So, you’ve been dating this particular guy for a while and you’re wondering if he’s falling in love with you.
Or if you’re the only one feeling the butterflies flutter in your tummy when he smiles at you.
Now, you’re asking yourself “Could this be real love? And if it is how do you make him fall head over heels in love with you?”
First, you need to know that when men fall in love, they can fall hard, and they tend to make sure you know it.
But sometimes men also pretend to fall in love, or they give mixed signals and you think they’re falling for you.
There’s the guy who will pour on the affection because he wants something and the guy who gets a thrill from making women fall for him just to dump them in the end.
Other men might accidentally give you the wrong idea because they like spending time around you… but as a friend without being intimate or emotionally involved.
How do you know the signs he’s falling in love with you and not playing you?
The most important thing to observe in a new guy is his body language and the way he behaves when he’s with you.
I’m going to give you 10 obvious signs he’s falling in love with you to watch out for so you can find out if you’re not the only one feeling the love hormones.
Before you start wondering about falling in love signs, it’s a good idea to find out if you’re compatible with each other.
Seeing a few of these subtle signs could indicate that he’s a good guy or he sees you as a best friend, but if you see five or more it’s much more likely he’s falling for you hard.
If you see these signs in a romantic relationship, that’s even better. But, let me warn you…
Men can show their feelings of love differently, so if he’s not doing most of these things, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have feelings for you.
And he might be doing some of these because he knows they work on women who are desperately looking for true love.
From experience, I know it can be confusing to distinguish between infatuation and real love especially if you’re having strong feelings for him too.
So, take a bird’s eye view of the situation, taking into consideration how many of these signs you see, and how you feel in general about his feelings towards you.
Looking at your situation with these 10 signs in mind will give you a much clearer idea of his true feelings towards you.
After reading this post, you should be able to know if it’s a mere attraction, love at first sight or romantic love.
10 OBVIOUS SIGNS HE’S FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU
Some of the telltale signs of falling in love are actually easy to notice if you observe a man carefully.
When men fall in love, they tend to show it with little words of love or romantic gestures that will sweep you off your feet.
If you see any of these behaviors in a man, he’s definitely falling in love with you.
1. He has the look of love
When a man is falling for you, he’ll look at you a certain way. It will literally melt your heart and make you feel like you’re the only woman in the world.
It might be hard to see yourself, but your friends will definitely see it. That’s the first sign of true love!
My friend wasn’t sure how her new boyfriend truly felt about her, but once I saw him watching her with big puppy eyes, I knew he was smitten.
Men will maintain eye contact longer when they’re in love with a woman.
They’ll want to share lingering looks, and you’ll catch them looking at you when they think you’re not paying much attention.
Now, men might be able to fake this look to win you over, but if you see this sign with several other signs, it’s more of a sure thing.
This spills over into other things too. He might have a special pet name for you and share inside jokes.
2. He only has eyes for you
You might have experienced the opposite of this, where a man will check out other women while on a date with you! And that’s so annoying!
Some men try to be sneaky about it, others don’t seem to care if you notice. How does your man act when you’re out on a date or in a crowded bar?
Does he keep his eyes on you for a long time as you talk? Or does his attention drift away to other women?
A man who is falling for you will make sure to give you his full attention, even when it could be wandering.
Of course, some men are just respectful and won’t look at other women, even if they aren’t falling for you. (That’s why you should look for several of these signs.)
But a man who is falling in love with you will also give the indication that he’s not seeing other women and will want to focus on you.
He won’t talk about other women or text others while he’s with you. His attention will be focused on you alone.
And you’ll definitely notice him appreciating your looks. He’ll give you that look, the one we talked about in the first sign.
And he’ll complement how you look too. A guy who is falling for you will want to talk about being exclusive so you’ll know he is off the market.
If you want to capture a man’s attention and melt his heart, send him sweet love messages regularly to make him miss you and love you more.
3. He goes out of his way to do favors for you
Many men are “doers”, meaning that they show their feelings through actions and thoughtful gestures.
A man who is falling for you might drive several hours to get something for you, or he might bring you something that you mentioned liking.
He’ll bring you soup when you’re sick and find other ways of doing favors for you. He won’t mind going the extra mile to make sure you’re comfortable and happy.
Men are more likely to show love with acts of service than words and cuddles, although a man falling in love usually likes those too.
