So, you’ve been dating this particular guy for some time now and you’re wondering if he’s falling in love with you or if you’re the only one feeling the butterflies flutter in your tummy when he smiles at you. First, you need to know that when men fall, they can fall hard, and they tend to make sure you know it.
But sometimes men also pretend to fall, or they give mixed signals and you think they’re falling for you. There’s the guy who will pour on the affection because he wants something, and the guy who gets a thrill from making women fall for him.
Other men might accidentally give you the wrong idea because they like spending time around you… but as a friend. How do you know the signs he’s falling in love with you and not playing you?
I’m going to give you 10 obvious signs you need to watch out for. Seeing a few of these signs could indicate that he’s a good guy or sees you as a friend, but if you see five or more it’s much more likely he’s falling for you hard.
If you see these signs in a relationship, that’s even better. But, lemme warn you… Men can show their feelings differently, so if he’s not doing most of these, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have feelings for you.
And he might be doing some of these because he knows they work on women. So, take a bird’s eye view of the situation, taking into consideration how many of these signs you see, and how you feel in general about his feelings towards you.
Looking at your situation with these 10 signs in mind will give you a much clearer idea of his true feelings towards you.
10 OBVIOUS SIGNS HE’S FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU
1. He has the look of love
When a man is falling for you, he’ll look at you a certain way. It will literally melt your heart and make you feel like you’re the only woman in the world. It might be hard to see yourself, but your friends will definitely see it.
My friend wasn’t sure how her new boyfriend truly felt about her, but once I saw him watching her with big puppy eyes, I knew he was smitten. Men will maintain eye contact longer when they’re in love with a woman. They’ll want to share lingering looks, and you’ll catch them looking at you when they think you’re not paying attention.
Now, men might be able to fake this look to win you over, but if you see this sign with several other signs, it’s more of a sure thing. This spills over into other things too. He might have a special pet name for you and share inside jokes.
2. He only has eyes for you
You might have experienced the opposite of this, where a man will check out other women while on a date with you! And that’s so annoying! Some men try to be sneaky about it, others don’t seem to care if you notice. A man that is falling for you, however, will make sure to give you his full attention, even when it could be wandering.
Of course, some men are just respectful and won’t look at other women, even if they aren’t falling for you. (That’s why you always want to look for several of these signs.) But a man who’s falling for you will also give the indication that he’s not seeing other women and will want to focus on you. He won’t talk about other women or text others while he’s with you.
And you’ll definitely notice him appreciating your looks. He’ll give you that look, the one we talked about in the first sign. And he’ll complement how you look too. And usually, a man who’s falling in love with you will want to talk about being exclusive so you’ll know he is off the market.
3. He goes out of his way to do favors for you
Many men are “doers”, meaning that they show their feelings through actions. A man who is falling for you might drive several hours to get something for you, or he might bring you something that you mentioned liking. He’ll bring you soup when you’re sick and find other ways of doing favors for you.
Men are more likely to show love with acts of service than words and cuddles, although a man falling in love usually likes those too. He’ll also do things to make your life easier, like fixing something for you, taking care of something that’s hard for you to do, or running an errand for you.
You’ll notice that he wants you to feel pampered and spoiled, and he wants things to be easier for you. This is a big sign because a man who’s faking it to get something from you won’t want to do these kinds of things for you.
A player will pour on compliments and tell you how good you look, but he won’t bring you soup and tissue when you’re sick or go pick up groceries for you. Now, a man who sees you as a friend will do nice things to help you out, but you can usually tell the difference because he won’t show up with some little treat that you mentioned once.
A man who’s falling for you will do random acts of service and want to make your day brighter. Seeing you happy, makes him happy too!
4. He shares his interests and activities with you
A man who is only interested in sex will not want to share his life with you. A man who is falling for you, on the other hand, will want to tell you all about his interests, hobbies, friends, and life. He’ll want to learn about your interests too, and share experiences together.
A man who is playing the field won’t talk as much about the rest of his life. Instead, he’ll be more secretive. This is another obvious sign. Sure, people usually talk and share quite a bit on the first few dates, but does he continue to tell you about his activities?
When he’s falling for you, he’ll want you to be his go-to person. He’ll want to share about his day, what happened, and what it means to him. Basically, he’ll want to keep you up to date. If he’s falling in love with you, he’ll invite you to join some of his activities, meet his friends and family, and get involved in his life.
Men might do this with a female friend, but if you’re dating and he wants you involved in his life, it’s a pretty clear sign he’s falling for you.
