Are you confused about your relationship status? Getting mixed signals from a guy is one of the first signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
From love bombing you to treating you like a stranger in public, there are lots of telltale signs that show up when a man is not ready to build a long-term relationship with a woman.
How do you know a guy is not serious about you? Watch out for the following huge red flags!
17 CLEAR SIGNS HE DOESN’T WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU
One of the biggest signs he’s not interested in having a relationship with you is that he’s not fully available in your life.
When a man doesn’t want you, he’ll definitely let you know through his words, actions, and body language.
If he’s giving you mixed signals and you’re unsure of his true intentions toward you, you’ll find out exactly what’s going on in his mind.
Here are 17 clear signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
1. He doesn’t call or text on a regular basis
A healthy relationship is built on good communication, true friendship and mutual trust.
A guy who likes you will call and text regularly because he misses you a lot.
He’ll bring out time from his busy schedule to check up on you and hear your voice before he goes to bed every night.
He won’t claim to be too busy to call or text you because he really loves you and you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to him.
If he’s irregular in his communication, that’s a bad sign and it shows he’s not interested in a relationship with you.
2. He says he wants to keep things casual
Has your guy ever mentioned that he wants a no strings attached relationship?
A lot of people choose to be in open relationships where they are free to mingle with anyone they want.
When a guy tells you that he’s only looking for a casual relationship at the moment, believe him because he’s telling you the truth and for good reasons.
In a man’s mind, casual means nothing serious and being great in bed won’t matter.
If he’s not interested in building something worthwhile with you, nothing you do can change his mind.
Being in an open relationship is one of the signs he doesn’t want to commit to you.
3. He has given you a platonic nickname that sounds cute
One common theme with best friends and couples is that they give each other cute nicknames.
The different thing in a friendship is that the names are usually lovely but not in a romantic way.
If a guy you like is still calling you by your surname or a friendly pet name he made up for you after you’ve been together for a while, it’s a warning sign that he’s not romantically involved with you.
He’s only there for the fun and to sleep with you any time it’s convenient for him.
As long as he’s getting his intimate needs met, he won’t take your relationship to the next level.
4. He acts like he doesn’t know you when you’re in public
Romantic couples tend to show lots of physical affection when they’re together and since it’s a normal thing for them, they behave the same way in public.
When a guy acts like he doesn’t know you intimately in public, that’s one of the common signs he’s pretending to love you.
What he’s really doing by treating you like a stranger is letting people know that you’re not together so they won’t hold him accountable if he dumps you.
5. He takes a long time to return a phone call or reply your texts
A man who is in love enjoys talking to his partner even if it’s late at night.
As long as he’s awake, he’ll find a way to give you a quick reply instead of delaying for long periods of time.
If he’s taking too long to return your calls or reply your texts, he’s definitely playing with you and that’s not a good sign.
No one is really that busy to go long hours without communicating with their romantic partner unless they’re dealing with an emergency.
6. He doesn’t make eye contact with you when you’re together
People who love each other make regular eye contact as a way of connecting on a deeper level.
Looking elsewhere when he’s talking is the body language of a man who is not interested in you.
If he’s not gazing lovingly into your beautiful eyes as he talks about something important to him, it’s a clear sign he doesn’t want to get attached to you in a romantic way.
So, it’s easier for him to avert his eyes and occasionally look at you when you’re together.
7. He never asks you any personal questions about your life
When you love someone deeply, you want to know everything about them because you’re genuinely interested in their life.
This means you’ll spend a lot of time with them and ask them deep questions about their personal life.
If a guy doesn’t bother to ask you anything about yourself, it’s obvious that he doesn’t really care about you.
A man who cares will be eager to get to know you better and he’ll do some digging by asking relevant questions.
8. He only gives you attention when he wants to get intimate
Have you noticed that your guy only shows you love and affection when he wants to get laid?
Once he gets in the mood, he’ll be all smiley and cuddly but afterwards, it’s like you don’t even exist to him.
This is exactly how guys treat women they are casually dating. They only seem to appear when they want something from you.
If a guy treats you this way, you’re obviously booty-call material to him and he only wants a physical relationship with you.
9. You’ve never met any of his close friends or family members
Men usually flaunt their girlfriends to their close friends, family members or on their social media accounts because they want some sort of approval from others.
Don’t be flattered if a guy treats you like a big secret. He’s obviously hiding you from the most important people in his life and that’s a big red flag that you’re not that special to him.
If he was serious about you, he’ll take permission from you to introduce his new girlfriend to his loved ones.
10. He blows hot and cold without a valid reason
If he’s love bombing you one minute and then ignoring you the next minute, you’re not a priority to him.