He’ll also do things to make your life easier, like fixing something for you, taking care of something that’s hard for you to do, or running an errand for you.
You’ll notice that he wants you to feel pampered and spoiled, and he wants things to be easier for you.
This is a big sign because a man who’s faking it to get something from you won’t want to do these kinds of things for you.
A player will pour on compliments and tell you how good you look, but he won’t bring you soup and tissue when you’re sick or go pick up groceries for you.
Now, a man who sees you as a friend will do nice things to help you out because you’re his favorite person.
But you can usually tell the difference because he won’t show up with some little treat that you mentioned once.
A man who is falling for you will do random acts of service and want to make your day brighter. Seeing you safe, comfortable and happy makes him happy too!
4. He shares his interests and activities with you
Another important sign of falling in love is that he’ll have a genuine interest in what you do in your free time.
A man who is only interested in sleeping with you will not want to share his life with you because he doesn’t plan to be around for the long haul.
A man who is falling in love with you, on the other hand, will want to tell you all about his interests, hobbies, close friends, future events and life goals.
He’ll want to learn about your interests too, and share experiences together because he enjoys spending a lot of time with you.
A man who is playing the field won’t talk as much about the rest of his life.
Instead, he’ll be more secretive and won’t talk much about his career or goals. This is another obvious sign.
Sure, people usually talk and share quite a bit on the first few dates, but does he continue to tell you about his activities?
When he’s falling for you, he’ll want you to be his go-to person. He’ll want to share about his day, what happened, and what it means to him.
Basically, he’ll want to keep you up to date because he sees you as someone he can trust and easily open up to.
If he’s falling in love with you, he’ll invite you to join some of his activities, meet his friends and family, and get involved in his life. You’ll be a part of his inner circle.
Men might do this with a female friend, but if you’re dating and he wants you to be involved in his life, it’s a clear sign he’s falling for you hard.
Do you want to know your boyfriend on a deeper level? These 250 Great Conversation Starters can help you learn a lot of new things about a man you’re dating.
5. He values your opinion
When your man is talking with you, does he ask for your opinion? Does he care about what you have to say?
If he does, that’s a big part of sharing like we just discussed in sign #4.
He might tell you about what’s going on at work and ask if you think that means they’re considering him for a promotion, or if it looks like trouble ahead.
He’ll share important things with you because he wants your support and feedback.
Men don’t usually share their problems with people and ask for input unless they respect and trust that person.
If a man is falling for you, and thinking about a long-term relationship, he’ll want you to know what’s going on in his life, and he’ll want to know what you think about it.
Male friends might do this, but they tend to talk to other guys about most things.
Men don’t do this with women if they’re after a fling or just the thrill of the chase in a casual relationship.
A man who’s genuinely interested in you or dating you, who values your thoughts on what’s going on in his life, is very into you.
And if he cares about your opinion and encourages you to freely share your thoughts, that’s a sure sign of a healthy relationship.
6. He contacts you first
In my many years of studying men as a relationship coach and understanding how they fall in love, I know that communication is one of the best methods men use to show love.
If he’s not calling you, it’s because he doesn’t want to talk to you and he doesn’t miss you. It’s that simple when it comes to dating a guy.
It’s not because he’s being held hostage or sent on a secret mission. If a man only talks to you when you text first, it’s a bad sign.
If a man is falling for you hard, he’ll call or text every single chance he gets because he misses you a lot and wants to be around you.
My husband still calls me twice a day just because he wants to hear my voice.
And some days, I wake up to the most beautiful, heart-melting text message that makes my head spin. I feel so lucky that I fell in love with the right guy.
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If a guy is falling in love, he’ll want to spend time with you and stretch out goodbyes on the phone, texting, and in person.
This is another falling in love sign that’s pretty clear. If he’s falling for you, he’ll have to talk to you every day unless it’s a super busy day or there’s a very good reason for it.
When men fall big time, they want to check in with you and make sure that you’re thinking about them.
That’s because, when a man falls in love, he wants to make sure he’s your number one guy, and that no one else can steal you away.
He won’t suddenly give you the silent treatment after a few dates and keep you guessing about his feelings for you.
You won’t have to wait for his phone call or text message all day either because he’ll be chasing you all over the place since he can’t get you out of his mind.
A man in love will find time out of his busy schedule to contact you throughout the day to remind you of his love or just to say “Hi”.