5. He values your opinion
When your man is talking with you, does he ask for your opinion? Does he care about what you have to say? That’s a big part of sharing like we just discussed in sign #4. He might tell you about what’s going on at work and ask if you think that means they’re considering him for a promotion, or if it looks like trouble ahead.
He’ll share important things with you because he wants your support and feedback. Men don’t usually share their problems with people and ask for input unless they respect and trust that person.
If a man is falling for you, and thinking about a long-term relationship, he’ll want you to know what’s going on in his life, and he’ll want to know what you think about it. Male friends might do this, but they tend to talk to other guys about most things.
Men don’t do this with women if they’re after a fling or just the thrill of the chase. A man who’s genuinely interested in you, or dating you, who values your thoughts on what’s going on in his life, is very into you.
6. He contacts you first
The romance movie “He’s just not that into you” has many insights into men. If you haven’t watched it, I suggest you do because it will help you understand men. It’s a bit harsh, but we need to learn: If he’s not calling you, it’s because he doesn’t want to talk to you. It’s not because he’s being held hostage or sent on a secret mission.
If a man only talks to you when you text first, it’s a bad sign. If a man is falling for you, he’ll call and text every single chance he gets. My boyfriend still calls me twice a day just because he wants to hear my voice and some days, I wake up to the most beautiful, heart-melting text ever. If that’s not love, I don’t know what to call it.
If a guy loves you, he’ll want to spend time with you and stretch out goodbyes on the phone, texting, and in person. This is another sign that’s pretty clear. If he’s falling for you, he’ll have to talk to you every day unless it’s a super busy day or there’s a very good reason for it.
When men fall big time, they want to check in with you and make sure that you’re thinking about them. That’s because, when a man falls in love, he wants to make sure he’s your number one guy, and that no one else can steal you away.
7. He wants you to meet his family
If a man is serious about a woman and thinking about the future, he’ll definitely be thinking about how you’ll get along with his family. Does he talk about his family and friends? In the early stages, he’ll tell you about the other people in his life. And as things get more serious, he’ll want you to meet them.
He may not take you to meet his parents right away but at least you’ll know his sister, brother or cousin who he is really close to. It’s a pretty big indicator if you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he doesn’t want to introduce you to the important people in his life.
Now, in some cases, there might be reasons why he feels that wouldn’t be good: maybe he’s not that proud of his family, or he has kids and wants to take things slow in that respect.
But you can tell when your relationship has reached the point that you should have met his family, or you know why you haven’t—and let’s be real. At some point, even if he’s taking it slow, you should meet his children or family. A man who is falling for you will want to introduce you to people he cares about.
8. He shows genuine concern
When you have a problem, he wants to solve it even if it inconveniences him. He wants you to be happy and comfortable in different situations. He’ll want to hear about your life and things you’re dealing with, and help you when he can. That makes him feel like he’s a part of your life—and that’s a huge sign that he’s falling for you.
If a man is in love with you, he’ll be protective towards you. Don’t take this to mean he sees you as the weaker sex. It’s just when you love someone and want them in your life, you want to keep them safe. I think it’s just instinct!
9. He brings up the future
A man in love with you will ask about your future plans and want to be a part of them. He’ll think of you first for concerts, a plus-two event, and social gatherings. He’ll ask what you think about life and what your dreams are. He’ll want to listen to you talk about your big and crazy goals.
Someone who is playing you or not really interested in sharing a future might talk about taking you somewhere, but it never goes further than talking. If he’s falling, he’ll want to check if you’re on the same page as him for a future “we” and “us”. And that brings us to the last sign…
10. He uses “we” more than I
If a man is hanging out with you, thinking it’s a “fun thing” or “no strings attached” or “two consenting adults”, he might talk about doing things together or even talk about his life with you. But he won’t use “we” that often.
A man who is falling in love with you will talk about “we” and think of you as a couple. In fact, a man who is falling hard fast will meet most of these obvious signs. If you’re experiencing that, it’s one of the best moments in life. Enjoy it!
I’ve shared most of the obvious signs he’s falling in love with you and if he meets most of these signs, it’s a very good chance he’s falling for you hard. We’ve talked about how players work, so you can go through these signs and really see if your man is in love with you.
If you’re having a hard time understanding the signals men in your life are giving off, I strongly recommend you read “How To Tell If A Guy Really Likes You“. This book will break down that barrier and help you understand if a guy is trying to tell you that he likes you, or if maybe you have been pushed to the friend zone.
Once you’ve read “How To Tell If A Guy Likes You”, you’ll have learned everything there is to know about whether that special guy has a secret crush on you or not!