He only shows you affection when it’s convenient for him and that’s a sure sign that he’s not emotionally available.
A man who is ready for a real relationship will be consistent with his love and affection because he doesn’t want to lose you.
If he’s acting distant and giving you mixed signals, that’s one of the obvious signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
A guy who is not fully available in your life is obviously not interested in an exclusive relationship with you.
11. He’s not interested in your personal life, hobbies, or family
A guy who wants a relationship with you will be involved in your life and he’ll give you his full attention.
This means that he’ll want to learn more about what you do in your everyday life and he’ll be interested in some of your hobbies.
Even if he’s not ready for marriage yet, a real boyfriend will want to get to know a few members of your family who are important to you.
If he avoids getting too involved in your life, there’s a high chance he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
12. He doesn’t remember any special occasions in your life
Do you constantly have to remind him of your birthday or special events you are supposed to attend together?
A good guy who is serious about you will remember little details about you without being reminded.
From how you like your coffee to what makes you upset, he’ll take note of the little things that make you unique and he won’t ever forget them.
If your boyfriend claims to forget dates that are important to you, he’s not ready for a committed relationship with you.
13. You’re the only one investing your time, money, and energy
A good relationship involves two partners who are investing equal amounts of love, time, money and energy into it.
This means you’ll both make the effort to call, text and set up romantic dates.
A guy who is not serious with you will not bother to ask you out on real dates and if you end up going on actual dates, you’re the one who sets it up or it happens as a coincidence.
If you’re always the one planning romantic dates or paying the bills, he doesn’t see you as long-term potential.
14. He hasn’t officially asked you to be his girlfriend
One of the warning signs a guy is not interested in a relationship with you is that you won’t know exactly who you are in his life and you’ll keep asking yourself many questions in your mind.
The easiest way to know is to take note of how he introduces you to people like his neighbors, friends or colleagues.
Are you his girlfriend, his buddy, or his best friend?
If you’re super confused about your relationship status, it’s obvious that he has never asked you to be his girlfriend and it’s surely not a good sign.
This means that he doesn’t want a relationship but wants to be friends with you.
15. He makes no effort to make you feel loved and special
People go into a romantic relationship for a number of reasons and the most important reason is to feel loved by someone special.
A guy who truly loves you will go out of his way to impress you and make you feel loved.
He will tell you how much you mean to him with words and he’ll show you how much he cares through his actions.
If your current boyfriend is not making any effort to make you feel loved and special, it’s a big sign that he doesn’t really love you.
16. He has another special woman in his life
A man who has a girlfriend or bestie is not going to be interested in having a monogamous relationship with you because he’s getting enough attention from another woman.
If he keeps you in his life when he’s involved with someone else, this is a huge sign that he’s only stringing you along for fun, money, or an ego boost.
Don’t think that he’ll eventually leave her for you because many men make such promises but never follow through with it.
If a man has another woman in his life and he’s keeping you on the side, this is one of the most common signs he doesn’t take you seriously.
17. You’re pushing too hard for a serious relationship
True love isn’t one-sided. If you’re often the first person to call or send text messages, that’s a huge red flag.
It’s like he needs a reminder that you’re even dating and you go out of your way to set up dates or buy gifts on special occasions.
If you find out that you’re making too much effort to get into a serious relationship with a guy, that’s a bad sign.
Stop chasing him because you feel he’s shy or scared of commitment.
He just isn’t interested in a relationship with you and he has no plans to stay for the long haul.
When you’re in an actual relationship with a guy, you’ll know it because there would be regular dates, a steady show of affection, emotional support, and good communication.
If you’re asking, “What are the signs that a man doesn’t want a relationship?” I’ve given you 17 clear signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
How do you know if he’s playing you?
If you see at least 10 warning signs in your love life, that’s enough validation for you to know his real feelings toward you.
You may also have a gut feeling that says your boyfriend is not interested in a serious relationship at the moment.
When a man wants to be in a committed relationship with you, he’ll let you know right away without leaving you confused.
He won’t love bomb you or play mind games with you because he’s serious about you.
He’ll also make the effort to cheer you up on a bad day by spending time with you or doing something nice for you if you’re in a bad mood.
If a guy is acting like he’s just a friend, that’s a huge sign that he wants to keep things casual and he has no future plans to officially date you.
The last thing you want is a man who treats you like a romantic interest without plans for something long-term.
Take the hint and move on or you’ll risk falling in love with him and ending up with a broken heart.
It’s okay to cut him off if he doesn’t want a relationship with you at the moment. This is the best thing you can do for yourself because you deserve better.
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About The Author
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life.
As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are the most important ingredients for building a successful relationship.
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