Do you know the common mistakes women make in bed that turn men off and make them look unattractive?
Most times, women do certain things that make a man lose interest in them and this can lead to disconnection in a relationship.
Knowing and avoiding these mistakes women make in bed will help to improve your sex life.
And when your love life is great, you’ll have a healthier and stronger relationship with your partner.
When it comes to a couple’s intimate life, there are many things that will cause it to flow and cease.
Sometimes, it is exciting and other times boring. It’s not entirely your fault!
A romantic relationship is a two-way street that involves both partners giving and receiving 100% of their love.
I know work, tight schedules, household chores and probably kids take up so much of your time and energy.
You’re often so tired at the end of the day that having intercourse with your partner becomes a lot of work too.
So, when he bothers you enough for it, you just reluctantly open your legs and let him in without really being involved.
There’s a lot more attached to making love than just opening your legs to satisfy your man’s needs in bed.
Lovemaking is an art that involves gentleness, tenderness, passion, patience, and enough foreplay.
You need to be involved to experience how beautiful and amazing it is!
Honestly, if you put more effort to really satisfy your man, your love life will improve beyond your expectations.
Being irresistible in bed can make your connection stronger and long-lasting.
It’s true that there are other things you can offer a man beyond physical intimacy like great communication, emotional support, and true friendship.
But, lovemaking is a big deal for most men!
If you want to improve your intimate life and keep your man happy, you need to give him what he really wants in bed.
And most men won’t tell you what they secretly like in bed, so you’ll need to figure out the right techniques to discover his secret fantasies.
Men are pleasure-seeking creatures who will always choose a woman with better lovemaking skills if they have the option.
Are you giving him what he truly wants in bed?
Lack of satisfaction in the bedroom is one of the leading causes of break up and divorce among couples.
90% of men who have affairs and cheat say they were not truly satisfied in bed.
Yes, it is a pathetic reason to be unfaithful to your partner, but it is a reality.
Research shows that couples with an active sex life tend to live long, have stronger emotional connections to each other, have a lower divorce rate, and remain healthier even as they age.
In this post, I’m going to share a few mistakes women make in bed and how to avoid them while getting intimate with your partner.
9 SILLY MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE IN BED
These are some of the biggest turn offs for guys in bed and if you know them, you’ll be able to satisfy your man better during lovemaking.
#1 Turning From Hot Mama to Boss Lady
I know you’re busy and you’re working hard to earn a living but please, don’t forget the dude.
Don’t treat him as if he is insignificant or as if he’s a thorn in your flesh.
Intimacy shouldn’t be seen as a chore but a way of connecting with your partner and expressing your love for each other.
This is one of the most common mistakes women make in bed that I hear men complain about often.
While the rigors of everyday life can have an impact on your desire level, it most likely doesn’t extinguish it.
You need to nurture your intimate relationship. Pay enough attention to your partner and connect with him more.
Drop romantic love notes for him to discover during the day or send him passionate text messages to make him crave you while he’s still at the office.
This is a huge turn on for most men!
Wear some attractive underwear beneath your work clothes and surprise him when he gets home. Do something that reminds him of the irresistible diva you are.
If you’re often in boss lady mode all the time, your partner will be afraid to approach you when he really wants to connect with you.
Sometimes, create time for yourself and your man where you can both reconnect with each other through lovemaking.
#2 Being Unresponsive
A lot of women do this especially when they are too tired or not in the mood to get intimate with their partner.
When he asks for it, they just lie down and let him do his thing without even getting involved.
Intercourse with a woman who is passive in bed is not an exciting experience for most men. Don’t just lie there and tell him to do ‘his thing’.
Get involved. Kiss him passionately. Move your hips. Make some encouraging noises.
Run your hands all over his back. Lick his earlobes. Suck his nipples. Do something to show that you are actually present.
It’s easy for women to perform in bed without really being present and this can be detrimental to your love life.
