You’ve met a great new guy who seems perfect on the surface. He’s charming, sweet, and lavishes you with attention and affection.
At first, you feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have found such an amazing match.
But slowly, doubts start creeping in. His compliments seem to focus solely on your looks.
His invites always center around physical activities and rarely an actual date.
When you try to engage in deeper conversation, he changes the subject or cuts the evening short.
You’re starting to wonder if this guy is really interested in you or just wants to sleep with you.
There are a few telltale signs that show a guy is looking for a casual fling.
One of the clearest signs he only wants you for your body is that he pressures you into getting intimate before you’re ready.
If he pushes you to sleep with him early on and physical intimacy seems to be the foundation of your connection, he’s probably more interested in your body than building a long-term relationship.
This blog post highlights a few signs a guy is with you for your body. If you see many of these in your relationship, it means he’s only using you.
10 CLEAR SIGNS HE ONLY WANTS YOU FOR YOUR BODY
Real, lasting relationships take time to develop and are based on emotional and intellectual connection, not just physical attraction.
Read on to discover the top signs he’s only looking to get laid, so you can decide if the relationship is right for you.
1. He only contacts you late at night
Does your boyfriend often reach out to you late in the evening? If he only calls or texts you after 9 p.m., that’s a big red flag.
Booty calls in the middle of the night mean he’s only thinking of you as a last resort when he’s in the mood.
During the day he’s busy living his life, but you’re an afterthought once evening arrives and he’s looking to fulfill his needs.
This guy has one thing on his mind, and conversation isn’t it!
Real, genuine interest means he’ll want to talk throughout the day about your life, your interests, and your goals – not just after dark.
Watch out for frequent compliments about your looks.
Sure, it’s nice to hear you’re hot and beautiful, but if that’s all he ever talks about, he’s probably more into your body than getting to know the real you.
A meaningful connection is about way more than just physical attraction.
You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are – your kindness, humor, intelligence, talents, and spirit.
Trust your instincts. If something feels off, don’t ignore it. You know deep down when a guy isn’t genuinely interested in you.
Have confidence in yourself and don’t settle for less than you deserve.
There are caring men out there who will treat you well and respect you for who you are.
Don’t waste your time on someone just looking for a hookup when you want so much more.
2. He avoids emotional intimacy
One of the most obvious signs he only wants you for your body is that he never wants to talk about feelings.
A guy who’s playing the field will avoid emotional intimacy at all costs.
If you try to start a meaningful conversation about emotions, hopes, dreams, or the relationship, he’ll shut down or change the subject fast.
He prefers to stick to light, superficial topics and stays away from anything too deep. The most you’ll get is casual talk and flirting.
Forget about discussing commitment, marriage, or the future. He lives strictly in the present and isn’t interested in planning ahead with you.
Don’t expect him to open up about personal struggles, insecurities, or past relationships.
He’ll keep things surface-level and won’t share much depth or vulnerability.
Pay attention if he never digs deeper. A healthy, balanced relationship requires emotional intimacy and the ability to share life’s ups and downs.
If he’s all physical and avoids the emotional, he’s likely only interested in your body, not building anything meaningful or long-lasting.
3. He doesn’t take you on real dates
A big sign he only wants to sleep with you is that he avoids spending quality time with you, especially when money is involved.
If the only dates you’ve been on are Netflix and chill at his place or a casual drink at the bar, that’s a major red flag.
A guy who’s genuinely interested in you will want to plan special nights out together.
He’ll take you out for a nice dinner at your favorite restaurant, buy tickets to see that movie you’ve been dying to watch or plan a fun activity like bowling or visiting a museum.
Real dates require thought, effort, and resources. If he’s not investing any of these into your time together, it signals he’s likely more interested in your looks and what happens after the “date” ends.
Don’t waste your precious time and affection on someone who can’t even be bothered to plan an exciting outing. There are great guys out there who will treat you like the queen you are.
If your guy never takes you out for dinner, on fun dates, or spends quality time together doing an enjoyable shared activity, he’s not looking to truly get to know you.
When all of your interactions center around hooking up, rather than cultivating real intimacy through shared experiences, it means he’s simply passing time with you.
You deserve so much more than just being someone’s plaything behind closed doors!
Have a frank conversation about what you expect in a relationship. Then give him a chance to step up his game, but if he continues to be all talk and no action, don’t hesitate to walk away.
You’re worth the effort, and the right man will know that.
4. He rarely asks personal questions
If a guy rarely asks personal questions about your life, interests, or goals, that’s a sign he’s not genuinely interested in getting to know the real you.
A man who’s serious about building a lasting relationship with you will ask about your hobbies, friends, job, or future ambitions.
He’ll ask deep questions about your life and listen to every word you say.
He’ll take note of your favorite things and remember the little details without being reminded.
When a guy only focuses on being intimate with you but doesn’t want to get to know you on a deeper level, that’s a sign he’s not looking for something long-term.
5. He only gives compliments about your looks
Does your man shower you with compliments about how you look?
