Do you know that there are many kinky things guys like in bed but won’t ask for?
A lot of men secretly desire to be sexually dominated by a woman.
But they’re afraid to explore this sexual fantasy or even talk about it openly because, in our society, men are expected to lead.
This is especially true in the bedroom. There’s a social taboo surrounding a man submitting to a woman.
Emme Witt, a professional dominatrix and sex expert at Mysterious Witt Media suggests that a great way to spice up your sex life is for a woman to take control of a man.
When she takes control in bed, she can also make sure she’s getting maximum pleasure as she’ll be in control of her orgasm and his. It’s a win-win for both partners.
Engaging in rough sex, nipple play, anal sex, and pegging are all kinky sex ideas you can try in the bedroom to drive your man wild with lust.
Before you begin experimenting with your man in a submissive role though, you need to first talk about your expectations and set some limits to ensure safety.
Any time you’re engaging in kinky sex, both partners should decide on a safe word that can be voiced if the sensations get too intense.
Keep reading to discover hot kinky sex ideas men love but are too afraid to try with their partners.
9 KINKY THINGS GUYS LIKE IN BED BUT WON’T ASK FOR
Wondering what to do to your man to give him more pleasure in the bedroom?
Aside from trying new sex positions and engaging in oral sex, there are lots of other freaky things you can do to make sex more fun for both of you.
If you’re looking for new ideas to add more excitement to your sexual relationship, here is a list of kinky things to do with your partner in bed:
1. Bondage Play
The School of Squirt describes bondage as the sexual practice of consensually restraining and/or tying up a partner.
Men love to be sexually overpowered by a woman through bondage. It’s deeply arousing for them when their women take charge in the bedroom.
Ropes, handcuffs, and bondage restraints work perfectly for this sexual activity.
A good kinky sex idea couples can start with is bondage play. Bondage enhances the sexual experience for the submissive because its psychological impact is so intense.
There are lots of bondage tools available online, but you can just run to your local hardware store to pick up some plain rope.
If you want to make kinky sex incredibly hot though, it’s best to get some basic wrist cuffs or a soft bondage rope to keep his hands bound to the bedposts.
It’s a great idea to start with the submissive partner on his back. The dominant partner can then tie his ankles and wrists together.
Or he can be tied “spread eagle” with his arms and legs spread open, and bound to either end of the bed with ankle cuffs.
2. Blindfolds and Gags
A big part of BDSM play is enhancing and/or inhibiting the senses. This is why blindfolds and gags are so effective in increasing sexual desire.
If your partner is tied to the bedpost with a soft bondage rope, gagging them or covering their eyes with a blindfold can add more excitement in the bedroom.
Blindfolds remove one’s sight, whereas a gag can enhance the sense that the submissive is trapped and overpowered.
While a gag is a more intermediate form of BDSM play, pulling out a blindfold while your man is tied up is an easy way to make your sex life even hotter.
As the submissive really has to trust his partner to wear a blindfold while bound, this enhances a couple’s connection.
3. Nipple Play
While a man is tied up, another fun kinky idea to try is to play with his nipples.
Some men love it when their nipples are touched and pinched but they may be hesitant to explore this sexual fantasy.
A woman can sensually play with her man’s nipples by torturing them a little bit, flicking her tongue over them, or gently biting them with her teeth.
Using silicone nipple suckers is a great way to heighten sensitivity for increased arousal in kinky play.
It’s best to start slow to let your man adjust to the new sensations he’ll be experiencing in the bedroom.
Nipple play with just the fingertips is best before both partners are turned on.
As arousal increases, the nipple clamps can come out so slight pain mixes in with pleasure to intensify it.
This is one of the best kinky sex moves you can try to make your man’s orgasm more intense.
4. Spanking
A lot of people think spanking needs to be painful or done as punishment, but there’s also something called “sensual spanking.”
The butt is an erogenous zone, and spanking can be a huge turn-on, especially when it starts slowly with a good warm-up and some dirty talk.
The best way to go about this is to cup the palms when spanking the butt, measuring out the swats so they’re not all coming at once.
During intimate play, start lightly so that a guy can work up to receiving a harder spanking from his lady.