You don’t have to pretend as if you’re enjoying it when you’re obviously not. You’re not a robot who was created to only please a man.
You deserve to enjoy physical intimacy too. So don’t see it as a way of doing your man a favor when it’s supposed to be mutual.
Instead of enduring the lovemaking process, talk to your partner so you can both work on a way to make intercourse more enjoyable for you.
A great way to be active in bed is to give your man head and be willing to allow him go down on you too.
Most men love receiving and giving oral a lot but some women refuse to do it or even bother to learn how to do it the right way.
One of the things men hate in bed is when a woman refuses to be involved during lovemaking and the whole process seems a little bit one-sided.
The fastest way to make a man super satisfied in bed is to give him oral often especially when he doesn’t have to beg you for it.
If you don’t know how to give him head, please learn how to do it for the sake of your man and your relationship.
Download my intimacy ebook, The Irresistible Diva, to learn how to go down on your man like a pro and drive him crazy with desire for you.
If lovemaking isn’t pleasurable for you, find out what’s missing!
Try different positions in bed, take warm baths before bedtime, or get a hotter nightie that gets you in the mood.
#3 Not Speaking Up About Your Needs
Similar to men, women also fall victim to the idea that your partner will know or sense what’s going on with you.
The truth is, a couple cannot enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life without effective communication. There is no magic about it!
If something is going on that you don’t like, try to speak up in a constructive manner and let your man know what’s missing in your sex life.
Don’t pretend as if everything is okay when you’re not happy. Denying yourself pleasure can lead to an unsatisfactory sex life and a sexless marriage.
When you are not comfortable with a particular lovemaking position, tell your partner so you can try a better one.
Don’t say “He’s the one who needs it. Let him get it over with.” If you would like more romance or a different type of lube, say it.
When you’re honest about sex and you freely communicate your needs, you’ll be able to experience even more excitement when making love to your partner.
Sometimes, when you try to speak up about your needs, your man might become defensive if you criticize him.
So, instead of saying “You don’t always do this or that,” try “I would like it if you go down on me more often”.
Talking to your partner about your desires, needs and wants in the bedroom can be challenging but if you do it the right way, you’ll get positive results.
A man who really loves you will listen to you, understand your feelings and work with you to achieve a stronger relationship.
If you find it difficult reaching orgasm alone or during lovemaking, discuss it with your partner and work through it together.
Sex is not meant to be painful or one-sided. It’s a beautiful act of love between two people who want to make each other happy.
Don’t try to hide your intimate needs from your man; be open with him so you can find a positive solution to your problem.
Instead of secretly hating sex because it’s not fun, find a way to have an open conversation about it with your partner.
If your man had a clear idea of what you crave, he could do a better job providing it. He’s a man. In a man’s body. With a man’s hormones.
He has almost no idea what makes you feel good. You have to teach him, show him, tell him, demonstrate to him, and ask him for specific things you want in bed.
If you don’t tell him that you’re unsatisfied in bed, he’ll never know and you’ll end up stuck with a partner who doesn’t please you enough sexually.
Feeling shy to talk about intimacy with your partner? You’re not alone!
Sex can be a weird topic to talk about especially if you’ve not done it before.
These 201 Intimate Questions For Couples will help you talk about your intimate and secret desires with your partner without feeling shy or ashamed.
#4 Not Taking Care Of Your Body
What most men find as a lasting turn on more than anything is the way a woman carries herself.
Her confidence and charisma are what attracts him to her. Nothing is as sexy to a man as a woman’s confidence.
But don’t get wrong though. Confidence doesn’t mean you need to do a strip-tease for him.
Just knowing that your man loves you and wants every inch of your body should be enough to make you appear confident in bed.
A lot of women let themselves go and become nonchalant about self-care when they get into a long-term relationship.
Doing this can make your man lose interest in you overnight and find you unattractive in bed.
If you always look down on your body, you can do something about it by working out if you want or changing your wardrobe if you can afford it.