7. He wants you to meet his family
If a man is serious about a woman and thinking about the future, he’ll definitely be thinking about how you’ll get along with his family.
Does he talk about his family and friends? In the early stages, he’ll tell you about the other people in his life.
And as things get more serious, he’ll want you to meet them. He’ll want to show you around because you’re important to him.
He may not take you to meet his parents right away but at least you’ll know his sister, brother or cousin who he is really close to.
It’s a pretty big indicator if you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he doesn’t want to introduce you to the important people in his life.
Now, in some cases, there might be reasons why he feels that wouldn’t be good.
Maybe he’s not that proud of his family, or he has kids and wants to take things slow in that respect.
But you can tell when your relationship has reached the point that you should have met his family, or you know why you haven’t—and let’s be real.
At some point, even if he’s taking it slow, you should meet his children or family.
A man who is falling for you will want to introduce you to people he cares about because he plans to marry you in the future.
8. He shows genuine concern
When you have a problem, he wants to solve it even if it inconveniences him. He wants you to be happy and comfortable in different situations.
He’ll want to hear about your life and things you’re dealing with, and help you when he can.
That makes him feel like he’s a part of your life—and that’s a huge sign that he’s falling for you.
If a man is falling for you, he’ll be protective and possessive of you. Don’t take this to mean he sees you as a weak person.
It’s just that when you love someone and want them in your life, you want to keep them safe. For men, it’s called the hero instinct because they’re wired to protect and provide.
9. He brings up the future
A man who is falling in love with you will ask about your future plans and want to be a part of them because he wants to build a successful relationship with you.
He’ll think of you first for concerts, a plus-two event, and social gatherings.
He’ll ask what you think about life and what your dreams are. He’ll want to listen to you talk about your life goals.
Someone who is playing you or not really interested in sharing a future might talk about taking you somewhere, but it never goes further than talking.
If he has fallen in love with you, he’ll want to check if you’re on the same page as him for a future “we” and “us”. And that brings us to the last sign…
10. He uses “We” more than I
If a man is hanging out with you, thinking it’s a “fun thing” or “no strings attached” or “two consenting adults”, he’s just playing with you
He might talk about doing things together or even talk about his life with you. But he won’t use “we” that often.
A man who has fallen in love with you will talk about “we” and think of you as a couple.
He’ll crave genuine connection and stability from you because he wants to be a huge part of your life.
In fact, a man who is falling in love with you hard will meet most of these undeniable signs and that means he’s the real deal.
If you’re experiencing that, it’s one of the best moments in life. Enjoy it!
I’ve shared most of the obvious signs he’s falling in love with you and if he meets most of these signs, it’s a very good chance he’s falling for you hard.
Now, what if you find out he doesn’t love you back? What should you do if you really love him but he doesn’t feel the same way yet?
Let me tell you a little secret…
A good sense of humor is what makes a man fall madly in love with a woman but sometimes, it’s not enough to keep him interested or even make him commit.
If you want to make him fall in love and make him want you badly, you need to follow certain rules.
We’ve previously talked about how players work, so you can go through these signs and see if your man is in love with you or falling out of love with you.
Players usually follow certain rules because they know love is a game that needs to be won.
Love is not complicated at all; you just need to pay attention to the personality traits men usually portray when they are in love and play by the rules.
When you fall in love and you’re really attracted to someone, it’s so easy to be blind to so many little things simply because you enjoy being in love.
If you’re desperately trying to know how to make a man fall in love with you, I highly recommend you read “His Secret Obsession” by James Bauer.
It’s a great book that shares every single rule you need to win in this dating game.
This book will show you simple secrets that will make him fall deeply and passionately in love with you and only you, so you never have to worry about having your heart broken ever again.
The best part is any woman can use the male psychology tricks in this book.
It doesn’t matter if it feels like he’s pulling away, if he’s “just not that into you” or if you’re always calling and texting him first.
The secrets in this book will help you keep a man interested in you as long as you want.
If he doesn’t love you but you’re in love with him and you don’t do anything about it, someone else is going to steal him away from you forever.
True love is hard to find so if you love him, don’t let him go! And sometimes, you have to make the first move.
Recommended Reading:
20 Undeniable Signs He Loves You Deeply
9 Obvious Signs He Wants To Marry You
15 Obvious Signs He Loves You When Making Love
About The Author
Jennifer Dagi
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life. As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are important in building a successful relationship.
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