For most women, getting into a romantic relationship signals that they could be with the one who would marry them someday.
However, men won’t always tell you if they are not planning to get married and will keep you confused about their plans.
If your goal is to settle down in the nearest future, it’s important to be able to recognize the signs he’s not going to marry you, so you won’t waste your time with the wrong person.
One of the most common signs a guy is not ready to get married is that he’ll avoid talking about deep topics like finance, marriage, kids, and parenting.
In this article, we look at some telltale signs you’ll see when a guy isn’t ready to commit to marriage.
10 OBVIOUS SIGNS HE’S NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE
How can you tell if a man is not ready to settle down?
If you’ve been dating your boyfriend for a long time and he hasn’t popped the question yet, here are 10 crystal clear signs he’s not ready for marriage.
1. He never talks about marriage
One of the most obvious signs he’s not ready for marriage is that he won’t bring it up during conversations.
For example, whenever you discuss your life goals as a couple, he would intentionally avoid mentioning the word “marriage” to show his lack of interest in the subject.
A man who is planning to get married in the future will talk about it from time to time.
He may not tell you his exact plans but you’ll know at the back of your mind that he’s interested in tying the knot with you someday.
If you’re always the one who talks about marriage and your boyfriend doesn’t seem so thrilled about it, that’s a huge sign he’s not thinking about settling down soon.
2. He doesn’t include you in his future plans
Another sign a man isn’t planning to marry you is that he won’t involve you in his plans or consider how you fit into his life.
For instance, if your boyfriend is talking about the future and only mention the things he wants to achieve, how he’ll do it, and when he’ll achieve it, that’s a sign he doesn’t see you as his wife.
A man who wants to marry you will constantly remind you that you’re an important part of his life and will include you in his future plans.
If you’re wondering where you fit into your man’s life and have no clue where you’ll be in the next few years, that’s a sign he’s not ready for marriage.
3. He tells you he’s scared of commitment
Most men have commitment phobia, but when they meet someone they love and can’t live without, they’ll settle down to avoid losing them.
On the other hand, a guy who isn’t ready for marriage will come up with lots of excuses why he can’t commit to you.
It’s either he’s trying to get a promotion in the office, it’s not the right time for a wedding, or his mom is too sick to be alone.
If a man tells you he’s scared of commitment and keeps giving you reasons why he can’t marry you, that’s a sign he doesn’t want to get married and is stringing you along.
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4. He spends most of his leisure time with his friends
Another sign a guy isn’t ready for marriage is that he prioritizes his friendships over his romantic relationship.
For example, if you make plans for a dinner date, he may cancel it at short notice to hang out with his friends and drink beer or play video games.
When a guy is serious with a woman and wants to marry her, she becomes his top priority, and he’ll spend quality time with her regularly.
He won’t abandon her to be with his buddies all the time and make her feel like a second choice in his life.
If you feel like your boyfriend values his friends more than you, that’s a clear sign he’s not ready to settle down.
5. He hasn’t introduced you to any of his family members
A major sign a guy is ready for marriage is that he’ll want you to meet his close friends and family members.
Now, he may not introduce you to his parents until he has proposed but you’ll know some of his siblings and relatives.
Once a guy brings you into his inner circle, it’s a sign that you mean a lot to him and he wants to tie the knot with you someday.
However, if he refuses to show you to his loved ones and keeps looking for ways to prevent you from meeting them, you should be concerned about his plans for you.
6. He gets upset when you talk about getting married
Does your boyfriend get angry or defensive when you bring up the topic of marriage? That’s a sign he’s not ready to make you his wife.
A guy who is planning to marry you will frequently talk about your future together and the possibility of having kids someday.
When you’re concerned about where your relationship is going and ask him about his plans for marriage, he’ll try to reassure you of his undying love and commitment to you.
On the other hand, a guy who doesn’t want to marry you will get defensive or change the subject when you talk about marriage.
If your boyfriend says you’re too focused on getting married or it’s too early to think about settling down, that’s a sign he’s not ready for marriage.
7. He refuses to pick up your hints about marriage
Have you tried all you can to get your boyfriend to commit to marriage?
Maybe you’ve shown him gorgeous photos of newlywed couples on Facebook or mentioned the type of engagement ring you want, but he seems disinterested in the matter.
Another big sign a guy isn’t ready for marriage is that he’ll deliberately refuse to pick up your hints and will ignore your nudges to take your relationship to the next level.
If you’ve hinted that you would love to get married soon and your boyfriend isn’t making any move in that direction or giving you a positive response, that’s a sign he’s not ready to commit.
8. He pays attention to failed marriages all the time
Does your man often bring your attention to broken marriages instead of focusing on healthy marriages?
Sometimes when people have a particular point of view that’s different from others, they tend to look for evidence to justify their opinions.
Despite the high rate of divorce in certain countries, many men still believe in true love and happy marriages.
They also expect that they’ll find their soulmate and their love story would be totally different.
If your boyfriend keeps telling you about all the married couples who are fighting or getting divorced, that’s a sign he’s trying to validate his lack of interest in marriage.
9. He behaves as if you’re pressuring him for marriage
Another sign a guy isn’t ready for marriage is that he’ll act as if he’s being forced to get married.
For example, when you ask about your engagement ring or future wedding, he’ll roll his eyes and make comments like, “I don’t understand why marriage is so important to you” or “Is my love not enough for you?”
A man who wants to marry you will be enthusiastic about the possibility of getting married to you someday.
He may not be as excited as you are about it, but he won’t behave as if he’s being pressured either.
If a guy seems to be dragging his feet about tying the knot and acts as if you’re the only one who wants it, that’s a clear sign he’s not ready for marriage.
10. You feel he’s not ready to settle down
When you want to know where you stand in a relationship, it’s best to listen to your instincts and pay attention to your feelings.
How do you feel about the future of your relationship? Do you think your man is planning to marry you someday?
If you feel it in your bones that staying with him is just a waste of time and that he may never be ready to marry you, it’s a good idea to listen to your instincts.
When you have a gut feeling that your boyfriend isn’t ready for marriage, there’s a high chance you’re going to wait a long time for him to take your relationship to the next level.
When you’ve been dating a guy for a while, it’s normal to want to know if your relationship is heading toward marriage.
Most men won’t tell you directly that they are not going to marry you, so you have to watch out for the telltale signs yourself.
One of the most obvious signs your boyfriend is not husband material is that he avoids talking about marriage, and any time you mention it, he’ll get angry or defensive.
A man who wants to marry you will be open to having discussions about the future and won’t try to change the subject when you ask about his plans for you.
If a guy doesn’t include you in his future plans and acts as if you’re forcing him to marry you, that’s a clear sign he’s not ready for marriage, and you’re wasting your time with him.
You shouldn’t have to beg or pressure a guy into marrying you. When a man truly loves you, he’ll be happy to spend the rest of his life with you.
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About The Author
Jennifer Dagi is happily married to her best friend and the love of her life. As a relationship coach, she is passionate about helping couples build healthy and happy relationships.
She strongly believes communication and intimacy are important in building a successful relationship.
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