But, one sure thing you can do is to learn how to embrace the skin you’re in and feel confident enough to flaunt it.
Wear attractive underwear that appeals to your man. Walk around naked when you’re alone with him. Jump into the shower with him.
Show off your beautiful curves. Make love with the lights on so he can see you. If you’re really self-conscious, try candlelight instead.
You need to know that you’re not the only woman with saggy boobs, wrinkles, facial hair, tummy folds, stretch marks or big thighs.
We all have something that we don’t like about our bodies but a man will only notice your flaws if you’re constantly drawing his attention to it.
Stop feeling insecure about your body; if you don’t like it, do something about it if it’s in your power to change it.
But if you can’t change your body, accept it the way it is and love it without reservation because no one will really love you unless you love yourself first.
Get some sweet-smelling perfume, shave regularly, exercise often, watch what you eat and keep yourself together.
When you own your body, you can flaunt yourself for your man because you know you are beautiful and attractive.
#5 Being Insecure About Other Women
Just like not owning your own body, being constantly threatened by other women is not attractive.
This is one of the biggest mistakes women make in bed all the time.
Instead of giving more attention to their love life, they dwell in insecurity.
Remember your partner chose you, so focus your energies on keeping his eyes on you and get rid of those crazy scenarios you’re making up in your mind.
Stop searching through his inbox looking for messages his other girlfriends send him.
Stop going through his call logs to see who called him more than once during the day. Just stop it already!
You’re simply being paranoid. Save yourself the energy; it’s not worth it at all.
Learn to seduce him, tease him, and tempt him with romantic text messages when he’s away from you so he won’t have to look elsewhere!
If you give him what he’s looking for in bed, he’ll only have eyes for you and your body.
Instead of looking for signs he’s cheating when he’s not, get creative in the bedroom and show him what he’s missing.
When you know how to make a man want you so badly, he’ll be addicted to you without even knowing it. Isn’t that what we all want from our man?
You can get that complete commitment from your man if you work on improving your bedroom skills.
Playing naughty adult games in bed is the fastest way to increase intimacy in your relationship and keep the passion burning with your man.
#6 Hiding Your Inner Nature
Many women fear that if they are bold and experienced in bed, they’ll come across as wayward or cheap to their partner.
That may be just what your man wants at times!
Men desire to fulfill and satisfy us. They want to do a great job and want to be winners.
If you challenge him to step up, he will. But you have to be very open about your sexual needs, so he can know how to please you more in bed.
Have you ever asked yourself why men often cheat with women who seem very experienced in the bedroom?
It’s because men want more fun and excitement in their lives.
Women who hide their true nature will struggle to satisfy a man in bed.
The entire lovemaking will be one-sided and boring if he has to do all the work while the woman remains passive.
Some women even fake their pleasure during intercourse and this is often one of the most terrible mistakes women make in bed.
If you do that, your relationship might not improve because your partner doesn’t know that you’re not satisfied each time you make love.
Teach him how you want to be touched and stop hiding your inner nature.
Show him that passionate side of you that’s been hidden for too long.
Your man needs your womanhood to complement his masculinity so don’t be afraid to show your female sexuality. Embrace it with enthusiasm!
Your feminine side is very important to your love life because it is so unique. Don’t ever hide who you are from your man.
True liberation comes when a couple is vulnerable and honest with each other especially when it comes to intimacy.
Talk to your partner about some of the relationship needs you have and how he can satisfy you in bed too.
Have the courage to let go once in a while. Get on top during lovemaking and give it to him the way he loves it.
Don’t be scared to make the first move and take charge. Be “a lady in the street but a freak under the sheets.”
Try to overcome your shyness by telling yourself that it’s a good thing to enjoy intercourse and that it pleases your man to know what you like in bed.
A common thought is that men are led by two brains. Don’t forget about his northern brain. Stimulate him!
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#7 Not Going Down South
Aha! Here comes one of the issues that most men complain about a lot; their partner’s refusal to give them oral.