If the only praise he gives is for your appearance, hair, body, or choice of outfit, that’s a big red flag.
A guy who genuinely cares will compliment your personality, humor, talents, and accomplishments too.
Does he constantly talk about your body and appearance? For example, he may mention that you looked hot in that new dress but won’t notice your small acts of kindness toward him.
If a guy is always making suggestive comments or treating you like an object, run. Don’t settle for a superficial connection based solely on physical attraction.
6. He hides your relationship from the public
A major sign a guy only wants you for your body is that he keeps you away from the public eye. Watch out if:
• He never posts about you on social media: Does he avoid tagging you in posts or sharing photos of the two of you?
This could be a sign he only wants to keep things physical between you and doesn’t want others to know about the relationship.
• He rarely takes you out in public: If he never wants to go out for dinner, see movies together, or do other date-like activities where you might run into people you both know, he may be trying to hide that you’re dating.
• He doesn’t invite you to important events: Pay attention if he goes to weddings, parties or work functions alone and doesn’t invite you. He should want to show you off to friends and coworkers if he’s really into you!
• You’ve never met his close friends or family: After dating for a while, if he still hasn’t introduced you to the important people in his life, that’s not a good sign.
He may be avoiding integrating you into other areas of his world because he’s not planning on staying for the long haul.
Trust your instincts on this one. If something feels off about the way he acts in public or how much he includes you in his life outside the bedroom, it could indicate you’re more of a fling and less of a girlfriend.
Don’t be afraid to call him out on his shady behavior or move on to find someone who will proudly show you off!
7. He doesn’t want to commit to anything serious
If the guy you’re seeing avoids defining your relationship and taking things seriously, that’s a huge red flag.
When a man is truly interested in you for who you are, he’ll want to build something long-term with you!
This guy, on the other hand, just wants to keep things casual so he can do whatever he wants.
Each time you ask where you’re relationship is heading or what his plans for you are, he says you’re being too hasty.
When a guy avoids labeling your relationship or giving you a timeframe for when he’ll be ready to settle down, it’s a sign he’s playing you and isn’t ready to commit.
Run away from this dead-end situation and don’t waste another second with this guy.
If he’s serious, he will tell you about his plans and won’t keep you in the dark. Move on and make room in your life for someone who will commit to you fully.
8. He avoids talking about the future
If your boyfriend rarely talks about what’s coming up next week, let alone next month or next year, that’s a major red flag.
When a guy is really into you for who you are, he’ll want to make plans!
He’ll ask if you want to try that new Italian restaurant that just opened or see if you have any vacation days coming up to take a fun trip together.
If he avoids future talk, it likely means he only cares about the present – and by present we mean your hot body!
A player typically lives in the moment and the moment is all about getting physical.
Don’t expect deep conversations about life goals or dreams from someone who can’t even commit to dinner reservations for next Saturday night.
His idea of the future is maybe texting you after midnight to “hang out.”
Save yourself the heartache now rather than later, and move on to someone who values you.
9. He gets affectionate only when he wants to sleep with you
An obvious sign a guy is only interested in your body is that he gets charming and affectionate when he’s trying to get into your pants.
As soon as he gets what he wants, the affection and sweet talk vanish into thin air!
He may shower you with compliments, give you lots of hugs, hold hands, gaze into your eyes, and act like the perfect gentleman…all to build up your confidence and lower your defenses.
Once the deed is done, he’s back to his usual distant self. You deserve someone who gives you sincere affection and respect all the time, not just when it’s convenient for them.
Stop sleeping with him and ask him to put more effort into the relationship. You’re worth so much more than being used for your body alone!
10. He’s never available when you need him
Another clear sign he only wants you for your body is that he’s never around when you need him.
If the only time you hear from him is when he’s in the mood for some “fun”, that’s a major red flag.
When your car breaks down or you’re sick with the flu, does he come rushing to your aid? If not, that shows he only cares about your looks, not you.
A good guy will be there for you through good times and bad. He’ll answer your calls no matter what and drop everything to help in an emergency.
If he’s MIA during the mundane moments and hard times but always pops up when he wants to get intimate, it’s clear that he’s using you.
A meaningful relationship is built on mutual care, respect, and support. Don’t settle for someone who only values your body and comes around when he pleases.
A guy who sees you as an object to fulfill his needs doesn’t deserve you. Have some dignity and walk away from this situationship.
It’s often obvious when a guy wants you for your body. If you look out for the signs you’ll know if a man wants a real relationship or something casual.
Don’t settle for a guy who only appreciates you for how you look and what you can offer physically.
You’re a complete package of intelligence, humor, kindness, and beauty.
Find a man who recognizes your worth and is willing to stay with you for the long haul.
When you meet the right one, you’ll know – he’ll make you feel cherished for who you are, not just what you have to offer.
So keep your standards high, stay true to yourself, and don’t waste another minute on any guy who can’t see you for the amazing woman you are.
About The Author
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life.
As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are the most important ingredients for building a successful relationship.
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