Use a faux leather bondage flogger to ensure you’re delivering the right amount of teasing strokes, delightful tickles, and bracing whips your man needs.
5. Anal Play
Speaking of the butt as an erogenous zone, the anus is especially sensual.
However, a lot of men are scared to go there because of the belief that liking having their anuses played with means they’re gay.
Many men won’t be honest about it, but butt play can be very exciting for a guy.
The entire butt is a sensual organ with lots of sensitive nerve endings that can be stimulated sexually.
If a man is willing to open up his mind to being anally penetrated, he’ll find that he can experience much pleasure from it.
A woman can experiment by penetrating her man with her finger, a small dildo, or a vibrating butt plug. Light spanking can also be a good idea to spice up bedroom fun.
As a beginner, it’s best to start with a finger or a slender toy to give him time to familiarize himself with his butt being fondled.
Your man should always use an anal douche for cleansing before intimate play. Lots of lube is also a necessary component of kinky sex.
To avoid skin irritation and minimize physical pain, use a water-based anal lubricant while you play with your man’s butt.
6. Pegging
Some men enjoy taking anal play to another level with pegging.
This is a sexual activity that’s really exciting since it involves using a sex toy to spice up foreplay and double your man’s pleasure.
To peg a man, a woman wears a strap-on harness that holds a penis-like dildo. With the man on all fours, she penetrates him from behind in the classical doggy style.
While she’s doing that, she can reach around to stroke his penis and massage his balls to intensify his pleasure.
You can also use fleshlight male sex toys with realistic skin fabrics to give your man extra sensation in the bedroom.
Pegging can be a thrilling sexual activity for a man because of the sensitive skin of the anus and the location of the prostate inside the rectum.
If you want to give your man a sensational perineum massage that will blow his mind, this ice prostate massager can be a great addition to your collection of kinky sex toys.
7. Testicle Bondage
Playing with the testicles is also super pleasurable for a man. Light bondage on the testicles can give a man better erections and powerful orgasms.
An important part of dominating a man is making him feel like his manhood is at the mercy of a woman.
But this doesn’t have to be emasculating or painful for a guy.
Another hot kinky idea to try in bed is to tie a rope or string around the base of his testicles.
This not only creates an interesting and sensual sensation in the ball sack, but it can also enhance his erection.
While a man’s testicles are tied up, a woman can also stroke the scrotum or apply ice cubes to them during oral sex to create different sensations that are pleasurable.
8. Kinky Roleplay
One common kinky thing most men love is seeing women wear sexy lingerie in the bedroom.
This is a sexual fantasy most guys have but won’t ask for because they are afraid of being rejected or labeled a pervert.
A lot of men secretly want to see their female partners dressed up in fetish gear. They long to see their wives and girlfriends in stockings, heels, gloves, and a corset.
As a woman, it’s a great idea to dress up in sexy lingerie for your man once in a while if you want to drive him crazy.
It’s a huge turn-on for him to see how seductive you look in your role play attire.
Apart from trying out corsets, you can also dress up as a nurse, school girl, or dominatrix to tease your man in bed.
Men find these types of costumes incredibly hot during kinky roleplay.
9. BDSM Parties
Finally, if you’re dressing up in the bedroom, why not take the party out to a BDSM club?
Going to a sexy party such as a BDSM or swingers event can really heighten arousal and deepen a couple’s intimate connection.
You don’t need to worry about whether they’re novices as there’s no requirement to “play” or have sex in public at one of these events.
Sometimes just going to an event together is enough to arouse you and your partner.
Then you can both go home and explore a new kinky idea or oral sex position you discovered at the party.
Whether you’ve been together for a long time or you just met your romantic partner, trying new things like kinky sex can be an excellent way to spice up your love life and keep your relationship exciting.
From bondage play to spanking and nipple play, there are lots of kinky things guys like in bed but won’t ask for.
Turn up the heat in your relationship by bringing up bondage ideas to try for better sex.
If your man is ready to get out of his comfort zone and dive into the world of kink, go for it.
You can try any of the kinky sex ideas mentioned in this article to increase your intimacy and sexual satisfaction in the bedroom.
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