Ladies, this is a big issue for the guys and you need to take it seriously.
Your relationship is going to be boring and unsatisfying without it.
If you don’t like the idea of giving him oral and he wants you to, talk to him about it so you can figure out a way to make it beneficial for all parties involved.
Tell him why you don’t want to do it and if there is anything you need him to change before you start doing it, let him know about it.
Let him understand your point of view. Speak up about your needs with these intimate questions for couples. You can easily use them for couples trivia night.
If you want him to go down on you more often too, tell him what you like and what turns you off in bed.
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#8 Not Making The First Move
Another complaint I often hear from men is the issue of their woman not initiating intimate encounters.
They are the ones who always have to make the first move even when the woman needs it too.
Perhaps, this is due to the fact that some women are too shy to open up to their partner or they are afraid of coming across as promiscuous or cheap.
Initiating sex doesn’t mean you’re wayward. It simply means that you love your man enough to express it through lovemaking.
Your relationship, as well as your intimate life, needs to be mutual. When you’re interested in getting intimate, let it be known to your partner.
Don’t leave it up to him to figure it out as if he’s the only one who has intimate needs. Try to make the first move sometimes.
Show him you want him as much as he desires you and don’t be afraid to light up the fire in the bedroom.
A gentle hug from behind or a cute smile with a wink can be a big sign to let your partner know that you want him in bed.
Men secretly love it when a woman makes intimate advances towards them.
When you show him some green light in the bedroom, he’ll get turned on really fast especially if it’s been a while since he had a taste of you.
If you want your man to go crazy with desire for you, undress slowly in front of him or come out from the shower without clothes.
This will let him know that he’s invited to make passionate love to you.
Sometimes, all you have to do to keep your sex life exciting is to make the first move in bed.
#9 Being Too Hasty
I know you think men are the only ones who are usually hasty during lovemaking but they aren’t.
One of the most common mistakes women make in bed is not putting enough effort or attention into romance or intimacy.
Some women are so hasty that they even urge their partners to skip foreplay and go straight to the main business.
They don’t want to invest too much time and effort during the act; the earlier it ends, the better for them.
When it comes to romance and intimacy, remember it’s an art; slow down, take your time with each other and enjoy the intimate moments together.
Don’t claim to be so busy that you don’t have time for passionate lovemaking; create time for it and stop making excuses. Don’t rush it either.
I know you’re often too tired to show your true affection for your partner and you rarely have the energy to fully connect during intercourse, but you can always schedule sex on less busy days.
If you don’t create time for intimacy, it will never happen and you’ll end up in a boring marriage. Stop leaving it to fate or chance!
Plan intimacy regularly, remember to slow down, connect deeply with your man and savor the blissful moment.
If you’re often too busy to remember things, consider scheduling romantic dates to help you get in the mood for intimacy.
Your mental attitude is very important to your sexual enjoyment.
Sometimes, you need to get out of your head to truly connect with your partner during lovemaking.
When your mind is filled with a long list of tasks you have to do the next day, you won’t allow yourself to be fully present with your man.
Try to clear your head, let go of your worries, put more attention on emotional connection and open your heart to your man in a big act of self-giving when you’re making love.
Getting intimate with your partner doesn’t always have to be a chore!
There are so many different ways to make lovemaking more exciting for you and your partner.
I’ve given you 9 common mistakes women make in bed that you need to avoid to prevent your relationship from falling apart.
Remember that true sexuality consists in one whole person fully communicating with another whole person.
If you want to be great in bed and make your man addicted to you, my bestselling intimacy book will teach you everything you need to know to keep your man super satisfied.
Some of the mistakes women make in bed are totally avoidable if you’re willing to put more effort into your love life.
You just need to be aware of the things men hate in bed and make sure you’re not currently doing them.
If you value your love life, get the resources you need to improve your bedroom skills and do the work necessary to take your relationship to the next level.
About The Author
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life. As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are important in building a successful relationship.
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