide and seek game where you use unexpected surprises to keep your partner yearning for more.
Have some naughty little tricks up your sleeves to add more excitement and fun in the bedroom.
If you’re always passive in bed, make the first move and take the lead occasionally.
Being spontaneous like this can improve your love life and keep things exciting in the bedroom.
It’s understandable if you have to schedule sex but having a quickie in a new location is a nice way to avoid getting into a rut.
#7 Have healthy relationship rules that are realistic
Do you have any deal-breakers you can never tolerate in a relationship?
Tell your partner about them as soon as you start dating so that there won’t be any surprises popping up as the relationship progresses.
It’s important to share everything you know you won’t ever compromise on with someone you’re in a romantic relationship with.
This is the best way to promote healthy behaviors and build trust as a couple.
If you want to build a healthy relationship, be clear on what you can and cannot tolerate in a relationship because once you’re married, you’re stuck with each other till death.
Unless of course you have plans to divorce later in the future but that shouldn’t be an option if both couples are willing to put in the work.
This doesn’t mean that you can boss your partner around or put them on a treadmill to do your bidding.
It’s wise to have realistic healthy boundaries that are accepted and adhered to by both partners. A rule shouldn’t be forceful or harmful to anyone.
The secret to healthy romantic relationships is total acceptance and mutual compromise.
If you have any sexual boundaries that you’re not willing to cross in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to tell your partner about it so you can both find healthy ways of expressing your intimate love.
Revealing your true nature can be challenging at times because you’re afraid that your partner will leave and you’ll be alone without a lover.
The good news is, sometimes when a relationship ends, it’s because you weren’t with the right person for you.
If you stay for the wrong reasons, you’ll still end up alone and unhappy even in a seemingly perfect relationship.
There are many other key elements that are necessary for building healthy romantic relationships.
If you’re looking for more romance tips from an expert, get a copy of Love Like The French and learn how to build an absolutely romantic relationship that can last for a lifetime.
About The Author
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life.
As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are the most important ingredients for building a successful relationship.
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